Do you answer the phone/door if you don't know who it is?

United States
September 9, 2008 9:32pm CST
I don't usually. If I don't recognize the phone number, I figure they will leave a message if it is important. If I don't know who is at the door and I'm alone, no way am I opening it. I don't like to be bothered by salespeople or charities (I donate to the ones I want to thanks). How about you, are you so curious that you have to answer the phone/door or do you think it is dangerous?
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@dawnald (85130)
• Shingle Springs, California
10 Sep 08
yes during daylight hours. At night I look out the peephole first...
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• United States
14 Sep 08
We do have a lot of people in our neighborhood that stay at home and are nosey so hopefully they are all looking out for one another. I need a peephole!
@winzpc (2354)
• Indonesia
10 Sep 08
I think I'm belonging to the curios person. I like to know who is it. If I receive the phone from strange people, I will answer it and ask what he/she want. But I'm more careful with the strange people which come to my house. I won't open my door first, but I will ask him/her, what he/she need? Keep post happy myLotting...
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• United States
14 Sep 08
I think we are all curious for sure, or maybe just nosey a little too.
@MissGia (955)
• United States
11 Sep 08
i don't answer my phone or door if i don't know who it is or if the number does not look familiar. If i don't give my number to someone than i don't want them to have it. i don't really even like to talk on the phone, it's just something you have to have these days.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I don't give out my number either, so I don't get too many calls especially on my cell. If it is in my area code I might answer it, if it is an 1-800 number no way!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
10 Sep 08
[i]Hi kimberly, I also don't answer unknown callers, I have tried in the past and it's hard to quit from a forceful salesperson..LOL! When I am along also, I don't open the door, I will check it and when I don't recognize the person, I will try my best not to make any sound! lOL![/i]
• United States
14 Sep 08
Yeah last time I talked to a salesman I ended up spending hundreds of dollars on meat and it ended up not being so good that we threw out a lot of it! Of course he still comes by trying to sell us more!
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• United States
14 Sep 08
really? wow! that must be a great lesson kim! ANyway, I am sure he was so happy to make that sales with you!
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
10 Sep 08
No, I don't. I don't even open the door to people I do know! But I'll blame that on how I was raised. LOL When I was growing up I was taught never to open the door for anyone, not even family members. If they weren't expected prior to my parents leaving, they weren't allowed to come in, plain and simple. It didn't matter who they were. It's funny, there was a time my sister and I were home alone. One of our cousins had just returned from Hawaii. He stopped off at our house to give us a gift from his trip. But when he knocked on the door my sister and I wouldn't open the door for him, though my sister did ask who it was. At first our cousin was upset that we wouldn't let him in, but he did finally understand why we wouldn't. So he asked if he could give it to us through a window instead. I didn't want to, but my sister (who is a couple of years older than I am) won out and opened the window due to the fact that our parents never said we can't open the window while they are gone. Not very smart of my sister, but nothing bad happened so it had a happy ending.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Oh and as far as the phone thing goes, I normally only answer it if it is someone I know. Otherwise they can just leave a message.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I think your parents raised you well. I tell my kids too that even if they know who it is to not open the door unless I tell them so. I had extra bolt locks installed high up just so that they wouldn't do it. I can see them letting in a neighbor and here I am in the shower or something. Thanks for sharing your story!
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I really don't think about danger. I don't answer the phone if I can clearly see it is a telemarketer unless I am in the mood to deal with them which is almost NEVER. I actually have never spoken to even one person that did not get irritated with such calls. I do answer my door always. I absolutley feel instantly irritated if it is a salesperson or bible thumper. Now they are invading my personal space and not only that...they "think" they are right in doing so! I am always polite to them but I do not like the time it takes to decline them...don't like feeling "bad" for declining them....i get it, they are doing what they "think" they have to do. It is just a all around bad way to push a religion or a product. The nicer they are, the worse I feel when I send them on their way. Why in the world does anyone feel that it is right to just go up to someones door and interrupt their time and invade their space to peddle a product or a religion? Even if I see them coming and choose not to answer...I am not impressed with the interruption in whatever I am doing to just wait for them to go away. If a product such as Avon or a religion is what you are peddling...put your pamphlet in my mail box or mail slot and i will call you if interested.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I never turn down the kids either. They are usually doing fund raisers for a good cause and even if I don't want the product, I will donate.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I really don't know why people would try to sell door-to-door, just because I'm at home doesn't mean I am not busy and can stop everything. I will open it for kids because they are usually selling something for school and I try to support the neighborhood kids. If they do see me but I don't want to open the door I just ask them to leave a card.
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• United States
10 Sep 08
I will answer the phone no matter who it is, but I will not answer the door unless I know who it is.
• United States
14 Sep 08
The phone is much safer, I just get annoyed when people ask for donations. I just tell them I already have causes I give to and I am not interested and hang up.
@texmama (62)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Not usually. I usually screen all my calls with the answering machine. I don't like talking on the phone so only do it if the person calling says its important, lol. As far as the door goes, I only answer people I know. No ifs ands or buts on that one!
