unwinnable argument

@dawnald (84078)
Shingle Springs, California
September 10, 2008 10:44pm CST
Try and convince a child with autism that reduced fat milk is the same as the low fat milk he gets at McDonald's. Unwinnable argument day 3 ends with child going to bed crying. Thank goodness the milk will all be gone after tomorrow and we will be back to fat free milk.
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@irishidid (8716)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I certainly feel for you. They don't like change or what they perceive to be change. I know as well as you do some things can't be helped and as much as we try to prepare them for changes things happen. I used to get calls from school when my daughter was younger to take her out of school. I always went and said to the teacher "What did you do?" LOL Turns out they usually changed something in her schedule without preparing her for it. Now at almost 21 she's learned that things do come as a surprise once in awhile and sometimes life throws a curve. Not to say she doesn't throw a good fit over it once in awhile!
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
oh my goodness I hope mine arent' still doing that at 21!
@irishidid (8716)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Trust me, it's nothing like it used to be. Thankfully it is only on rare occasions and she usually comes out of it really quick. We had an incident not too long ago where she threw a fit. I told her I wasn't happy with the way she was acting and that I wouldn't put up with it and walked away. For the first time she came to me, told me you're right mom and apologized. For me that was huge moment. Like "YES!!!"
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@BriNbai (912)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Ok this argument has nothing to do with the fact that your child has autism.Ive had a similar argument with my nephew because I brought home a different brand of milk and it had a different cap color.He would not drink even though it was the same low fat milk.I had to run back to the store and buy one more gallon lol..so yes I feel your pain
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
It may not totally be the autism. His twin sister is incredibly stubborn too!
@lilybug (21145)
• United States
11 Sep 08
My son does not have autism, but when my daughter first started drinking milk he had a fit over my buying Whole milk. He did not want the fattening milk. He wanted healthy milk. He grew up on 2%, but I had started buying 1% because he was getting to be a little chunky. Now he is drinking about a gallon of whole milk a week and is too skinny. Kids!
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
oh well, one more day lol
@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I noticed that there was a tag that said "autism" on here. Can your (?) child read? If not, why mention what type of milk it is?
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
Yep he can read. This is a good thing mostly. Except when his dad buys the wrong kind of milk. lol
@irishidid (8716)
• United States
11 Sep 08
sedel, these kids are smart some of them really really smart and you can't get much over on them. I have to be careful of things I say to my daughter. She can remember things from when she was in diapers.
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@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I didn't mean to imply that her son is stupid. I was just htinking that if he wasn't able to read, and argumwent could have been avoided by not saying the milk is something different than he normally gets.
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@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
14 Sep 08
I can understand that dealing with children with autism is not an easy task. My son has been diagnosed as an aspergers which is on the other side of autism. I understand that both autistic and aspergers like a pre scheduled plan of the day and are edgy if things don't go according to plan. As parents we have to support them and continue to love them. Though sometimes you get really tired.
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Sep 08
Yep sometimes you do!
@Foxxee (3653)
• United States
11 Sep 08
LOL! My son has a blanky he takes all over the place, he is almost 3 && when we wash it we have a second blanket for him because he has to have it in his hands at all times! My point is, the blankets look the same, but he knows they are not the same, he knows one is newer then the other && so on... so this ends up being a melt down until the original is clean && ready... Autistic children hate change... doesn't matter if it's a small change or not... I feel you.... :)
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@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
Dad is going to relent tonight and let him open up the 'right' milk even though the 'wrong' milk isn't finished! Hooray!
@auntiedis (165)
• United States
11 Sep 08
Awwwwww, bless him! You'll look back on this and laugh later. My son is autistic also, and he would ask for certain meals and then not eat them. I finally realized it was because his food was touching. I purchased dome of those cafeteria trays, and we're golden!
@dawnald (84078)
• Shingle Springs, California
11 Sep 08
yeah mine asks for things and then won't eat them too, but then his sister does the same thing and she doesn't have autism!