Chaging Names : Anyone, Any advice
By SomeCowgirl
@SomeCowgirl (32189)
United States
September 7, 2008 7:08am CST
My fiance and I are going to be getting married in or around a year and I would like to change my last name before our marriage. For reasons I do not wish to say, I do not like my last name. I do not want my fiance's last name to be marred because it sits beside my own last name. I could take my mother's maiden name, but her last name could also be a male's first name. Therefore, using that may look a bit odd, and people who do not know me would think that my middle name was quite strange. I am not sure what I would or want to do, and I may just keep my middle name and attach it to my last name. An Example would be Bessie Lou Hienkin, Lou being the middle name and Hienkin being the last name. However, I just thought that I might could use my middle name, my mother's maiden name, and my fiance's last name. I would have four names, but I would be proud of the names I have. I am not sure though as that is long, and my fiance even thinks that. There is one possibility, and that would be to change my middle name to Libra, I would obtain part of my middle name, and part of my mother's maiden name. Yes, before you say anything, I know that that sounds absurd. I have debt, not very much only a few hundred, but debt nonetheless. I am sure I can pay that off before our marriage, but if not, would the name change (besides taking my fiance's name) prove to be difficult as I do have that small debt?
Any and all contributions would be greatly appreciated and received.
3 responses
@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
7 Sep 08
With debt problems, I do not know whether the name has as much effect as the social security number. People change their names every day, but your social security number follows you all of your life. And even with a name change, creditors know all kinds of loop holes to find you. Even if they went online and searched for you by your maiden name, they are able to track you because your new name will become an AKA. They are like roaches, hard to get rid of, and always come back to you.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
7 Sep 08
I do not wish to get away from the debt, I don't run from the government. I am just wishing to know if the small debt would cause me to not be able to change my name. It's small but the government could think I was trying to run away from it. I appreciate the response though.
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@sudalunts (5523)
• United States
7 Sep 08
Sorry, misunderstood your situation. I do not think a small debt would interfer. And forgive me if you thought I was implying that you did not want to make good of the debt. Without really knowing your situation, I shouldn't have responded.
I hope everything works out for you, and congratulations on your upcoming marriage

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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
7 Sep 08
It was just a small misunderstanding, and it's okay. I know that sometimes words can be lost on the internet, so it's all part of a days mylotting. I appreciate the congratulations.
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
28 Oct 08
Wow...talk about confusing LOL When I got married the first time I was 16, I never used his last name...I simply kept my same first, middle and last name...after we split up I still used my own name and, in fact, even Social Security had me listed by my maiden name and not my married which was fine by me. When Hubby and I got married I use my first name, middle and his last for most legal things...banking, Social Security, leases, id's, ect. but I still have things in my maiden name as well...paypal, library cards, my voters card, ect. Some things just never got around to be changed. I don't really like Hubby's family but I love him so I took his name when we married. I guess I still keep some things in my maiden name as a tie to that part of my life.
The best thing I can suggest is to do what makes you happy. If you don't like your current last name, drop it after your married and use your husbands last name...that would probably be the easiest and you wouldn't have to go to court for a legal name change.
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
29 Oct 08
Well I am still not sure what I am going to do, but that is one of the things about planning the wedding I am least worried about. I might just drop it and not go through all the court and legalities, and your right it will probably be the easiest to do. I suppose as long as your legal stuff has been changed then small things like you suggested library cards And paypal don't matter. I appreciate the response! I'll see what I'm going to do, but as of yet I'm still not sure.

@Angelwriter (1954)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I'm a little confused. Is there a reason you can't just use your fiance's name when you marry? Wouldn't the simplest solution if you don't like your last name to just go by "Your First Name/Fiance's Last Name"? I don't think you even need to bother about money or debt, since women taking their husbands last names is still a common practice. Or is it that you specifically want a name that connects you to your family as well as your future husband's?
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@SomeCowgirl (32189)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Okay, your getting it and then you don't.. that's confusing. The whole debt issue comes in to play with the fact that to get your name changed, well sometimes debt comes into play as if it's a sum of money, the government might think you are trying to run away from it. I don't have that much debt. I do not like my father's last name, I love my fiance's and will take it. However, there is a thing with my last name which is my father's. I think I will use my first, middle, and fiance's last name. I am not sure if I will even change it, as well, I can easily just use first middle and fiance's last name.
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