I'm totally gobsmacked because........

@scorpio19 (1363)
September 14, 2008 12:05pm CST
My 13 yr old daughter has cut her own fringe, she's just come down from upstairs and said "What do you think ?"...my jaw dropped and I still don't know what to think or how to react. On one hand I'm a little amused but a big part of me it not pleased, it doesn't look a total mess but I don't want her cutting her own hair either as I normally pay for her to get it done professionally. How would you react if your child cut their own hair ?
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@Calais (10899)
• Australia
16 Sep 08
My 8 year old daughter cut the back of her long hair just the other week..I actually just laughed at first, then I had to explain and have a talk about it..but at the end of the day, you cant stick it back on...lol...
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@scorpio19 (1363)
16 Sep 08
LOL they are funnt aren't they..true no point crying over spilt milk..or hair ! I'm over it now, it doesn't seem so bad. Thanks for sharing.
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@Hatley (164237)
• Garden Grove, California
17 Sep 08
scorpio I understand what you are saying butdont you ever have a sense of humor,are you always at odds with your daughter? didnt anyone tell you the teens are tumultous times just like the terrible twos:? and outside of me paying for my own hairstyling would you have been angry with me if you had seen how I cut my own fringe,we call it bangs in the US, myself and got it a tad too short, or would you not have laughed at me? as to how I would have reacted if my kid had cut his own hair, he did and I laughed as it was still too long for a boy, but did I make a huge thing of it, no, I picked my battles as some are not worth the fussing. chill out a bit, see the humor in things and you will live longer and happier. did my son grow up as a horrible man because I did not fight him over every thing? No, he is a fine decent man.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
18 Sep 08
I think because you have read my other discussion you are judging me on that, so no I'm not always at odds with my daughter at all and yup I did find this funny if you read the comments in the rest of the discussion you will see it was all light hearted. i'm glad you were such a good parent to your son and alls well. as for picking my battles, this one over the fringe never became a battle because I never thought it was a battle zone the other discussion again is not a battle, it's me very concerned and worried because she's stealing and trying to get my daughter to see that it's wrong, so don't use this discussion to make me out to be some horrible fighting parent with my daughter and make points that are not ralavant to the discussion. thank you
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@owlwings (41802)
• Cambridge, England
18 Sep 08
Be assured that you don't come over as a 'fighting parent', Scorpio! Given the chance, I might even choose you as my mum! (I'm a little old for that now, though, LOL.)
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@owlwings (41802)
• Cambridge, England
18 Sep 08
Well, I mean it's clear that you are fighting FOR your kids, not with them!
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@owlwings (41802)
• Cambridge, England
18 Sep 08
I don't remember if either of my daughters cut their own hair but I do remember my eldest daughter doing similar things which were designed to create waves. It is another of those attention seeking actions, really. It's no big deal, really, as you have said but it is part of the picture that you've revealed elsewhere. It's interesting that she said "What do you think?" I'm almost sure that she wanted a shocked reaction almost as if she were saying "I don't care HOW you think I'm an individual but you DO (WILL!) think me an individual, don't you (won't you!)?"
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@scorpio19 (1363)
18 Sep 08
I think that's an interesting comment..she had problems when she was younger in middle school with a male teacher..it's a long story to tell here but I've been thinking alot about it, he was suspended the teacher but odd that my daughter should now be showing this sort of behaviour..sorry I should of replied to you on my other discussion I will there too..thanks for taking the time to look into my discussions I'm appreciating all your feed back.
@owlwings (41802)
• Cambridge, England
19 Sep 08
Probably not a story to tell here, anyway. It might be that incident but I have a feeling it's something within the family.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
30 Sep 08
The teacher was a bully Owlwings nothing more or less...he was bullying the children and not sticking within the boundaries of school behavioual policy..thought I would clear that up incase any other assumptions were made about him.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
14 Sep 08
I think all young girls like to take a stab at cutting their own hair. I don't know why that is, it seems silly to me. But, I would definitely tell her that if she is going to take the scissors to her head then there really is no reason to take her to have her hair done professionally. Either that or hide all the scissors in the house
@scorpio19 (1363)
14 Sep 08
Well that's what annoyed me most, when I pay for her to have it done and she does that, so from now on I shan't bother paying for it.. I might just invest in a pair of decent scissors for her lol thanks for response and for adding me as a friend.
@fwidman (11515)
• United States
14 Sep 08
It's wonderful moments liket his that give us parents gray hair
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Well, I'm glad to hear she was 13 and not 3. If she likes it that way, I guess you can just let her keep it that way, unless it looks strange, then she will have to just figure out on her own.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
30 Sep 08
Yes Sheepie that is very true..tough if it was a mess but it's ok.. luckily.
@gemini_rose (16192)
14 Sep 08
I would just tell her that she had done a good job if it looked OK, but to be careful because it is easy to get a little too carried away and make a mistake. Something that I did many times, because I used to always be cutting my own hair and it is only recently that I have started to go to the hairdressers. In fact to be honest this last time that they did it I would say that I could have cut my own fringe better because it was that uneven it looked like I did it. Maybe she has an interest in hairdressing.
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@scorpio19 (1363)
14 Sep 08
LOL yes probably is an interest..I honestly don't know what gets in my girl sometimes, thanks for response.