It's been a while now...
By klaudine
@klaudine (3650)
Indonesia
September 18, 2008 1:03am CST
...since the last fight I got with my partner. Thank you for mylotters who has given me so much inputs when I was very confused of this problem. I was very lucky that I always have a place to share my problems and get the most objective response that I could get.
If you have read my discussion before you must have known that my relationship was in a very awful condition. We fought everyday and we're caught in a deep depression of our relationship. The depression itself has brought more trouble because small things can get big when it comes to the different opinion. It was horrible.
But since many mylotters has given me some support, I thought of giving a chance. I pulled back a little and gave us some times to think and contemplate. We didn't talk about serious matter and get things fun. Yes we didn't share personal matters for these days and it was okay. It's been 3 days since our last fight and I felt peaceful. I can think better right now and put myself in the more productive activity.
I know I haven't solve the main problem of this relationship matters, but I saw this as a good improvement. It means she wanted to make a resolution for this relationship so it could work, and I am quite happy about it. I am thankful because I didn't give up, and still put all my hope in this thing. So far everything is so good and I hope it could last at least for a month, so that we can settle down before come back to the real problem.
Thank you for every support given by myLotters. I still need some inputs and suggestions from you guys. Have a nice day everybody, and happy myLotting :)
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2 responses
@Amagnimo (635)
• India
19 Sep 08
Wow! Congrats for improving. And wishes of luck to get still better. Of course, you don't have to lost any of your hopes and continue to get better and better. By the way, did my way helped a bit? I don't know, but I think you are the first one whom I said about my way of dealing, and I dont really know if helps people. It seems easy to me, "God's grace", but it might not be for others - they say that doing it this way, you need to put aside everything of yours.... even the self-esteem of yours - that's the most difficult part... but being a little submissive 
even helps! I can't write more unless you give a feedback, since I really can't write more in detail about that unless it helps you...
Anyways, hope you keep getting better! 
Keep Mylotting - and don't be lazy!
Nemo
even helps! I can't write more unless you give a feedback, since I really can't write more in detail about that unless it helps you...
Anyways, hope you keep getting better!
Keep Mylotting - and don't be lazy!
Nemo@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
19 Sep 08
Thank you for your response here too, Nemo.
Yeah, it's been a hard time and the hope is getting bigger now since everything seemed so well now. I know that this is not the end of my problem, not yet, but I am working here and it seems that my hard work paid off a little LOL. You were really helping and your supportive response was really encourage me of dealing with my problems, of course LOL. Thank you for being there :) And no, I am not going to be lazy anymore, working so hard to reach higher payment here
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@Amagnimo (635)
• India
20 Sep 08
Well, I am happy it did. As I wrote somewhere in some of other thread of yours, impulse can help in curbing anger too... I just wish you luck for now, since you are working hard to cut off the weed in your relationship... if you were a guy, you obviously had to submit yourself, but even though you are a girl, you have to submit and then, everything would be as fine as ever... One more thing that can help is:
Put yourself to the thoughts of your partner - start the chain of thinking as to why did your partner have to reside to such thinking that you didn't like. If you can find the roots like these, and if you can remove them, you are gonna live a happier life!
Good Luck
Nemo
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
20 Sep 08
LOL. yeah... I am quite in a good mood today, but I am so busy making my new website. Yes I am making a website now LOL. I hope you want to go there someday if it already done LOL. I just hope that I would get enough traffic from there LOL.
Today was as good as yesterday, I haven't got a chance to start to say anything to her, but yeah, I am trying here. I just want to make myself productive while she's not around, like I've told you I was making a little distance just to make everything under control. So far so good :) Thank you very much
@lolipopicecream (170)
• Philippines
18 Sep 08
its nice to know things are working out so well for you right now, like how it is to your parter i just hope and suggest that do not just think of making it last for a month or two don't expect live a moment but i suggest you make things last.
relationships have so many winding roads, i suggest maybe talk it out and make a compromise, like what are the things you like and don't like and so as the other and do some things diffrent like things you guys don't usually do like to remove the boredome also i suggest a lil space like try to see each other once or twice a week rather than everyday and act more like a friend than a couple as time goes by when people grow old you if the mushy feelings gets out its the friendship that binds people together. take care always and god bless:P
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
18 Sep 08
I know that. What I mean let things like this for a month or two is that I have to wait until the right time to have a talk. I won't let this forever, I know I have to do something to make thing works. But if you have read my previous discussion I think you would be understand that the situation now is very vulnerable with these talks. I don't want to ruin the peace we had now, I want it stable first then I can say anything that I wanted
