my VIRGINITY...my gift to my husband to be...

Philippines
September 15, 2008 4:02am CST
im 22 years old and still searching for the right guy, and i myself have a promise to my self that i would stay pure, untouched until the right guy comes along to my path. I just think this is the best gift i could give to my husband to be, especially that im living a conservative, community and family.
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16 responses
@maxilimian (3099)
• Indonesia
15 Sep 08
I hope your wish come true It is the best gift for the right person in your path
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• Philippines
15 Sep 08
thank you, it is indeed!!and i hope i can keep this promise.
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@deadlier (340)
• India
7 Nov 08
lol i doubt dat u wil keep this promise... =) if u happen to meet me haha jus kiddin
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
waaaaaaaaaaa!!!!i dont think so, you would be the guy i should be get off with,lol, just kidding you...all i could say is try me!!your charm might not work on me..lol
@deadlier (340)
• India
8 Nov 08
i might not try u ...ask why
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
WHY??!!??lol,hmmmm...you should have good answer with this!!
@rkrish (3003)
• India
7 Nov 08
Hi Carmela, a nice thought and nice to see at 22 but do you search for virgin guy too..then think again and all the best.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
no!!not actually...i wanted the guy to have experience, for him to teach me!!hehehe
@rkrish (3003)
• India
7 Nov 08
What a expectation ! So nice to hear ! I think then you can find many gud boys easily.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
hahahah, im just bein realistic, i know guys now have this experience already, most of them though...
• Malaysia
12 Nov 08
that's the true spirit that all girl and women should have, respecting your future husband, which is to take care of yourself and your purity... keep up the great work!
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
thank you so much!!youre one of the few people that uplift spirit on this one, yeah i agree with you that our future partners should be respected by giving them the best of what you have...
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• United States
17 Nov 08
I don't understand this concept of this abstract respect for someone you have never even met or could be the man you're involved with right now. How do you respect your man by denying him a natural expression of love and desire dependent on some silly piece of paper?
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• Malaysia
17 Nov 08
gloomcookielex, everyone has their point of view, and here my thought and carmela is the same. we believe in true love and marriage. so in order to respect your true love and marriage, to keep your virginity is so important. thank you for sharing your thought
• United States
10 Nov 08
I really and truly do not understand this way of thinking at ALL. Women are more than what's between their legs. If your virginity is the best thing you have to offer a man, than you're either a very boring person or you sell yourself short. My body is not a gift to anyone because it is not a possession. My body is mine to do with as I see fit.
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
(Women are more than what's between their legs)HUH??hey i would say its such a mean thing to say, you cant judge all the women here by saying that, we have our differences, in term of our views in our lives!! so i dont think its appropriate to say those!!and i would say and i can really say that I AM A BORING PERSON cause if im like that then i dont have friends at all, i was not referring to my body in general, why not read my post clearly!!
• United States
17 Nov 08
You obviously don't know where I'm coming from because nothing you said was even remotely related to what I said. Also, how in the hell am I a hypocrite?
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
i truly understand what you tryin to say GLOOM!!but if you noticed i said that my virginity is a gift to my husband to be, a gift on our first night, just like that, i just think its a best gift to give him, and not only that beyond that was my life for him, so please look at it more carefully...
@MsTickle (25136)
• Australia
24 Nov 08
Unless your husband is also a virgin and has saved himself for marriage then your virginity has no value. If you are prepared to take a man who has been sticking his manhood here and there then you don't value your purity either. It's an outdated notion in this day and age. I think it's best if both people bring some experience to the marriage. Your husband will forget about it straight away as soon as the act is over and he has satisfied himself. Reality is not about love and hearts and flowers. Reality is much harsher.
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
i respect your view!!but i dont think if my husband to be would no longer be a virgin, then mine would be wasted, im not asking that my husband to be to be a virgin because i know its the nature of the guys already, so really dont expect to marry a virgin but dont think it would just be wasted, i know a couple that until now the guy is happy becuse the girl was virgin when they get married so i dont think it would just be forgotten by the guy!!
