What kind of housekeeper are you?

@newtondak (3949)
United States
September 8, 2008 4:56pm CST
Do you have to have everything tidy and in place before you leave for the day? Are you obsessed with having everything spotlessly clean at all times?....or do you go for the more "lived in" look? I have to confess that we go for the "lived in" look. While our home is clean, it does get somewhat cluttered from time to time - especially when we are busy. I prefer to be outside doing things with the hubby and will often pass up my housework to do other things.
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43 responses
• United States
9 Sep 08
I like a neat and tidy house, only because I'm raising children who will one day jet rocket out of the house and look for a mate. I don't want them to be the crutch that their mate has to work around in order to make a good relationship great. I'm might be a bit on the clean side but my wife doesn't mind. She didn't make me this way but she likes it that she doesn't have to tell me to pick up my clothes. I still spend time with the kids and we do tons of stuff but clean up time is done with loud music instead of loud yelling.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I have found, from experience, that whether or not a child grew up in a clean house or a cluttered house has nothing to do with which they turn out to be. I have also seen that they will sometimes change over time. When my daughter first married and moved away from home, she kept her home very clean (now I'm not sure if it was her or her husband's doing) but now that they have 10 year old and 6 year old boys that have lots of activities, they're not as particular about the house - it's more important to spend the time with the kids.
• United States
9 Sep 08
I am a horrible housekeeper! I have to force myself to tidy up and clean in order to maintain a suitable home for us to live in. It is sometimes hard to admit, but I could easily live in a mess and have in the past.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
It bothers me more than it used to - basically because I really have no excuse now - I don't work outside the home and I don't have children still at home - just me, my husband, and a couple of dogs (and right now, a litter of kittens).
@marciascott (25552)
• United States
9 Sep 08
As long as I stay by myself I am a good house-keeper. My Hubby was a pig. He thought I was his Maid.
@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Not good! I tell my husband and my sons (one now married, one away at college) that household appliances are not "gender specific" - they will work for men or women!
@quinnkl (1667)
• United States
9 Sep 08
The lived in look is definitely my house! I am not fond of cleaning, but am also not fond of living in filth so I do clean. But I don't spend hours a day sterilizing the house. There is too much living to do to put cleaning first in my life!
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I totally agree! I was raised on a farm and we live on a cattle ranch now, and it is virtually impossible to keep things spotless!
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@Bluepatch (2480)
• Trinidad And Tobago
9 Sep 08
I just must not have dirty dishes in the kitchen sink. My landlord is even worse. You must not have little pools or bits of water anywhere - kitchen counter or bathroom. My apartment, between the landlord who does piss me out, and myself, will drive a novice mad.
@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
We rented a house once where the landlord was very, very picky about the house. She had lived there previously, and everything was painted white - including the basement - and she washed the windows every week.
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@odwitt (112)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I've always liked things very neat and tidy, but since I've been married, I've just learned to deal with a few things lying around here or there. I guess that'll make it easier in a year or two when we start having kiddies! It's stupid to fight over or to get miffed about socks left lying under the coffee table. :)
@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I tend to feel that if my spouse can't pick up his own socks and put them where they belong, then it isn't too important to him whether they're laying on the living room floor or not - so I leave them until he picks them up!
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@angelface23 (2497)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I am pretyt busy with work and a two year old so I try to clean once a week. Usually the weekends when there's not alot going on. I guess I do the lived in look. I need to dust bad and vaccuum too.
@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
The kids are grown, but we do have pets in the house and I have to keep on top of cleaning up after them.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
8 Sep 08
mine has more o f a lived in look, more like an abandoned look, I am disabled and it is so hard to for me to do housework now.
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
9 Sep 08
there is only so many visits that are free though, that is the problem, and I cannot afford anything at this time.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
That's a shame - they come up with a good services, but then they want you to pay for it - you'd think they'd figure out that if you could afford it, you would have already hired someone to do it! Sometimes these programs just don't make sense!
