do you keep secrets from your husband?

September 17, 2008 6:29pm CST
lately i am not sure if i've told my husband everything or if i should tell him everything. there are events in my life that i feel are not important enough for him to know or that he might misinterpret and that it's safer if i just tell my bestfriend about it. but is it necessary that we, wives, should be open to our husbands totally?
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@rjblueyes (215)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I have probably, in moments, told my hubby a little to much information. When we first got married I used to tell him when I got my period. I dunno why, I'm just weird I guess. But I think as women we just do that. Men are more quick and to the point, and women want to tell every detail and share everything. No I don't tell him that anymore, because a little secrecy I think is good. Like right now he dosen't know I have a savings because we are never really able to save anything. It's almost like he has to use money that he has. Like the old saying "It burns a hole in his pocket".
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Sep 08
I usually tell my husband when I start just so he knows. Like after 6 years he doesn't know when it starts lol Since I decided to stop taking the pill, he sort of like when I tell him, usually explain the moodiness a bit more.
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• United States
18 Sep 08
i know where your at ive been there and i made a mistake telling my hubby everything about everything he wanted to know and now im paying for 13 years of no trusting because he thinks im gonna go back to my old life..telling your best friend is a great thing to do..one last thing It Was The Past It Does Not Effect The Future.. leave it be the past is the past and it should stay there.. if he loves you its for you not your past.. up to you.. good luck
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19 Sep 08
thank you for this mothermia because i think if the information will hurt him then it might ruin our marriage. it is not as if i've done anything to encourage that certain situation in the past but it happened to me and i prevented it without telling him. sorry for being vague. i'm worried that if i tell him, he might ask a lot of questions and i'd get confused. lol!
@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
18 Sep 08
I tell my husband everything. I don't see a need to keep anything from him. Most of what I tell him he finds funny anyways.
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@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
1 Nov 08
mommyfied since my husband was my best friend too as well as my 'lover I did tell him everything, I am an open person and not one to hide stuff. We had a wonderful relationship and we truly'loved each other. why not be open with each other what do we want to hide things from each other for? well now i am a widow but have many pleasant memories. I think a husband and a wife should not keep secrets f rom each other at all. it should be an open relationship with no hiding stuff.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
17 Sep 08
My aunt once told me many years ago, that I should never tell a man everything. But, I still do.. I have told my husband many things. Sometimes, I feel that I tell him too much. But, now, I am getting to the point of not telling him every little detail about me. I try to keep him out of every aspect of me. But, I will not keep secrets that will get in the way of our marriage..
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@khatri_50 (225)
• India
18 Sep 08
I have no secret from my husband i tell each and every thing of life to him because i think that he is my life partner so there should be no misunderstanding between both of us . even a little doubt in life can spoil the life .ther should no seceret between husband and wife to make life happy.
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@rainmark (4302)
18 Sep 08
I do my best to be open to my husband and never keep secrets since we get married. But honestly,i prefer to keep some of my secrets in the past coz that's not important to him to know, it's not an important thing to tell him, that was in the past. The important is i am honest to him in our relationship.
@sandra966 (269)
• Spain
21 Sep 08
I never used to keep anything from my husband. Little by little though, we have kept things from each other. Usually we get found out though, lol. For example, he keeps buying things - like stuff for his computer. Eventually I find the receipt or look online at his account and find little anomalies! He usually comes clean then and we have a laugh. I have started keeping things from him - like when my period is over! I don't think we need to tell each other everything - just the important things.