Cheated online?

Singapore
November 6, 2006 1:57am CST
what if you met someone online, feelings developed, you starts to really like (or maybe even love her/him), telephone numbers were exchanged, there are frequent calls to each other but yet have not meet up in person before, one day, you got to know that he/she needs to go for operation and needs money urgently (funny! the alarm bell doesnt ring here!) you send her/him the money. One fine day, you got to know that it's all a fake, she/he turns out to be a total opposite of person. How would you feel? What action would you take? would that be a good reason for you to stop trusting people from online at all?
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• India
6 Nov 06
i have been cheated once...
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• Singapore
6 Nov 06
thanks for responding. care to share more of your story?
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• United States
6 Nov 06
Yes and no. I work from home, so I've been scammed a lot when I was first starting in this business. I am now more selective and read the terms of service very carefully for any program in which I choose to participate. If it isn't a program, I check references.
• United States
6 Nov 06
and I met my current husband in person during my last marriage and continued to chat with him online.
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• Singapore
6 Nov 06
Thank you for your respond. It's always nice to hear from you! Have a nice day!
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
10 Dec 06
That has happened to me in the past and I do have a hard time trusting people online, especially on a dating site. That is why I stopped using the dating sites to begin with. I would not completely stop trusting people online but would just be more cautious. I would not send money to someone on the net. It was very upsetting when it happened but there was nothing I could do about it. There are a lot of people out there trying to find ways to get money from people.
• Singapore
10 Dec 06
i have to agree with you..that's why we cannot be too sceptical yet we cannot be too trusting either...it's always better to play smart. Thanks for sharing!
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@wathanjim (2214)
• United States
24 Nov 06
Very good topic.Its really hard to tell who or what a person is online.I am very careful I wouldnt send money without meeting the person
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• Singapore
24 Nov 06
please dont! but i've came across a lot of men who does and i've seen it with my own eyes...(i know the woman!) she send a modified picture of herself and gets the men to fall hard in love with her...then asked them to send her money to pay for her monthly expenses...and they did! sigh...i'm starting this discussion to warn everyone not to fall into such trap!
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@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
it is really hard to trust people online or not. there are really fake people trying to get you to like them, for you to feel pity at them, and it is all part fo their game plan. better be careful so as you will not fall into their trap.
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• Singapore
10 Dec 06
Thanks for your concern...but then you have to admit that there are genuine lonely people out there who are really looking for friends?
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@firdaus (685)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
i've been cheated once but in online biz.. i lost much of dolars...
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• Singapore
10 Dec 06
That's bad..that's why it's good to be more aware of any activities online.
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@moneymind (10510)
• Philippines
19 Nov 06
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well i am not really into internet dating not even chatting since i feel that this things are very high succeptible to being get cheated or fraud. so if you are that person that easily believes i say you better not go on such dating or having to go eyeballing as they say it. not unless you really know or feel that the other person can be trusted but most likely that for me isnot trustable at all. greetings. : )
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• Singapore
19 Nov 06
It's true what you've just said! we have to be on alert all the time if we really want to go for internet dating. Thanks for your advise. :;)
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@caribe (2465)
• United States
17 Nov 06
I would be very careful and cautious of anyone I met online because the persona that they present may not be like they actually are at all and there are plenty of guys out there looking to take advantage of a trusting woman. I am sure there are women as well, taking advantage of men they meet online.
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• Singapore
17 Nov 06
You are right! and it may not necessary be the man trying to take advantage of the woman, it may be the other way around. I've seen it with my own eyes! Thank you for sharing your point of view!
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@msqtech (15074)
• United States
7 Nov 06
I would have not got so personal until i met but I would go to police for fraudulent actions
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• Singapore
7 Nov 06
cool! i wonder whether will the local police able to do anything about online cheating? tried asking a lot of people, but no answer yet. Thanks for responding!
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@firelight (1858)
• Australia
19 Nov 06
I would be quite upset and hurt by that, it's a disgusting thing to do. I don't think I would be handing any money over though without meeting the person, and if it were a large amount of money I would want to go to one of the doctor's appointments with them. If they consider me a good enough friend to fund their operation, then they should consider me a good enough friend to stand by their side and support them emotionally as well!
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• Singapore
19 Nov 06
Well said! but the excuse given is that 'i dont want you to see me at this state where im so sick and pale!' i know, it's lame, but still there are people falling into it. Thanks for your response :0)
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@moreinfo (3865)
• China
17 Nov 06
tooooo many such frauds and cheats! online or even offline. too many such cases now here in China, money, time, feeling are being cheated finally.
