arranged marriage?
By jhl930
@jhl930 (3601)
United States
September 8, 2008 4:26pm CST
i have heard about this still happening and i guess that its good for them if it works but i don't think i could see myself doing this because when i finally get married i want it to be someone that i really love and care about and know that i want to spend my life with and that will always be faithful and things like that to me...and its just a lot of important things that i would look for but one big thing is i would have to love them and i don't think that i could love someone that someone else chose for me, so what about all of you do you agree with me? thanks for taking the time out of your day to stop by and read and review my discussion and i hope that you reply to my discussion and i hope that you all had a great day and that you have a great night tonight, once again thanks for taking the time!
8 responses
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I agree, it should be your choice.
Mine was an arranged marriage of sorts (I am in the US) My family knew of the perfect guy for me, when I was just 18, his family knew I was the perfect girl for him, we met, we dated, fell in love, and got married. 17 1/2 years later, we are still very happily married. Our families knew what they were doing after all!
Everyone needs someone to make them miserable for the rest of their lives 
just kidding of course 
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
9 Sep 08
This is really common in other countries...I haven't heard alot of it being done here in the US. I don't think I'd want to have an arranged marriage either...could you imagine if you got a gross guy/girl? Or someone who yells all the time? No way, I'd rather pick my own...then if it doesn't work out there's no one to blame but me.
[b]**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~ [/b]
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
9 Sep 08
Hello jhl. Speaking of my marriage, my wife and I were introduced to each other by my father's colleague. My mother-in-law met me first before my wife came to see me in my father's colleague's home. lol. My mother-in-law was and still is satisfied with me. Then I went to her house another day. Then we started to fall in love with each other. So I think that this can be considered to be arranged marriage, probably? But of course, if either of us did not like each other, there would not be possible for us to get married...
@sunkissed (4330)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Well I am like you, an arranaged marrage would never be for me either. When I am to get married to a person, it will have to be with a person that I chose for myself. I would have to be physically and mentaly attracted to him. And if I was not truly in love with this man I would never marry him. I can do bad by myself. I was married to a man for 21 yearsthat I thought I loved at first, but found out later it really was not love. i got a divorce 18 years ago. A loveless marriage is a living hell.I am very capable of choosing my own mate, I need no help.
@MrsRich723 (602)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I never really gave this much thought because I didn't think this still went on in this day and time; however, if that's what peoples custom is and that's what pleases them, then I don't see anything wrong with it. At least you and your family knows everything about the person's family whom you are marrying into versus someone you pick yourself. Although, it kind of takes the gamble out of dating (since you don't) and hoping you pick the right person. Whether the person you've been arranged to marry is the right one or not, their it. Something to think about.
@joy4you (641)
• India
9 Sep 08
I never really had time to persue a relationship or go looking for love, but one thing I did do was to save all that love for when I would get married. SO now here I am in an arranged marriage and pouring out all my love for my better half and every moment of it has been worthwhile, both the good and the not so good. My suggestion would be, don't start with 0% love and wait for it to grow, instead give it your 100% and take it to 200. Every relationship requires a certain amount of open mindedness and willing to adjust and should be done by both partners. Happy living, happy mylotting.
