How far would you go to save a falling relationship?
By eve301345
@eve301345 (658)
Philippines
September 7, 2008 7:08pm CST
There are friends of mine I knew are prepared to do everything to save their falling relationship. There is this one actually says she is prepared to be a mistress just for her BF not to leave her and there are some as well they are prepared to forget everything and beg to save the relationship. How people can do this I don't know. Some actually keeps going to mans house begging to come back which I see as totally unreal. I think if the man left you you should let him go and if he comes back its up to you to accept him or not but never beg or do something stupid to make him stay.
How about you, would you beg, become mistress etc to save a relationship? How strong you are to handle the pain and fight the sadness in your heart?
Thanks for your time Myloters
Happy Myloting
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22 responses
@underdogtoo (9579)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
There are some things that are not worth saving. Even life has to end and to prolong it artificially is pointless. It is better to let that life go and have the next one. A relationship which is failing should be allowed to die so that other relationships can be formed.
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@phayeth (519)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
i would do all the things to save a falling relationship.. but never beg the person to come back.. co'z its insane.. its like ur obsess with the person.. or ur just afraid to move on,..with ur life.. if that person come back to me.. then mybe we destined to each other...
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I would not go that far because if it is going to happen, then it is going to happen, but I will do what I can to make sure that my relationship with my boyfriend never ends because I would not want to lose a man who is as good as he is to me. I have dated, met, and been friends with men who do not treat women right, or who really stink at relationships, and I vowed to never get involved with men like that because that is all that the women in my family have ever had. If it is a man who treats a woman well, I can see women fighting tooth and nail to keep it from going sour, but if it is a man who is cheating and who does not care at all, then why bother?
@BrianKomeini (276)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
respect. self-respect actually. as long as doing something will keep you from touching the ground and be trampled upon, do save it. but if it will degrade you too far then it's about time to think about yourself. love is love, and love is not about being fair - there will always be a time when someone is doing more. but if there is something that will show how you really love a person, it is letting go of someone who isn't happy with you anymore.
it will always break us, but it will break me even more to be with someone who felt happy with someone else.
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@joy4you (641)
• India
8 Sep 08
I would do everything possible to keep the relationship together but would also expect my partner to do the same or atleast make some efforts at making it work. By doing everything possible I mean first identifying why it is failing then work together to solve the problems. If you have to do all the loving and you partner is not interested you should ask/discuss it with him/her and let them know that it is putting your relationship at risk, if they are still not interested then it is not worth it.
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@marshiemallows (1010)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
i guess if that happens to me when i grow older, i'd definitely beg my partner to stay. i want my future children to experience what i've experienced as a kid which is having a happy family. i don't want to deprive my children of having a father because i really think it's hard to grow up that way.
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@kean28 (226)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
i'll do whatever it takes to save our relationship but as far as being a mistress goes i for one would never do it...i can never imagine myself being someone else's mistress...there are a lot of reasons for a relationship to fail but if i will still got the respect on me to be left then i'll fight for it but if it means my dignity to fight for it then i'll just move on and let him be..
@dawnald (85135)
• Shingle Springs, California
8 Sep 08
If you go and beg and do stupid things to hang on to somebody who is determined to end the relationship, all you are going to do is push them away. I have been on both ends of that...
@sweethomecatring (1563)
• India
8 Sep 08
I have very sweet relationship with my wife living a happy life. I am not selfish so to ruin my life by harassing and killing sentiments of my partner. In our society such occasions as mentioned by u do occur but sparingly and not as a routine. I do not like or do not such cruelty against woman. Some time cruelty is also done to men and it is rare or rarest.
@bamakelly (5191)
• United States
8 Sep 08
It might depend on how much time is invested in a relationship. You might realize that you really have something worth saving depending on how strong the relationship was. Was there a lot of ups and downs and have there been a lot of trials to get through together?
Some things are easier to save than others. If two people are willing to get together and work it could be worth it. Remember that it takes two to make something like this work.
@animeniak (425)
• United States
8 Sep 08
If the person I used to love is really special, then maybe I would do everything I can to get her back... that's only if i really don't want to lose that person. but if our relationship was not so long, and that person wants to end the relationship w/ me, then go for it, i won't stop her.. it's her decision, not mine -_-;;
@balancekeeper (3)
•
8 Sep 08
If i loved her........i would go through the fires of hell...traverse the vast dessert and climb the highest mountian just to say i love her and that i did it for her....you can't beat anything like love...when its trus...nothing comes close
@derektheman9 (5)
•
8 Sep 08
i went a year trying to save a falling reationship it sucked because i really loved this girl. but i made a mistake and i tried everything to get her trust back there nothing i could do she changed and it was my fault it sucks but its hard because i thought i could save the reatiionship. At least i tried to save it.
@nickventere (1420)
• Zambia
8 Sep 08
Well, I'd say it depends on the status of the relationship. Like for my marriage where we have 4 kids together, I would take that factor highly and go as far as begging. Cardinal would be to make amends and be more open to dialogue so that whatever is the reason for breaking up is worked out amicably. That way, I guess, it would be beneficial for both parties, as well as for those that depend or are directly affected by our relationship, such as kids.
@mari123 (1861)
• China
8 Sep 08
falling relationship means far distance, if the relationship lose my heart,i will leave her ,beacuse I am not a strong person but do have limits that I will not tolerate!!
i know i am a good lover and i have to give my all but i am not selfish for others feeling., i mean i can't afford to ruin family just to get the guy and to with the guy whom i love in a wrong time.
@ashar123 (2357)
• India
8 Sep 08
Its just a matter of self respect that I feel one should not start begging for someone to come back and live his or her life with you. But as it is famoulsy known that:
"Love is Blind"
People who do everything to keep up there relation are normally so much attached or you can say really fall in deep love thats why they consider doing anything.
@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
8 Sep 08
Men are like taxi cabs - there is one on every corner. If he walks, let him. You'll probably end up happier anyway. God knows I have been.
@iceblizzard (749)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Love is a wisdom of a fool and the fooley of the wise. There are this people that really have a huge faith that one day everything would go smooth as they want it to be. They believe that love can be taught. But for me, I'm a kinda of come what may type, I don't force the issue, I believe things has its own reason for leaving, that reason might be hard to understand but you just have to believe that God takes away when He has something better to give.
@nicecedron (235)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
i actually had an experience with this one. blinded by love as they say. i even knew he was unfaithful but i still chose to hold on. i loved him still and pretended that i wasnt hurting and things would get better soon. all my friends were against me but i didnt listen, i kind of believed, hoped and prayed that he would change for me but it didnt happen. at some point, i guess i became tired and just let it all go. im happy it turned out good for me :)
