I'm totally gobsmacked because........

My 8 year old daughter cut the back of her long hair just the other week..I actually just laughed at first, then I had to explain and have a talk about it..but at the end of the day, you cant stick it back on...lol...

scorpio I understand what you are saying butdont you ever have a sense of humor,are you always at odds with your daughter? didnt anyone tell you the teens are tumultous times just like the terrible twos:? and outside of me paying for my own hairstyling would you have been angry with me if you had seen how I cut my own fringe,we call it bangs in the US, myself and got it a tad too short, or would you not have laughed at me? as to how I would have reacted if my kid had cut his own hair, he did and I laughed as it was still too long for a boy, but did I make a huge thing of it, no, I picked my battles as some are not worth the fussing. chill out a bit, see the humor in things and you will live longer and happier. did my son grow up as a horrible man because I did not fight him over every thing? No, he is a fine decent man.

I don't remember if either of my daughters cut their own hair but I do remember my eldest daughter doing similar things which were designed to create waves. It is another of those attention seeking actions, really. It's no big deal, really, as you have said but it is part of the picture that you've revealed elsewhere. It's interesting that she said "What do you think?" I'm almost sure that she wanted a shocked reaction almost as if she were saying "I don't care HOW you think I'm an individual but you DO (WILL!) think me an individual, don't you (won't you!)?"

I would just tell her that she had done a good job if it looked OK, but to be careful because it is easy to get a little too carried away and make a mistake. Something that I did many times, because I used to always be cutting my own hair and it is only recently that I have started to go to the hairdressers. In fact to be honest this last time that they did it I would say that I could have cut my own fringe better because it was that uneven it looked like I did it. Maybe she has an interest in hairdressing.

I think all young girls like to take a stab at cutting their own hair. I don't know why that is, it seems silly to me. But, I would definitely tell her that if she is going to take the scissors to her head then there really is no reason to take her to have her hair done professionally. Either that or hide all the scissors in the house

Well, I'm glad to hear she was 13 and not 3. If she likes it that way, I guess you can just let her keep it that way, unless it looks strange, then she will have to just figure out on her own.