Avoid Adopting Other People's Negative Views
September 16, 2008 2:57pm CST
Othe people's views and troubles can be contagious. Don't sabotage yourself by unwittingly adopting Negative, unproductive attitudes through your associations with others. If you encounter a downhearted friend, a grieving patient, or a collegue who has suffered a sudden reversal of fortune, be careful not to be overcome yourself by the apparent misfortune. Remember to discriminate between events thenselves and your interpretations of them. Remind yourself: "What hurts this person is not the occurence itself, for another person might not feel opressed by this situation at all. What is hurting this person is the response he or she has uncritically adopted." It is not a demonstration of kindness or friendship to the people we care about to join them in indulging in wrongheaded, negative feelings. We do a better service to ourselves and others by remaining detached and avoiding melodramatic reactions. Still, if you find yourself in conversation with somone else who is depressed, hurt or frustrated, show them kindness and give them a sympathetic ear; just don't allow yourself to be pulled down too. Please share ur opinions and coments on this discussion..................
17 Sep 08
hi,i appreciate your thinking prudhvi,i also thinks like you but, i m too much tired of negative attitude of my inlaws,i m living with them from last 12 years,my husband is NRI,unfortunately i can't get his support also,i tried all positve attitudes towards my inlaws, but now i gave up,i m fade up of my life..by my inlaws.. i m not earning so i m not a good person...each and evrything that i did is wrong or bad..by them.now tell me how can i avoide such attitudes??