• United States
9 Sep 08
They don't give enough free visits to disabled people that live alone. I don't know how they they think just a couple of visits are going to help. They act like okay we gave you these few visits now you can handle the rest yourself. I live with my 83 year old Mother and I don't know how she would make it by herself. She is almost deaf and can't wash dishes or have her hands in any water like that to clean because of skin cancers. There is no help available for the elderly either.
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• United States
9 Sep 08
My house is not spotless, but it's not messy, either. One thing I have to do is make my bed every morning. I can't stand it if it's messed up and I'm not in it. My biggest problem is keeping up with the mail. It seems to pile up on the kitchen table quicker than I can go through it. I don't have to sweep or mop much, mainly dust every week. One of my most favorite quotes is, "A clean house is a sign of a broken computer."
• United States
9 Sep 08
I love that quote, HHDavid!
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Yes, junk mail does tend to mess things up! For a while, anything that had a postage paid envelope enclosed - I would fold it all up and put in in the envelope and send it back to them!
• United States
9 Sep 08
I need to start doing that, newtondak! Maybe they will stop sending it!
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I used to be obsessed with having it clean all the time but in the last couple of years I have become a slacker. I guess I found out that I have better things to do with my life then clean this house 24/7! So it now has that lived in look! LOL
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Luckily, my husband believes, as I do, that we would rather be spending time together doing things we want to do, and not being anal about our house. It is clean, but can get pretty cluttered at times.
@marciascott (25552)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Hi JillHill Just thought I would stop by to say Hi, I hope all is well with you and your family!
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Hi Mariascott! How are you? Thanks for sending a hello my way! Hope you and your family are well too!
@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 08
Hi there's only my husband and me living in a 700+ sq ft apartment so it very easy to keep things organized and clean. I work from home as a music teacher and a tupperware star consultant. I don't open a tupperware shop so I use my kitchen as a model showroom to my customers. So its very well organized....and by keeping it that way has earned me lots of sales.. I am also quite freaky about mopping the floor and scrubbing bathroom walls. Can't stand grime and slime on the bathroom walls and seeing strands of hair on the floor. I don't sweep the floor then mop. I use a microfiber mop and mop our apartment floor. Its time saving as the mop will pick up whatever thats on the floor. My husband is also an organized person but he says that sometimes I get to freakish with the floor!!!
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
My daughter has very long and very thick hair and when she was at home, I was always having to pick up her hair off the floor - not her husband complains about it! I always told her that she shed more than the dog!
@eagle_f15 (2052)
• Malaysia
11 Sep 08
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@enavnai13 (509)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
i'll admit that i don't clean my room sometimes but when it gets so untidy and i was not the one who did it, i will definitely go crazy... my temper will rise and i tend to keep on saying bad words.. i just hate it when people leave their mess and i do the after care... but when i clean my room, i make sure that it's really clean. even a single thing not properly placed will drive me mad...
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
My son has had to deal with this with his college roommates - it is very frustrating when the person you are living with is not a "good match" for your housekeeping style.
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
that's true... that's why i prefer to be alone in one room.. but you really have to make adjustments when you live in a boarding house.. i have experienced to live in a boarding house also and it wasn't really easy.. good thing my room mates were ok.. they are not as disorganized as other people are...
• United States
9 Sep 08
My house has the "lived in" look. I have clutter, I have dishes next to the sink waiting for me to wash them, I have clothes in the closet that need to be washed, too. I'm doing better at my housekeeping skills now that I did from 16 to 30 years ago. I was awful at keeping house. I'll not go into it though. At my job, though, I'm a neat freak. I cannot stand going to my assigned register and find that no one cleaned the scale area, the belt that the items are put on, the top of the turnstile, and NO BAGS put on the spindles so that I can put customer's items into them. I do MY share of all that. Why can't the previous cashier do that, too?? Anyway, I'm just comfy the way my house is. I'm not ashamed to have company to come into my house now. But I did not have anyone come into the house 20 years ago....that's how bad it was.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I was the same at work - I am pickier about public areas than at home. I think when it is a common area, people should be more concerned about the cleanliness.