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• Singapore
17 Nov 06
True....you dont know what's genuine anymore..sigh..thanx for your reply!
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Nov 06
I would never risk anything like that on line as it is to dangerous and I am very weary of it
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• Singapore
17 Nov 06
thanks for your response! ;0)
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@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
17 Nov 06
To be honest, I think I don't trust people easily, be it from online or offline. I think humans have the tendency to be different or change when it comes to money issues. I've been cheated of my money because of real life friends.. so what makes online friends any difference? I like to keep my money with me now.. won't be such a kind soul anymore.
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• Singapore
17 Nov 06
Oh! I'm sorry to hear that, but dont hold on to the past...not everyone is like that. It's good to be cautious..but not to the extreme until you chased everyone away. Good luck, my friend! ;0)
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@tamaki (100)
• China
17 Nov 06
i have been cheat once , $2000
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• Singapore
17 Nov 06
Im sorry to hear that...care to share more?
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• China
6 Nov 06
this is cliche, sorry to say that, I'm too old to be cheated by this kind of trick. never trust people online totally, be on guard all the time.
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
Thanks for responding. I've heard of people who are in the 30s being cheated. just want to know how many are there...
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@aekman (100)
• Nigeria
6 Nov 06
i can't stop trusting people cause that is all about the person that lied to you.If you noticed the person properly right from onset,you should have noticed his/her target which is MONEY.I'm in a relationship too which i happened to meet my woman via dating site and we've been together for almost 4yrs now.I never for one day requested for money from her though i had some trying times but never asked her for MONEY.We'll be meeting together very soon anyways.
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• Singapore
6 Nov 06
That's great! Hope to hear more good news from you and your partner soon. Best of luck, my friend. Thanks for responding!
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• United States
6 Nov 06
In general, I try not to get too close feelings wise to people, for the honest reason that you just don't know who you're talking to online. Not that it happened to me, but the thought of someone I'm talking to and expressing my feelings for, turning out to be like a 40 year old man, just utterly creeps me out. My friend has had people on dating sites lie about their age to her, so it's hard to trust people. They've either made themselves younger when they were older and vice versa. I did have an online relationship when I was about 15 year olds with a guy online. We probably lived about an hour and a half from each other, but never got to meet up. We "dated" online for about 8 months and then in the 8th month mark, he told me he got a girlfriend (I'm guessing it was a real life girlfriend) about 4 months ago, cause he didn't think I loved him anymore. It was really lame, but I was really sad at the time. Now I just think about it and laugh hysterically. Cause that's all you really can do. I think about the letters we'd write to each other, or talk for hours on the phone and argue who loves who more. Really, it's comedic. Look at me, I just never shut up, hahaha. But I like your questions, they are quite good.
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
Thank you for your respond and sharing with us your story. Isn't it so sad that things like that are actually happening? I could imagine that there are people out there who got cheated not only of their time, gifts but it may be thousand of dollars! I posed this question up is because I know a true story where something like that is happening, but it's the other way around (it's the woman who's the one with the lies) and from her online friends, she got to know a couple of guys who send her money for her all her expenses and shopping spree (which is meant for operation expenses!!!) I hope that by hearing out stories like that, myLot members will be more wary about online friends. Not that all are bad though, I got to know a wonderful guy (now my bf) from online LOL. Have a nice day!
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@Jetdanet (1025)
• Portugal
6 Nov 06
i didnt cheated online cause it wasnt cheating. she knew and she did that. just for excitment moments online just for fun. but its hard ot handle. and you eunice? did ya cheatead? :P by the way love ure name
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
thanks for your respond and the compliment. I have never been cheated but i was responding to the discussion when the case about my friend got cheated crossed my mind and I would hope that with this discussion, I could hear more true stories out there and also to warn others about being too trusting. My dear friend, hope you dont do around cheating online for fun, yeah...it might get too hot to handle. All the best!
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• Philippines
6 Nov 06
yep. iv been talking to this guy for like 7 months. call each other. send each others gift. then one wednesday morning he wrote me a letter and told me he wanna stop our communication..bec. he met someone and started dating. and our internet realtionship is nothing real... stuff stuff... funnyn thng is. he started calling and writing me again after 3 months. when he and the girl broke up? duh.
• Singapore
6 Nov 06
this guy is such a jerk. Thank you for sharing with us! hope you have move on. Good Luck and hope you can find somebody's special, nice and genuine soon!!!!
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@mizu20 (349)
• United States
6 Nov 06
Well I think that you should be choosy who you meet online of course as an adult we all know that. But Ive had good and bad expeinces online so I think that it all depends.
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• Singapore
6 Nov 06
thank you for your response :)
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