How to raising a responsible child
September 17, 2008 7:59am CST
Give your child goals to accomplish and daily chores from a very young age so they learn responsibility and feel like they are contributing to your home environment. They will also learn to reach for the stars and roll with the punches if they fall a little short, while you are there to guide them back to the right path. Establish behavioral limits, household rules and boundaries, and then stick to them without bending an inch. Make sure your children know what you expect from them, and that you make the final decisions about what goes on under your roof. Boundaries help children feel safe, because they know what to expect, what you expect of them, and what their limits are. And if your child breaks rules or violates boundaries, drop the hamma' with a serious punishment. Do not be lenient or give in when the kids fuss about it or whine about how their friends can go/do it/wear it or how it's not fair. Stand firm Mom and Dad! Do not negotiate or compromise a settlement either. Start saying "NO!" to your children, and stand by your decisions. Demand that they treat you and others with respect.
18 Sep 08
I totally agree!! I see a lot of kids running their parents house. You do need to give them chores even if it means staying on them constantly. Personally my kids no that I have a very low tolerance for misbehavior. Are they perfect, alsolutely not, but they know that I won't tolerate disrespect towards anyone. I'm generally a mild manner person, so sometimes they get away with stuff. But I try to stand my grounds on certain things. I gear them towards being responsible kids. They have boundaries and know that I'm doing it because I love them. As far as them saying it's not fair, I tell mine, "Life isn't care, so get over it". The boys now days wear their pants down to their knees, not mine. I tell him that it's not appropriate and it looks ridiculous. You don't have to look like everyone else. I teach mine to try to be their own individuals. Plus you need to say no sometimes, they have to know that they can't have everything they want. I see parents having grown children living off of them. I've already inform mine, that it's not happening here. They will help pay the bills and preferably have their own. LOL!!