he passed away already...:'(

I did answer your discussion about your late boyfriend before. I am so sorry to hear that he had passed away. When did he pass away..? Do find the courage to move on, my friend and do not despair. Maybe there's a true blessing behind all this.

i think you should give a second chance to you life.On the other hand you can do some maditation to calm your mind,think about the beauty of life and try to give your life another dimension

I am so sorry for your loss. I wish this was something you did not have to experience. I understand your feelings, I lost the love of my life who is now in Heaven with the Angels. I wish you well.

I am so very sorry to hear of your loss, yellowhipon. You've awarded the best response here, to somebody very deserving. I couldn't have put it any better. My husband passed away very suddenly, after a brief illness, going on fifteen years ago. He passed away in October, so this is always a difficult time for me, as I reflect on his passing. I don't dwell on it anymore, as the passage of time is a great healer, but still he deserves to be remembered always. So does your boyfriend, no matter how many years go by. When I was going through the immediate devastation of what happened, there were those who said 'very inappropriate things,' to me. They likely meant well, but shouldn't have really said anything, in those cases. Don't let 'anyone' tell you how to grieve, or how much time it should take. There is no correct time frame for this, as everybody is different. I was also told, that when somebody invited me out somewhere (soon afterwards), I should go even if I didn't feel like it. This should be balanced with time spent alone, as the alone time is something 'we' would like to avoid, but is a necessary part of grieving. I wish you all of the strength and courage to move on, when the time is right for you. Just make sure you take enough time, to figure out what you want to do with your future. Take care.

I am so sorry to here about your lost I rember your post well i was the one who had a boyfriend gotten aids though blood transfosion well what i did was cry alot then I would write my feeling down an did alot of talking so if you do need someone to chat with I am here

I understand exactly, last month I lost my brother 90 days after lung cancer was found. I know what you mean about the grief. Is there a grief management group in your community? They can help. I worked very hard trying to earn money on the internet, the frustration of that helped. But what helped the most is this little phrase which was suggested by a grief management article I read. It said make postits and place them where you will read this several times a day the Phrase is as follows. If I accept loss as my lifelong companion how will my grief change? I know this sounds strange. it did to me. But I did this and I really staarted thinking about what this really means. About a week later I woke up and realized that me extreme grief had disapeared. I don't know how much the phrase helped or if it was just the passage of time. It can't hurt to try this. ope it helps you. Please let me know

I am so sorry for your loss. And I am sorry I am getting to this post 5 days late.All I can suggest is to find some hobby that you enjoy.Maybe there is something you have always wanted to do, go for it. Just take it one day at a time. Follow Your Bliss. Take care.

I'm sorry to hear about this.I understand what you feel right now.I lose my family and it was very painful for me.No one can help you except yourself.You know what are the things that would cheer you up.Keep yourself busy and avoid being alone.Go to bed when you are really tired and sleepy so that you don't have time to think about those things.I hope you can recover soon.Take care!

Woah. I'm sorry to hear that. I really dont have any ideas. Sports and work keeps me occupied, maybe you could try a new sport or something. Or if you're not the sporty type, maybe myLotting will help.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I'm very sure that he is a brave man who have had fought long and hard to win this battle. No doubt that he had lost the battle in the end, but remember life is all about the process, and not the end results. Remember him in your heart and never do forget him. What I am going to suggest is not for you to avoid the unhappiness and the painful memories that he might evoke in you, but rather to face it face on. Only when you are able to face up to the truth that he is gone, and you can smile at the memories that he had left behind, then it will be the time whereby you have truely moved on. Face your pains bravely just as how he had done so for the past 5 months. Take out all letters or photographs that both of you have shared. Reflect back on the memories of the past between the both of you. Smile because it has happened, laugh shout cry it all out. And when time comes whereby you can look at his photos with a smile on your face, then you know that you have moved on. Well, take care okay and I will be praying for you. Cheer up!

first I feel sorry for what happened to you, for sure it was terrible to live such a situation. I think, if you have a job to involve yourself more in it at least for the first few months, it'll help to keep your mind not thinking about it, see friends if you're in the mood to do it, the best thing is anyway to be busy in somethings else..more that is possible, until you come at home total tired.. Nun

Hi yellowhipon, I give you my sincere sympathy. Your boyfriend is in Good Hands now. The first thing you do is pray to Him and ask Him for guidance. You can meditate if you want to be alone for a while, or if you want to divert your attention on to something else to have fun, call a friend or two and invite him/her to unwind at the mall with you or somewhere fun and exciting. If none of your friends are available, spend time with your family and do some household chores. Read a good book, preferably a Bible. Go video-karaoking with a friend. Go to a beach. Travel anywhere on any affordable public transportation. Eat heartily. Watch DVD's. Try going on a make-over for a new you. Make collectibles and start collecting. Write something. Dance. Try a new recipe. etcetera, etcetera. There are alot of things to do in your life and it's really up to you on what to do next. But never forget to PRAY for guidance. Find time to heal yourself by praying to Him, and the pain inside you will gradually subside. Happy mylotting!

I'm so sorry for your loss. I suggest you try to disappear for awhile. Visit other places. Travel other countries ... just to get away from it all.

I'm sorry for your loss as well, but in order to move on you have to realize that he wasn't the only good thing in oyur life, that there isw possible another man out there who is good hearted and ready to be there for you. Yes the man you lost may have been real close to you and you lovede him so very much, but if you keep holding on it will keep you down. Everyones suggestions on here were all good. When I am sad or something I write poetry to come my nerves. It takes my mind off things. Good luck. RayAnn

bless your heart, i'm sorry. know this has been a hard time for you. get with your good friends , go out or have them over. stay busy i think that's the best thing for you. i hunt things to do in the house or wherever when i get down.find you somebody that needs your help like an elderly neighbor or whoever. good luck to you & god bless.

I am sorry to hear about your boyfriend. I am glad to see you are very accepting and it seems that you are going through the normal stages of grieving. I would try to continue with your normal routine as much as possible. I would try to lean on friends and family as much as possible to help you cope. If you are having a really bad day talk to someone or write it in a journal. Letting all the feelings flow should help you heal.

Hi yellowhipon, I'm very sorry for your loss. I know that you are hurting right now but you seen to have the right attitude towards your loss. It will take time for you to heal, but in the meantime you need to keep yourself busy with your everyday life and your friends. Continue to do the things that will keep you busy and take your mind of your loss. In time it will get easier and you will be able to get on with your life by taking it one day at a time. That's what a very special person in my life told me, and she was right!

ohh i'm sorry about your husband hun *sends big hug* at least he's not in pain anymore (like you said) maybe god needed another angel :). What do you like doing are you crafty, active or academic. Maybe start a course learn something new or take up an old hobbie that you used to love that way you will gain new friends aswell. It's going to take a long time to ease the pain but you are positive and talking about it always helps. I like to write a jounal and get my thoughts onto a page i also listen to music sing and dance when i'm feeling down. Without knowing you well it's kind of hard to suggest stuff hope all goes well best of luck.

Hi yellowhipon, I feel for you, so young and already with this experience. My heart is sad to just imaging your feelings. I hope you have strong family tides and good friends that help you carry on. Be patient with yourself time will be your best friend on dealing with the pain. Find a hobby, write on mylot frequently answer every thing that interest you, and talk of how you feel maybe will help u to move on. Here you will always find caring people who will be happy to listen (reading) your thoughts, and give you a word of hope! Blessings girl, and we are here your myloters friends!

iam sorry you lost your mate try focusing on something else