Faithful Few
By Chevee
@Chevee (5905)
United States
September 17, 2008 7:38pm CST
Are your friends really responding to your discussions or are they being responded to by other users I will call (strangers)? Can you really depend on the friends that you do have to really support you? I have a faithful few, some of these users (members) I have just plain disappeared not be seen on the site again. I have some waiting on my list now to be approved, I will like to give them a chance and see what they are all about, and this can be vis versa also because some of the discussions of my friends I have no knowledge of and can not respond with a response that will make sense.
The only way to find friends that you have something in common with is to read and observe their post before approving them or just go with the flow and approve them anyway and end up with a lot of useless friends on your list. In that case it is so many on the site you will loose site of them.
I guess you will have to just depend on the Faithful Few.
Another thing I have found out is that you have to build a reputation and be nice and well known, to be seen around the site, and you will get a lot of responses to your discussion.
How do you feel about this? Correct me if I am wrong.
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13 responses
@CatsandDogs (13963)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Well, I feel that everyone has something important to say so I like giving everyone a chance to prove themselves worthy of my friendship rather than to "wait and see" type of thing. If I find that we don't have anything at all in common then I'll delete them from my friends list but the others might surprise me with something that I'll be glad that I didn't miss. You're not wrong in your way of thinking because everybody is different and everybody has a way of doing things and there's nothing wrong with that. Be yourself and you'll have honest friends and that's what matters most.
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@KrauseHome (36445)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Well, I do have some friends who I can see responding back to a lot of my discussions and in turn I respond back to theirs, and then I am sure I have quite a few who never respond back to mine, but since I do not have time to check and keep up, it really is No Big deal. It would be nice if all of my friends that are active in here could respond back to my Discussions I have started, but I also know that sometimes they might not always be interested in everything I have to say as well. I guess it is up to the individual though. There are always so many people coming and going in here it is also nice to meet some of the New people here as well.
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@salonga (27775)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
Well that makes sense. To check first their profile and see if you have things in common before approving. That is good. But to me, I always approve whoever comes because I just don't have the guts to turn down anyone. Anyway, I believe I am not losing anything should they not response in my posts. It is their prerogative to respond or not to respond. I myself can't also respond to all of my friends posts because I have to choose which are the ones that I can respond sensibly. So I give my friends the same freedom. If they response to my discussion then happy I would be, if they'd not then I'd presume they find nothing interesting with my topic. Now if they don't respond even for once. It is still okay with me. That does not bother me at all because I am not fully dependent on responses. I can always participate in discussions of others and earn and enjoy just the same. However, there is one thing my faithful friends would get from me. I give priorities to their topics. I'm picking them first before answering anybody else's.
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@peaceful (3294)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I tend to get responses from a lot of folks who aren't on my Friends list, but I don't mind that at all because I like meeting new people!
I tend to approve everyone who requests to be my friend and as long as they don't make the mistake of bugging me, they will stay on my list forever!
I really adore my Friends and I do my best to keep them happy and inspired!
Though I always encourage anyone to really read my discussions BEFORE they request my Friendship, usually I'll assume that they have a good grasp of "Peaceful " and what HE is all about!
PS: I have had some folks mistake me for female... as if "Peaceful" was only a feminine quality! LOL!1 person likes this
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
19 Sep 08
You are correct in all of your observations.. I have responded to you as often as I can and I do this because you respond to any discussions that I start, I don't start that many but you were there for me answering mine and you voted on my picture on Boomertowne, which was going out of your way to help me.. So, I feel as if I started 100 discussins a day, you would be one that I could depend on to respond, and it should always be that way with all of your friends.. I do eventually delete anyone that I have on my friends list if they never have a response for my discussins and then I do start a new list of friends.. I think that is should be a two-way street, if I respond to your, then by all rights, you should respond to mine.. That is what makes Mylot so great.. Have a great day..
@bunnybon7 (50970)
• Holiday, Florida
18 Sep 08
that sounds about right. i respond to about 1/2 of yours
i think the more friends you have the most likely you get responses. some of my friends respond faithfully. about 4. but some never do.
i think the more friends you have the most likely you get responses. some of my friends respond faithfully. about 4. but some never do.
@leenie50 (3992)
• United States
18 Sep 08
Hi Chevee,
First of all, when you say worthless friends, that seems pretty harsh. I know what you mean but I feel that most of the people here, of course I don't know most of the people, so I'll say the people that I've met are mostly here for the interactions, not the money. The other thing is that when you have a lot of friends, it takes time to respond to their posts. So for me, I have to find posts that mean something to me for me to respond. The more friends you have the more that will respond to your post. Here's the problem for me. You like to post a lot which is good. But I can't respond to all of them because I would never get away from the computer. There are a few other people in my friends list that post a lot as well. Another thing that is important is to respond back to those who respond to your post. I really enjoy meeting new mylotters because they add their ideas and knowledge.
There is only one person I deleted because that person was overloading my email and I didn't always agree with that persons philosophy. Anyway, I hope I helped a little. xoxoxo
leenie
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@joyadalia (1408)
• Philippines
19 Sep 08
I don't really keep tabs on what my friends have been doing, and I am sure that they are not doing that to me, too. Or else, I would have been sure of more than 100 responses to my posts.
Don't worry whether your friends may answer your posts or not, just have fun here.
@thebohemianheart (8827)
• United States
18 Sep 08
I have never made a friends' request, here or anywhere else. I get a lot of them, though. And, I accept most of them. My reasoning behind that is this: they may not have a discussion I am interested in today, but they may at some point. These people give me a broader range of topics to choose from. I check discussions started by my friends first. If I find something I want to respond to, I do. If not, then I move on to the next set of discussions. I don't start a lot of discussions because I don't get a lot of responses unless I am angry about something.
*L* Most of the time I am super nice......well, I think I am, anyway, I evidently have a great reputation, but I still don't get many responses to my discussions. That is ok, I just keep responding to other people's. Makes me no never mind.*S*
@scorpio19 (1363)
•
18 Sep 08
Well I have only just recently, regularly starting using Mylot and I have picked up that to be here and get a good response you either need to ask parenting or pregnancy discussions because those are the one i've had the most response to but because people have such differing views it can become a bit heated and feel I don't always come across in a good light, which is a bit of a worry but then I would rather have an interesting discussion it's more fun to get a good cross section of views and opinions.
Or you have to be super nice all the time which is fine but can be a bit boring.
At the moment I am building my friend list, one friend here was the one who introduced me to Mylot and I have known her for over a year now through another site we both used regularly. I've never met her in real life but I know she's a good hearted person and always gives me support and sound advice with my parenting issues.