• United States
9 Sep 08
I agree. Now we have to have some hand sanitizer on hand and use it if we have had especially messy items to go through our checkouts. Or to use after we blow our noses. Kleenex is not enough of a barrier for our hands anymore.
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• United States
9 Sep 08
I can't seem to get anything done now a days. I have a 3 year old grandaughter that is very energetic. She will help pick up her toys but then they are right back out and she wants to pick them up again. So, our home has the lived in homey look. Of course, I do try to keep it clean but is definitely lived in. My 83 year old Mother says to let her play and then she can help pick up her toys that is what she used to do.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
It is much harder when you have small children around and all their toys. The house will still be there when the granddaughter is grown - take the time to enjoy her.
• United States
9 Sep 08
I am glad that somebody else feels the same way that I do. I know that one day Savannah, my grandaughter, will be all grown up before I can turn around good. Time flies. It seems like yesterday thse she was just a litle baby and then the house was clean. I try to enjoy each day and know that the housework doesn't grow up, it will be there.
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
When I was younger I make sure everything inside and outside my house is spotlessly clean and all in order.I always teach my children to make their room always in order.I hate to see things cluttered.But now that my movements are limited I tend to fix everything slowly.I have to be contented to what energy that is left with me.I can't do everything I used to do.Cleaning the house,cooking washing ironing and sometimes some carpentry work.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I used to think that I wanted a really big house with a lot of room, but the older I get, the less space I need - and want to clean!
@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
11 Sep 08
Same here.Now that my movements are limited I want to transfer to a smaller house with a small garden.It's hard to maintain a 4 bedroom house now that my children have their own family.
• United States
8 Sep 08
I do the cleaning and the cooking just day to day stuff.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
Do you like your house spotlessly clean or do you prefer the more "lived in" look?
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• United States
9 Sep 08
lived in look
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
8 Sep 08
I am much like you. I don't mind the lived in look. Besides.. life is much too short to fret over the condition of ones home. My computer desk is cluttered.. you know "avalanche warning" cluttered. One more thing stacked on top and it will all hit the floor. The house itself is clean.. If someone were happen to stop by, I wouldn't be horrible embarrassed. I have a clean freak friend whom I sometimes envy. Then, If I want to spontaneously go somewhere.. she can't go because she has to fold a load of clothes, or the to of her doors need to be dusted.. I got her to leave her house with 4 dishes in the sink, and she could NOT enjoy herself. She worried about those dishes the whole time we were at a theme park with no kids, no hubby, just her and I. She couldn't have fun. I found that to be pretty sad.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I have always put doing things with my children and taking off to go with my husband whenever he wants ahead of whether my house is spotless or not. If something were to ever happen to any of them, I would hate to think that I put doing laundry over spending time with them.
@dizzblnd (3073)
• United States
9 Sep 08
I understand that feeling and wish others could see it too
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@thedaddym (1736)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Our house is clean but lived in. Every Friday it is spotless but by the end of the weekend it is back to looking lived in again. With three kids it is kind of hard to keep a spotless home.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I don't know how people with kids can possibly keep a spotless house - they must confine them to the garage or something!
@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I am a housewife and mother and prefer to keep my house tidy if I can. Even if I worked outside of the home I would act the same way. I don't mind a lived in look it is just the clutter and things scattered on the floor and upset me. I want things in an orderly fashion and I like the house to be clean before I go out anywhere so I don't have to mess with it when I come home.
@newtondak (3949)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I have so many times that I am called to help outside on the ranch that I may be in the middle of cleaning something and have to leave in a hurry, so things often don't get completely done at one time.
@mflower2053 (3227)
• United States
9 Sep 08
We go for the lived in look. I like how you put that. I clean what I can and don't stress about what I can't get to. I just do it the next day. With 2 little kids I can't always clean. They like to come behind me and pull out while I'm cleaning so it makes it hard to keep everything clean and in its place.
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@newtondak (3949)
• United States
9 Sep 08
My children are grown and gone from home now, so you would think that I could keep my house tidier than I do, but now I'm finding that I like to get out and do all the things that I couldn't do when I had small children.