How will I communicate with my bestfriend who was pregnant by my ex?

@hgwyneth (120)
Philippines
September 9, 2008 11:52pm CST
My bestfriend and I has a wonderful relationship...before. We shared many happy memories. She treated me as her elder sister and even her family treated me as a member. For four years, friendship ran smoothly until such time she left our province and I on the otherhand, have had a relationship with a man whom I thought I will spend the rest of my lives. Unexpectedly, our relationship didn't go so well. Harmonious relationship lasted only for 10 months. Still young, he wanted to explore more and enjoy life but asking me to wait for him so we'll end up with each other still. I hated the idea. With unsettled relationship, I went in the city to find work and to find myself. There my bestfriend and I met again and our bonding continued. After a month, she went back to our province. After a week, she called me up telling me that my boyfriend was courting her. With my pride, I told her it's OK 'coz I'd broke-up with him already. Perhaps, she just waited me to say that 'coz before her 2nd week of stay there ends, my boyfriend informed me she has accepted him and they both hoped everything's just OK with me. I didn't know what I felt that time. I just decided to focus myself in my work. Till I learned my bestfriend was pregnant. My ex-bf didn't face the problem. He left her alone. My bestfriend left our province. Her family didn't know she's pregnant. Until now, I didn't communicate with her. I don't know what will I say. Please advise.
4 responses
• United States
10 Sep 08
Wow. That's quite a situation. Almost soap opera-ish; sorry not the time to joke. So anyway, I think the best thing you could do is to just be supportive from a distance. And that's only if you still feel like your friendship is somewhat meaningful to you. But I can understand how you might not want to be near her. And no, saying 'I told you so isn't the case here. Just be supportive if she ends up asking you for help in some way.
@app3ls (63)
• Malaysia
10 Sep 08
So sorry to hear that happened to your friend. Anyway, i think you should approach her. She needs friends support & comfort at this time. Even if you don't know what to say to her, your presence & companion will mean a lot to her. Accompany her to go through this very moment. Forget the pass, and look forward.
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
Hi for me try to talk to your Bestfriend. I think she need help and encouragement. even though we know the fact that the guy who run away from his responsibility is your ex bf, you still need to face it. I know it hurts but think about your best friend too. She is facing her problem by herself. Now is the time to help her and be open in each other. Just learn from that mistake and keep moving forward. I'll pray for you guys. I don't know you but I know that I can help even in just like this respond. We have a big God to call. He love us so much. Don't hesitate to talk to him. That's all for now.
@ehlsie (730)
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
I think you must talk to your bestfriend.In this time she really need someone who will understand her situation and she needs someone to lean on...Friendship is more important this time. forget for what she had done...I know, she not intention to hurt you.She just fell inlove with your ex boyfriend. At least they consider your comment and let it you to know rather than they having a secret affair for long. She still consider your feelings. SHe really need you now.I know she wants to talk to you...Give her a chance to explain and save your frienship. Don't ruin your frienship because of one guy... happy mylotters!