in a critical decision, wud u stand by with ur husband or go with family.......?

India
September 10, 2008 9:35am CST
there are many important decisions in our lives....n for a married woman the decision making is quite a big problem...when the decision is such that the entire family is on one side n ur dear husband on the other... am in such a situation. my husband wants to leave the current job, which is a high paid one..and start a business of his own..for he thinks he is capable of doing business...but the problem is that both my and my husband's family is against it..becuase they think its a wrong decision to leave a good job like he is in...am so confused as to with whom i have to stand by... normally i have to be with my husband for am confident about his capability...but when the whole family against us, if anythng happens wrong, i fear, all will curse me for not demoralising him from doing business....i dont knw what to do..... please advise me.........
2 responses
• Philippines
10 Sep 08
At a time like this, technically, you have to stand by ur husband. But then of course, you also have a mind of your own. Only you knows the capabilities of your husband. The whole world is on a crisis right now. Why dont you two talk it out first as a couple, as a family. Take note of the pros and cons, weigh the effects. Maybe, you can suggest to him to first start with the business, like maybe take a leave from work and start out the business and if later on if it's doing good, then that the time that it's safe to leave the job and pursue a new career as an entrepreneur. You and your husband is now a family esp if you have kids to consider. Your own families cannot dictate to you guys how you will run your life. Stand on your own, if later the business fails, then so be it, that's also a part of putting up a business but why think of the failure ?You haven't even started yet in the first place. Pray for strength ang guidance. goodluck...
@heaven11 (1159)
• United States
10 Sep 08
yes its always a hard decsion but you did say those vows and that means in gods eyes you need to stand by him right or wrong he will learn ow if he thinks he can do a bussiness he needs to start it slowly stay at his job that away he still ahs finances to put toward that bussiness and he can save so when he does feel his bussiness is getting slow yal have a svaings account to help pay the bills and feed the family i too have been ther we started a landscaping bussiness that did great for the 1st year and then there was a drought and it slowly droped on top of the econmy people realized getting there lawns perfossionlay cut was a luxury and started doing it theirselves so what im saying is just be sure you have money put up for the hard time