To Be Sneaky? Or Not to be Sneaky? That is the question.
@LykeWhoaItsAmber (42)
United States
September 11, 2008 6:40am CST
Alright, so I've met this guy. He's completely single, not gay, and fantastic. I know everyone isn't perfect, and I'm sure he has his flaws, but I'm still looking. I've heard stories from mutual friends that he's really selective in who takes an interest in, so I should feel lucky. Now my best friend, just got dumped without warning after four years of dating and seeing what she's goin thru, I don't want to risk, going through that so here is my diabolical plan, which still doesn't guarentee that won't happen to me, but still:Create a phony myspace, and message him about his cars, strike up a conversation - as if he's single and eventually get around to asking if he'd like to go out somewhere, now keep in mind me and this guy have already went out three times now. That or I was going to get a friend to do it? So is this completely immorally wrong, or no different than testing the waters before you jump in?
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@rina312 (296)
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11 Sep 08
Hi..I say don't waste your time testing him. You're in doubt just don't be serious with him. Just go with the flow. Don't expect too much of him as if your life depends on him. If you do, then if anything goes wrong of course you'll feel devastated and you don't want that. Trust is the key to a true relationship. Sounds like you don't trust this guy, unfortunately im afraid you never will. Hope everything will go fine though. Best of luck :)
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@LouieWpHs04 (4554)
• United States
12 Sep 08
Guy's aren't as "unknowing" as you might think. I've had a few girls try to get their friends to hit on me at random and in most cases predictable times & I knew exactly what was going on. 
Doing something like this there is a high chance that he'll catch the drift of what's really going on. It's always a good idea to do a backround check, yeah. The problem is how to do it right but then again. This isn't a job we're talking about but a person. If you're already shaky on whether or not to be trusting him is it really a good idea to get into a hardcore relationship with him? 
Maybe the best thing to do really is to hold off until you know him a bit better. Ask him questions, go out places with him just you and him, hang out with his friends with him. The more comftorable he is with you that means usually towards the better. Plus, knowing who he hangs out with can give an idea of the kind of person he is.
Either way, g'luck! Hopefully things work out for ya', 
Doing something like this there is a high chance that he'll catch the drift of what's really going on. It's always a good idea to do a backround check, yeah. The problem is how to do it right but then again. This isn't a job we're talking about but a person. If you're already shaky on whether or not to be trusting him is it really a good idea to get into a hardcore relationship with him?
Maybe the best thing to do really is to hold off until you know him a bit better. Ask him questions, go out places with him just you and him, hang out with his friends with him. The more comftorable he is with you that means usually towards the better. Plus, knowing who he hangs out with can give an idea of the kind of person he is.
Either way, g'luck! Hopefully things work out for ya', 
@wickikitty (532)
• United States
11 Sep 08
The way I feel about this subject is totally different. If you don't trust him this early on then whats the point? If your way to suspicious for your own good then why don't you become friends first then date? Always being suspicious of your partner can ruin a relationship even if nothing has ever happened. I wish you luck but it doesn't look like its getting off to a good start. Happy mylotting.
@Zlistal (35)
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11 Sep 08
What's the worst that can happen? and more to the point what is life without risks. You might as well tell him how you feel and seeing if he wants to go out again. The worst he can say is no, and then you can just get on with your life
