violent reactions ?

@ayenacsi (911)
Philippines
September 9, 2008 2:58am CST
How open-minded are you? How do you feel when you see two young female who are so obviously in a relationship? You may say that you don't care. It's their life and they're obviously so happy together. But how do you really feel? What if it was your daughter or your sister? How would you accept it? I feel awkward when I see female couples together but that's just me. I don't have anything against them. It's also because I just don't understand them.
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@liquorice (3901)
9 Sep 08
I like to think that I'm pretty open-minded, and I don't have a problem with seeing two women in love. Lesbians and gay men are just humans like anybody else, so i don't see any reason to treat them any differently. I genuinely believe that if two women are happy together then they should go for it. Love comes in many shapes and forms. And I would feel the same if it were my daughter or my sister. I'd just want them to find someone who they loved and who loved them. This is what I'd want for all the people that I love.
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• Guatemala
10 Sep 08
Actually I have a personal experience... and it was my little niece and her "young friend", at the beggining it was shoking for me seen my little niece which I have a great relationship with, but is her life and how I really felt was curious, curious of asking her why does she was doing that, but not in a despective way! Just curious.
@ayenacsi (911)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Thanks for making this your first post. Appreciate that you took the time to respond to this discussion. Welcome to Mylot! Have fun !
@sid556 (30997)
• United States
10 Sep 08
It really doesn't bother me at all. I'd so much rather see that than 2 people that are miserable together.
@lizard211 (240)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I don't care. I know quite a few lesbians and my brother is gay. Personally, I am grossed out by it. I once hung out with a couple of gay guys alot. They were hilarous - my only thing was that they couldn't be loving all over each other in front of me, cause I would puke. However, the same went for me - they had no problem with that because to them seeing a straight couple making out grossed them out.
• United States
9 Sep 08
I would seriously have no problem with this because it is their life. My cousin, who is a lesbian brought her girlfriend's to our family functions of couple of times, and we were all fine with it. My brother, he used to be incredibly well groomed, and I used to wonder if he was, and actually, I would have been fine with it if he was because he is my brother. I have seen plenty of Gay and Lesbian couples together, and it is nothing new to me anymore.
@underdogtoo (9591)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I don't think it is anybody's business what people do unless it invades your rights. It bothers you and that is perfectly your right to be bothered but being bothered by it only extends up to your own skin and mind and does not include any space beyond that. Doing anything beyond that might be intruding or invading their rightful space. Nothing is easy, I guess.
@andak2007 (3229)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
This happened a year ago..i was in a mall waiting for my husband,i was seating in a wooden chair and in front of me two young ladies...at first i never give them much attention ..i really thought that they are just two ordinary friends but when i saw their gestures and touching each other...i really observed the two of them as i got curious...i am open minded about this kind of relationship also because who are we to judge them..we never really know what its like to be like them and what they have to go through in their life...but just the same i feel awkward because im a female and i don't feel the way they feel...i could not just imagine myself being in a romantic relationship with another girl.
9 Sep 08
hi open minded is differnt from relationship. You can be very open when u express ur love. I feel when two females are in relationship that thier infactutions. I cant put it as they are in love. All i accept that they are intrested as their body and thier mind sets are coinciding together. If u see the lesbian relationship its not new. The olden heritage sculptures shows that lesbians prevailed in ancient times and even having relationship with animals too. But all dependson the mind and the way we see. If u feel its not good but other feel its good. So whatever may be we should judge based on empathy not sympathy.
@geekyjock (371)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Honestly I would prefer not to have lesbians in my close family. But If that's the case, I think i would accept them with open arms. But of course acceptance will always be something to spend time with. No offense but it's a fact that it will be a concern if someone suddenly opened up about his/her preference. But nevertheless through time and effort I think I would accept whatever she is. Unless she's doing something that would make me embarrassed such as vulgar PDA or something like that. And as long as she/he respect me, my presence that she/he wouldn't do something that can make me feel uncomfortable in front of me.
@rocker21 (2717)
• India
9 Sep 08
Well we always dont present ourselves to the things which get beyond this thing called "NORMAL" but somethings are more than normal which are UNIQUE , and those can be just accepted without a tail of conclusion behind em!
@rosedust82 (2070)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
I am a very open minded person and I really don't get bothered seeing two females together. As long as they don't do too much PDA, I'm okay with that. There are some people (and I'm not only talking about people of the same gender, but most couples on general) who can't keep their hands off of each other. It makes even a grown up like me embarrassed. All the groping and kissing is public is not what I call wholsome. If I ever had a daughter or a sister who wanted to be in a relationship with a girl, I'd probably have to sit down and talk to them seriously. If they do decide that that is what they really want, then I'll let them. It's their life. I can only guide and try to give the best decisions but I cannot and will not dictate how they should live their lives. If they make a mistake, at least they know that it's because of their own doing.
@4my1nonly (352)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
we have different kind of reaction in that situation, for me it doesn't matter, i have a lots of lesbian friends, its ok for me if i found out that my sister be like them, it's ok as long that she's happy and time can change also we can't tell and we can't hold their life... and as long as i know that my sister is in good life i'll be happy for her.... She has her own life...
@rsa101 (22047)
• Philippines
9 Sep 08
Of course the initial reaction is to feel indifferent of course that is not the normal way each of us see a relationship should be. But I never frown on them or look down on them I truly believe that it is their life and they are the ones who knows where they feel happier about themselves and that is much more important than other opinions. Well if that happens to my daughter definitely I would feel sad of course. That is not the way I want my daughter to grow up. But if i will feel resentful about that is a different thing I would definitely acceept who she is and would just hope that she would be happier in the path he takes in life.