• India
24 Nov 08
you are right even my thinking is same . I am also virgin and its gift to my fiance . Will you my friend because we have matching thinking. . . . . . . . . . .
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
ohhh thats so cool to know someone same thinking as mine!!yeah we could be friends..thanks for the response and happy lotting!!
@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
17 Nov 08
it's nice to know that there are still single ladies who would give only themselves to their would-be husbands :)
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
thank you so much!!
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
15 Nov 08
I do agree with you that your virginity should be your gift to your husband. I do associate virginity with a committed and loving relationship. © ronaldinu 2008
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
thank you so much!!yeah, i just think that every young girls now should think this way for them to be out of trouble also,
@bestie (3203)
• Philippines
11 Nov 08
hello dear keep your promise,stay pure and untouched until the right time comes.Wishing you good luck! you know,I also made that promise to myself,but I don't think I can keep such promise. just kidding! anyway,you're in the right path!
• Philippines
16 Nov 08
thank you so much!!ohhh dont say like that, as long as you would be persistent you can stick to your promise also, just like me...
@warrior_777 (1392)
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
Hi carmela0210.. You're such a decent lady. You are on the right way of thinking. The woman should remain virgin until the day she will be married to the man she loves. The man whom she would chose to spend the rest of her life. The man whom will gives his name and love to her and will protect and provide her all the love and things she needs.. How lucky is that man you would chose to marry. Good Luck and Congratulations..
• Philippines
8 Nov 08
thank you so much for that!!that was sooo sweet, i really want that all things would be on its right place, i dont want to rush things, cause im afraid it might fall for me at the end, anyways im not in a hrry, im young and im not ready to settle down!!happy lotting my friend...
@nadooa247 (1096)
• United States
7 Nov 08
well done for you not many people care about that anymore, yes most guys aren't virgins but you know what if that right guy comes along he probably is because he also was waiting for that right girl. When you wait for after marriage it gives you a bond that you trusted someone with you and the other in return did the same. People saying not to or hinting at that it's not a good idea are wrong. You are protecting your health as well carmela because STD's are like water unfortunately even if you get married get both tested for AIDS and what not... (even though i clearly know i didnt have and he didnt we both got tested either way). Hope that helps...
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
thank you so much for that!!thanks for sharing thoughts with me...im really thankful that their are so many people here that support me with this, even if some says im freak of being conservative nowadays, and it didnt fit the world now!but still i want to be free from anything before i get married, i wanted things to be more special...happy lotting my friend....
@rsa101 (28247)
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
I guess if that is what you think is the best then do it. There are few ladies out there that remain like you so good luck in finding your one true love.
• Philippines
7 Nov 08
thank you so much for it!!!yeah i want to savor things, while im still single and really want to be things to be in its right places!!and just want to wait to for the right guy to come along...happy lotting!!!
@decimus785 (1419)
• Aruba
1 Nov 08
i hope you find it,good luck. but please be carefull.make sure you know him for atleast 3 or more years. because there are man out there that play Mr Perfect for a long time and after you you marry him and give him your virginity ,their true identitiy comes out.Just take your time.
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
thank you!!anyways im only 22, and until now it didnt cross my mind on settling down this soon!!thank you for that wonderful advice!!happy lotting...
• India
31 Oct 08
hey do not stay a virgin too long aand do not wait too long for the right man to come along. is there a right man? look for agood man not the right man. do not be too choosy otherwise time will just go past and you will not know when years get added to the 22 you have lived. I wish you all the best and and happy losing of virginity. may it be a joyous and fulfilling event.
• Philippines
6 Nov 08
hahhaha, im just saving it for the last, i just know that theirs someone out their that is my right guy, and i know our paths would cross one of this days, just wish its not too soon and not too late,...happy lotting!!!
• Malaysia
1 Nov 08
Asians tend to be more conservative (some of them anyway, since most youngsters have changed their mindset) and there's nothing wrong with it. It's our culture. I would prefer my future wife to be a virgin too, but based on the statistics (which I've read somewhere), it is better for me not to question about it. If my future wife is not virgin, I will be disappointed but I will not dwell on it for too long since I still love her. And I won't question her about that.