• United States
14 Sep 08
That seems to be the consensus around here!
• India
10 Sep 08
well It depends on situation. Generally I do not receive unrecognized phones but yes I open door even if its a stranger...
• United States
14 Sep 08
I guess it is too bad that we live in a world where most people are afraid to answer the door if they are alone.
@GemmaR (8517)
10 Sep 08
I will always answer the phone whether I know the number or not. There's no harm in talking to someone. I won't always open the door though. I think it depends on whether I'm at home alone or whether my family are at home with me at the time they knock on the door.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I guess it depends on my mood with the phone but most of the times it's salespeople and the same ones call over and over and never leave a message. Oh and I had some collection agency calling for someone I don't know and I kept telling them that person is not here, leave me alone etc and they still call. I just stopped answering.
@lilcee (2703)
• United States
10 Sep 08
Hi, I'm like you. I don't answer the phone if I don't recognize the number. I let the answering machine get it. As for answering the door, no to that too. I peek out the window and don't let them see me. Lucky for me tho, I don't have many people come to my door. I live off the main road and no one comes here. If they do, my dog barks at them.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I do love having a dog that barks! Maybe it annoys the neighbors sometimes, but it makes me feel so much safer.
• United States
10 Sep 08
I usually don't. Especially now days with ID caller, I never answer the phone unless it's someone I know. The doo, I hate to answer the door. Again, I usually don't but sometimes when I peek outside to see who it is and they see me...then I feel like I have to open it. It's usually a soliciter and I wish I hadn't opened the door.
• United States
14 Sep 08
Yeah I am too nice to slam the door on their faces. I hate to say it but if they ask a question like "do you own your house" I say not which usually gets them to go as they are selling some service to an owner. I just say leave me a brochure and I'll give it to my landlord.
@Sarah1108 (310)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I never answer the phone if it is not for me. Even if i know who it is and i know they are calling for someone else in my house i will take the phone take a message. i dont like answering the door either. we have a lot of kids that go house to house and sell things i never answer the door. part of that is because i have 3 dogs that are not trainned and love to rush the door if anyone knocks on it. they are old dogs so i cant teach them new tricks
• United States
14 Sep 08
We do have a lot of kids that sell stuff, which I don't mind. I usually tell them I already bought some because I try to do so for my direct neighbors and friends kids first. Of course you can never get enough Girl Scout Cookies!
• United States
10 Sep 08
I always do i dont really care who it could be or is. always nice to talk to people and maybe meet someone new. I dont usally answer the door cause they could come in and kill everyone if i dont no them. but the phone i really dont care cause nothing bad can happen on the phone.
• United States
14 Sep 08
Nothing bad cvan happen but salesmen make me feel bad and I don't know why I should. Yeah I care about all the people dying or different diseases, but I can't give to all of them!
• United States
10 Sep 08
If you live in a big city you may need a peep hole in your door! Caller ID allows us certain priviledges on answering the phone. As Far as I go, I live on family land- about 1/4 mile off the road and can see anyone that pulls into my yard way before they get here. I don't use caller ID. Once I read that strangers we entertain just might be angels... So, I choose to be open to the unknown and fear very few things.
• United States
14 Sep 08
that is a good way to think about things and live. I guess I am just paranoid. :)
@my2boys (821)
• United States
10 Sep 08
I do not answer the phone if i dont know who it is. I usually answer the door because i cant see who is there before opening it. It may be someone that i know or not.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I lived in a house once where it was hard to see who was at the door and that drove me nuts.
@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I dont answer the phone nor open the door unless i know the person. Not just because i am avoiding salespeople or some charity organization. But nowadays it is already dangerous to just open up the door when you dont know the person. Who knows he could be a thief or a killer. I always look at the window first and when i didnt know the person i ignore it. I dont wanna be in the situation where in your life is in danger because of being too nice to other people ,no one can tell a bad person from a good one by just looking at them.
• United States
14 Sep 08
It seems I hear of more and more robberies happening in the daytime. You can't be too safe these days.
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
if im with someone i'll look at our gate but now open the door.. it might be a bad person :)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I will answer the door usually if my husband is here. If someone is at the door and the kids are home they always look out so whoever it is knows sommeone is here. They are always hoping it's a neighbor kid wanting to play or something! If I see someone coming I tell them not to go to the door and keep quiet. That is not always easy to do!
• Israel
10 Sep 08
I sometimes answer the phone but never the door if Im home alone. If my husband is home I will though.
• United States
14 Sep 08
That is what I do too!
• United States
10 Sep 08
If someone knocks on the door and I am not expecting anyone, more often then not, I will peek out a window and try to see who it is before I answer or ignore it. As far as the phone goes if I am not sure who it is I will actually answer the phone with my hand slightly over the receiver and say "hello" and if I do not immediately recognize the voice I will cover the receiver and pretend that I can not hear them. My time just seems too scarce to spend it talking to people I do not know or feel like dealing with.
• United States
14 Sep 08
I can't imagine anyone wanting to do telephone sales, that has to be tough. It seems most people said they wouldn't answer the phone or would hang up if they knew it was a salesperson.