When somebody blows you off...

I'll probably send you a pm later, I called my mom this morning and was kind of poking around to see if she'd said anything yet. I don't know if I'm going to get an answer but I'm trying in a roundabout way rather than say anything myself, since me saying something myself may make it worse. I don't really care what the reason is at this point, I just want to know whatever the problem is. I can't even guarantee I'll fix it, I probably can't, and the person probably knows that, so it may be why we're at this impasse. This is the beauty of a place like this, for every crappy situation, there are people who offer help or a perspective that can make it better. It's so hard to see out from within something but others looking in from the outside get a good view of the big picture.

BTW I tend to be the sort to confront things because I WANT things out in the open so they can be solved. There is nothing to be gained by hiding something or 'pretending' it isn't a problem, when you do that, then it just gets worse and no amount of bandaids or anything of that nature fixes the root problem.

I'll fill you in a little because when I originally posted, I was just trying to get something off my chest and I wasn't very descriptive. I don't think it's a matter of not liking people, I think it's a matter of somebody is holding a grudge of some type for a reason I have no idea of - so I'm in the dark here, I hadn't even seen them in at least 5 years either. Most of the time when someone doesn't LIKE somebody else, they come to this conclusion based on a bunch of factors, not just 'deciding' they don't like somebody based on who they are with or whatever. I guess if that's true that's an extremely immature lousy way of deciding. Example: you have a little brother or sister, you were extremely close while growing up. They even lived with you for awhile, then you moved away, etc etc. For some reason, they got really angry with you for moving away, more than you realized. So now... they don't seem to want to talk to you, and they are also treating your spouse and kids the same way, EVEN THOUGH THEY HAVE NEVER MET YOUR SPOUSE AND KIDS BEFORE. Isn't this rude to treat somebody you don't even know like crap just because you can't get over whatever hissy fit you had years ago? Anyway, it's very hurtful to be on the receiving end of something like this, and I can tell you that I wouldn't act that way first toward anybody. I don't see why somebody would think it's okay to do that. You're honestly right that it says more about the other person and you're also right that they probably are not worth it, but it still doesn't make sense and that's what I'm after anymore - an explanation that makes sense because it sure as heck doesn't make sense right now.

i hear what where you are coming from. but you know what i would just leave it alone. i know it doesn't makes sense. i know it may hurt. but the most important thing is you and your family. what is important is the love and support of your family. yeah it doesn't make sense, but they is a choice they made, and that is a choice they will have to deal and live with. so love them anyway, and go on with your life.

My spouse wasn't sure at first, and I did ask my sister what the deal was, but there's something going on, and it's 'off' enough that I don't think we're the only ones who have noticed. It's one of those things where other people notice tension even if they don't know why.