waiting for death is the only thing he does

United States
September 6, 2008 8:14am CST
i know a person that isnt working he cant work. it drives him nuts. he wants to work so bad but just not able to. he gets so bored. he lives in the country so with the price of gas cant really get out. he has been at home for 6 years and well hobbies are just not doing it. he always says well i am awake just waiting for death. he cant sleep at night so he is alone at night time with no one up and moving about the house. i worry about him. i know how he feels though really. the internet doesnt interrest him anymore. video games bore him. painting he just doesnt want to do. with money the way it is he just cant afford hobbies. he wants something to do he wants out of the house. he just cant afford it. i feel so bad for him.
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13 responses
@Thoroughrob (11748)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Is there any way that he can get into a government apartment and get out of his house? It sounds like he is depressed and needs to be around some people. It is sad when you get to be in that situation.
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• Singapore
7 Sep 08
He have to finds himslef, the inner self. Like doing yoga, praying or even sitting down quitely to have a quiet time alone by himself. So that he can have a mind of peace to know what he really wants, maybe he could break the barriers himself to go out of the house and go somewhere walk around to see the world around him.
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
7 Sep 08
easy can you go to freecycle.com and tell your story and post whatever they need and see what happens i feel i should do something but what?
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@annjilena (5620)
• United States
7 Sep 08
wow.i feel sorry for him and i don,t even know him do he have children i feel if he has children they should come and spend time with him sometimes we forget our elderly not realizing when we get older we need them the most we have used our usefulness up by the time they get grown.unless you are financially stable to take trips are whatever you like it can be sad.you know what check into some community groups a few days a week he could get out and meet other people his age.this is a time to take interest in our elderly i wish i could do something to help.
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I would ask if there is a church nearby who could visit and maybe help take him places. Would it be possible for him to meet some people that live nearby that he could chat with? Has anyone checked to see what really interests him or what he might like? Does he have any family members who can look in on him and visit? There are web sites where he could make friends and chat with others in similar situations.
@joski15 (108)
• United States
6 Sep 08
It seems like hes lost is will to live u could help mabey just being nice to him and saying u care about him.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
6 Sep 08
That is too bad, I feel for him. Since he lives in the country, why don't he try growing vegetable to sell. This way, he will generate a small income, as well as see people when they come by to buy his veggies. If this is not a good idea, maybe he can get a work at home job, I know you said the internet is not an interest for him, but maybe he can use it to find a job. I do not know his disability so it is hard to suggest things that he can or can not do. I wish him well, and hope that he does not give up completely. There is hope at the other end of the rainbow.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
6 Sep 08
I think that persons behavior is no longer normal. He might lost his sanity if he keeps on doing that. Lack of sleep and unable to stay out to interact with other people are just one of the sign of a unhealthy mental behavior of a person. I think he needs some psychological help. Perhaps he had lots of frustration in life that he is not anymore interested in doing things that will make him productive. He needs his family members or anyone close to him that will encourage him to seek help for his condition before its too late.
• United States
6 Sep 08
he is not mental. he wants to get out but cant afford to. he has a wife but she works and she has to have sleep. they have kids but kids have to go to bed at night. he doenst do anything during the day to get tired. he is just stuck at home. he cant sleep at night. he goes to bed about 4am and gets up around 10am. he gets 6 hours of sleep. he is just really alone and he feels like that is all he is doing cause he cant afford to go any where. cant afford hobbies. kids are teenagers and well they spend time with him alot of time when they are not doing school or sleeping but he is still alone alot. he doesnt want a pet either. that is another mouth to feed so he just cant have that.
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@twoey68 (13651)
• United States
1 Apr 10
What about a job he can do...I don't know his physical limitations but something like building simple birdhouses, starting starter plants to sell, building small wood toys, there are all kinds of things he could do that don't cost much to start, can be done either inside or outside and would give him something more to focus on. [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
• United States
19 Sep 08
Wow! Poor guy I can understand how he feels really, but having a wife and family I agree he should go see a doctor about this and do something to make himself feel better, and for his family you know? You as a friend can only do so much, continue to be there, but do try to convince him to seek professional help; Depression effects us all in so many different ways and its a terrible thing to try to "get over it alone" you really just can't; I wish him well, I do hope he gets some help in one way or another, how's his wife dealing with this? how's it effecting his kid/kids??
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
Who is that person? Are you sure he can't find anything to do? I also feel so bad for him.
• United States
7 Sep 08
Find ways to get him out of his house. He is wasting his life if he does not get out and do something.
@Nana530 (286)
• United States
6 Sep 08
Well easymoney, I feel bad for him too. But I really think he is severely depressed. Sounds like the classic symptoms to me. He really needs to see a doctor and talk to them about what is going on in his live. To be home for six years is just not normal and indicates that something is wrong somewhere. I really, really think he needs to seek professional help. I really hope things get better for your friend. Nana