How do you feel about people who brag about abusing somebody/something?
By mommyboo
@mommyboo (13174)
United States
September 11, 2008 10:02am CST
We've all heard it. The guy at the office party who makes fun of his coworker, someone you see occasionally who sidles up to you finally and admits that last year they got mad at so and so and stuck sleeping pills in somebody's drink.... the person that admits they came back to their car and shoved open their door to hit the car next to them because when they were getting out, that person had done it to them - but of course they did it after the fact when the person wasn't there to confront them. Does it depend whether you feel the recipient DESERVED it? What if you don't even know them?
I guess this would be cowardly abuse - how do you feel about this? Do you DO things like this? It could even be happening here. How is this best handled? Before you say 'let it go', consider the sneaky nature. If it goes on, it only gets worse.
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5 responses
@samtaylorskykierajen (7976)
• Canada
12 Sep 08
I love the way you called that cowardly abuse and I believe that is exaclty that is what it is . You do no hear them bragging when the person is around about the deed they did so they really are cowards . I do not do this to others even if I have a problem with them . I do not like to be on the recieving end of someone laughing and making fun of me and would not feel right in doing this to someone else .
I believe it is best to handle this by walking away when others start to brag about the deed they did or to bring up some achievement they did to others . It always stops the bragging when no one is listening and it also stops when you start talking about some achievement they did and you get others to start agreeing with you about how they did really well at something .
If you have something to say to someone then say it to there face . Being a coward makes you a loser in my book !!
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@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Sep 08
This is proof that bullies are cowards, pure and simple. If they weren't, they would not have a need to bully people, to seek out as victims people who are smaller, younger, less accomplished, or disabled in some way so they always know they have the upper hand. It's pretty sad, and I see this behavior all the time.
That's good advice you have given, I will have to remember that in the future. I get pretty mean if someone in a group starts bashing a friend though, and I am amazed when people STILL do it. I let them know in no uncertain terms that my friend will know what was said - because I share with her or him. I wouldn't want to walk into a group of piranhas unprotected, and I won't let a friend do it either.
@Chevee (5905)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I really don't have any respect for people that do this to other people. That is the coward way out to me. If I want to get back at a person I want to do it face to face.
I do try do away with feelings like these, being human I do have these feelings sometimes, I also have a conscious.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I try to do things face to face too, or at least just between me and another person. I hate go-betweens and involving other people who have no reason to be involved. Usually too many cooks spoil the meal so I prefer to be the only one in my kitchen lol.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
11 Sep 08
if someone slipped some pills in my drink, i am calling the cops. if someone hit my car with their car door i am calling the cops. no one deserves any kind of abuse for any reason, ever. life works in such a wonderful way. what you put out there into the world is just what you get back.
@mommyboo (13174)
• United States
17 Sep 08
I will venture to say I put this out here due to something that happened at a site and I was trying to see what people might think about it. Just like someone might ding your car door without you knowing and then brag, there are people who slam others here or use the ratings thing to their advantage and others' disadvantage 
I was thinking maybe people might read between the lines a little bit.
I was thinking maybe people might read between the lines a little bit.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
15 Sep 08
I don't do it, and I don't like seeing it being done.
If the person who does it comments it to me, then I have my say either he/she likes it or not, if they don't, there isn't much I can do. I might warn the other person, I might talk to the sneaky one but in that case it really depends on who they are etc.
I find that many people are not confident enough to confront others and sometimes they try to get back at them by doing stuff like that. It is never acceptable though.
@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
12 Sep 08
i try to ignore them.. although it was hard when my dad bragged in front of me to my uncle how he beat the crap out of me at a restaurant and how after that i was the perfect kid in public etc..
