When will you tell others that you are pregnant?

@youless (112091)
Guangzhou, China
September 8, 2008 9:02am CST
Some people don't want to tell others that they are pregnant. I am different. When I was pregnant, I told my friends and colleagues. Since I was pregnant, so I expected others to know it and be consider for me. Such as I may not carry heavy things, I may feel sleepy, I may vomit etc.
11 responses
@maximax8 (31055)
• United Kingdom
10 Sep 08
I told my mum and my sister the day after I did a pregnancy test and it was positive. I was four weeks pregnant then. I didn't tell my friends and other people that I was pregnant until the end of the first trimester. My neighbor noticed I was pregnant at 20 weeks and I kept it hidden until then. I had an upsetting time at 36 weeks pregnancy when I found out my baby boy has spina Bifida. He is now a happy little 15 month old with a bright smile. The time I felt most tired and sickly was at 9 weeks pregnancy, before the time I told most people that I was pregnant.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Sep 08
Your boy must be so adorable now. Enjoy this special moment with him
• Israel
10 Sep 08
I didnt tell untill at least the 4th month and even then I only told my siblings and close friends. i had alot of complications all the way thru and didnt want 2 say anything just in case. Of course since I was so sick everyone knew anyway but they were too polite 2 say anything 2 my face:) Also I carried so small that some people didnt realize, like when we told a neighbor after I had the baby he said when wetre you pregnant??
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Sep 08
I am the opposite. I had a very big belly when I was pregnant.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I actually waited for a few days before telling others i was pregnant... but of course, i immediately told my husband... because we were both waiting for that to happen... other than for him... i wanted to keep the information to myself first... because i wanted to have a great secret... something that made me so happy... but i told others when i could'nt contain it anymore...
@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Sep 08
When people know I was pregnant, they would be very careful to me
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
9 Sep 08
For my first it took us so long to get pregnant that for a while I didn't think it was real and I didn't want to tell anyone until I had an ultrasound. For my second we told everyone after the ultrasound also but the response that I got from alot of people wasn't want I expected and it made me feel down so after telling some I just told people tell who you want I dont' care. Everyone kept saying AGAIN but I was already 28 and didn't want to be pregnant while I was in my 30's. Even though we are still undecided if we should have another one and I am already 29 so I may be in my 30's for the next one. 2 is pretty hard not sure if I can handle 3 kids lol.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Sep 08
I think two children are already so perfect for a family
@bluishrose (2289)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I would tell everyone right away that I'm pregnant! I consider it as blessing and also for people to be more considerate with me. i can ask for small favors with them hehehe. One should always feel happy and excited so the baby would turn out fine.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
10 Sep 08
You are quite right
@lynnchua (3412)
• Singapore
9 Sep 08
When I know that I'm pregnant I will tell my friends and colleagues. Some Chinese said that we can't tell till the baby is stable like after three months. But I don't really mind about it.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Sep 08
You are right. Some people do have such a custom here, but I am not of them. I like to tell people as soon as I know this news.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
8 Sep 08
[i]Hi youless, When I will be pregnant, I am sure I will be announcing it to all of my relative and friends !lOL! I have know co-worker before who hide it because she wasn't married yet and she was not comfortable telling people about it, gradually, people notice her and that year, she got married![/i]
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
9 Sep 08
Thanks for your response.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
8 Sep 08
Good evening, youless. I think that others can still figure out even if you keep it as a secret because when it is time, all of the symptoms as a pregnant woman will eventually reveal. Of course, it will be more helpful for you to be more cared about by your family and colleagues if they know this. But what would you do if you accidentally got pregnant? Would you consider giving birth to the unexpected baby coming on the way or adopt abortion? It seems that many women adopts either way based on their own needs and situation. Nice discussing with you, youless. Good night.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Sep 08
Tell you a secret, in fact I just vomited once when I was pregnant
@chrysz (1602)
• Philippines
8 Sep 08
Pregnancy is something you cannot hide since you're tummy will grow bigger but it does help telling other people about your condition so that they will be considerate. In my case, during my first pregnancy, I was not sure that I was pregnant because I experienced nidation, I thought I was having my normal menstruation which only lasted for two days but after two months not having heavy flow, I conducted selftest and then I went to an OB for validation.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Sep 08
I had a colleague and she told me in the past when she was pregnant, her colleague didn't know it at all since she was very fat. So when she was pregnant, nobody noticed that she was pregnant. And she told everybody about it when she nearly labored her baby. Everybody was in shock
• Canada
8 Sep 08
I know a lot of people who don't tell that they are pregnant until after the 1st trimester. Most people hide it incase they miscarry and don't want to have to tell people. Me personally, I told everyone right from the beginning. If I miscarry then I miscarry. It's sad but it's the body's way of saying there is something wrong. I didn't tell people so that they would be more considerite to me, I was just too excited to hold it in. Plus because it was unplanned, I needed my friends by my side to support me in my decision to keep the baby. I'm the worst person at trying to keep things from people I love.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Sep 08
Although our action is the same, but our purpose is different
8 Sep 08
With my first child, I told people right away. I had been trying to get pregnant for some time when I got pregnant with him. However, with my second I kept it a secret from everyone but my husband and my boss for about 4 months because I was afraid to miscarry.
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@youless (112091)
• Guangzhou, China
8 Sep 08
People can see you are pregnant when it's about 4 months because of the growing belly.