love yourself first?

Philippines
September 17, 2008 4:48am CST
me and my girlfriend broke up 2 months ago. She said that she needs more time, to know and love herself more. I was so shocked because I thought everything is going fine between us. Does this reasoning makes any sense? Ive heard a lot about this "love yourself first" thing, Does it really work?
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@chiyosan (30213)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
well of course we have to live and love ourselves first before we can ever share it. you cannot give what you don't have.
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• Philippines
17 Sep 08
It does apply to me after a break-up, but before a break-up? In my honest opinion, it does seen awkward and suspicious. O well no hard feelings, for me "loving yourself" means taking good care of yourself so that you can love fully the person you are in. Maybe she was pertaining to be independent for while. O well, if she will come back she will. If not, then you have to change your gameplan in life. :)
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@ralphido (843)
• India
20 Sep 08
forgive me for saying but i actually took you for a girl the first time i saw your snap... anyway its sad to hear hearts are breaking up all over the world... recently sat through my friends breakup party with his gal friend.. most of our friends wer present... mostly it was all tears and stuff.. had a hangover for 2 days...
19 Sep 08
There is a very good chance that you dont even know what a profound question you have asked. You already know the answer simply by asking the question. We always find what we are feeling. But then thats why you asked the question, isnt it?
@syankee525 (6293)
• United States
18 Sep 08
yeah it does, you can't have anything if you are broken. so if she's not sure she know herself or love herself it will be hard for her to love you
@chabawel (330)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Probably she just used those words to be polite to you. She just didn't want to give more meaning out of your break up. She probably has more reasons that she just didn't disclose to you. At least, now, you can work things out as being friends. Maybe you'll get back together once she figure out what she needs in her life. Just be supportive to her. And hope for the best. Good luck.
@rocker21 (2717)
• India
17 Sep 08
Well this is surely the reason that she has another guy in hand, i did the same with my ex girlfriend i just told her i need time and asked for a month that i wont talk to her its your time to say her bye bye now! she has got a new guy for herself!
@Jhordie (5116)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
I was shocked too with your story... never heard and wish never to hear that!!! I dunno what is on her mind and the only way to know that is to ask her if you feel the need to know it. But may I ask you, did you really love her? If YES, then YOU DID NOT LOSE but instead you walk out of a relationship not worthy of staying. God bless you and even her.
@flance101 (137)
• Philippines
17 Sep 08
Hi! Actually, that was one of my reasons when I broke up with my boyfriend. I know it is hard t believe, in fact it is indeed suspicious. But there are reasons for that. As for me, I know I have to solve a few problems of mine, and I didn't want to drag him along with me. I want to be deserving enough for him. Well, it seems it didn't work out for us. My point is that before you try to think of negative things, try to think first if she's having problems. If you need to, talk to her. Nothing's wrong with that. I hope you two can work it out.. :)
@scorpio19 (1363)
17 Sep 08
I think she just wanted out but to do it in a nice way..to me it's the same line as "it's not anything you have done it's me" but .....all means the same thing I think but I may be wrong..sorry to hear about your break up though.