"past relationship"

Well, we were seperated for about a year and a half and we did talk about it when we got back together but I really don't like rehashing. He gets butt hurt about it and I kinda think let the past stay in the past!

Hi Che,We don't talk about our past relationships though he knows mine and I know his. His experience is very traumatic that when he started to remember it, it he would be very upset. I just don't like to talk about it. There are times that it will just pop up in our conversation but I don't say more to avoid his flame.. About mine, it's really nice to talk about it to my friends, but not to my hubby. I enjoyed recalling some events of my love story to my fiends and how it ended. I can still remember those memories like " Maalaala Mo Kaya?" a thing to remember.

I don't have any past relationships, but those of my husband come up every once in a while. Sometimes as a joke, sometimes not. When I first fell in love with him, he was still a little hung up on his most recent ex and that sort of thing tends to stick with you.

In my case... there is really no past relationship to talk about... since i married my first and only boyfriend... and same is true with my husband... we were together since 2nd year college... and got married after 10 years... but we do talk about those who courted me before he did... and that is just about it... made me think how my life would have been if i had more bf's in the past...

Hi Checa No we dont discuss about past or past relation, as i believe past is gone and discussion about may lead to hot disccusion(as u said) misunderstanding and leave some impression in hearts. Other thing u should be talking about ur relation after engagement or marriage and thats important, share nice old memories, time spent togather etc Take care

Me and my wife had different past relationships with products of them are still with us. I am telling about the kids that we had with our past partners who still lives with us. With this, we cannot avoid to talk about our past, as we still see them (the pasts) as we look at our kids.

I used to spend my lot of time with my girlfriend. recently we went to picnic.Then she remember me about our college days.She teased me a lot because at that time i was very lean and don't used to speak with others. We have lot of fun while remembering our college days and our friends..

This is a hard one for me because the answer is yes and no because we have both been married and divorced before and I have 3 kids to my ex-hubby so of course he is in our lives because of the kids and it was a very bad relationship both mental, verbal and physical abuse so we have talked about my relationship and my partner now is always going on about what my ex-husband did and has done in the past but when my partner now was married they didn't have any children and when his wife left him that was it and they have never seen each other since and he never talks about her or about things that happened when he was with her, I was with him for about 6 months and it dawned on me that i didn't even know what her name was as he had never ever spoken her name and i just thought um that is a bit strange but anyway yeah he needs to know everything that I went through in my marriage but he never talks about his... Strange I know

We have both been through 3 divorces, each. So we have talked about our past relationships, for the most part not in any great details, but we know the basics of each other's past. He is still in touch with his second ex-wife, they have a daughter together, so of course there is communication there. I stay in touch with my last ex, we have a daughter together and since I live 1600 miles away, it's just an extra line of communitcation where my daughter is concerned. And we can talk like friends now, that we live in seperate states LOL. But, neither one of us have an issue with the other staying in touch with our ex. Every once in a while we will joke about our ex'es or tease the other, but for the most part that is in the past and that's where it should stay.

Very rarely do we talk about pasts or past relationships. I do not think my hubby knows hardly anything about my past whatsoever. I just think that things from a past are not relevant to a future unless there is a need for them to be spoken about, like health issues etc. Plus it can cause so much trouble it is better just left alone sometimes.

LOL no we can talk about things in the past now and just laugh about them too,its not as thought they are very important now really,ex boyfriends,girlfriends and lovers,well they are long gone,so all of that chat is just laughing chatter now!we often sit and talk about the times when we desperately fancied so and so lol and we just joke about it all,the past is firmly in the past!

I think yours discussions about the past are healthy discussions and when ever we both switch on the rewind button, really we forget every thing and we see the full film of the past talking about, thinking and forgetting the present. Some time there are discussions on my lapses and her hard attitude and in the end every thing is resolved and we return to the present day to take up.Really really the past discussion are healthy for doing more in the present.

It's quite weird every time we discuss his past relationship we always had a misunderstanding in the first few years of our marriage.But as we grow older everything is just a joke.Every time I hear her name I tried to make it a laughing stuff and there is no more hurt feelings.

My fiance was married before and we don't really talk about her as she caused him so much hurt and pain. I know the basics of why they divorced but I don't probe him about it. We don't really talk about my previous relationships as I haven't had many worth talking about. He know's my ex was a d1ck and that's about it. He knows that if he needs to talk to me about anything he can do.

My husband and I know all about eachother's past relationships, just so that the behaviour of the other can be explained, and all the nutty things that might be in our pasts. We wanted to be totally honest with eachother and not hide anything. It's important to us to know.

This is one thing we never talked or discussed about. I didn't talk about my exes and so my husband. Hubby prefers it that way and he never asks, for him what matters most is the present. I think that is the best way too. There is one thing that I still have in mind.. I am a person who keeps memorabilia and those love letters from my exes are gone and I suspect that hubby throw it away if not burned it but I dont ask him because I dont want to be asks in return if those are still important to me LOL.

Hello checapricorn, I don't talk about my past relationship especially with my husband. He doesn't like it and I don't like to know about his too. Sometimes, I do wonder about it and start to have a wild imagination about his past relationship. I don't feel good and always end up feeling uneasy. So, the best way for us is not to talk about it at all. Both of us already 'sealed' the past...

[b]hi checapricorn! in my case we do talk about our pasts and for sure we both try to learn on what situations to avoid that we had in past relationships. it doesn't really hurt me hearing him talking about his exes and vice versa because we both know that we can make things better in the relationship we are in. happy posting and happy mylotting![/b]

We talked about it once... just so that we will know where we both came from, and how these pasts made us the person who we are now... I don't feel that talking about the past and teasing each other about the past is healthy for a relationship... as it is called... past... we can never erase them from our lives, but it doesn't mean we should live by it. It is good that we tell our partners about it... but we should not bring it over and over.

Hi Che! Well we do talk my past and his past sometimes. We will be teasing each other until time comes that i will be mad at him because the way he tease me is too much. We are not yet married, he is still my boyfriend and we are so open to each other about it. He just want to make fun of my past and just laugh..he loves to tease me because i will get mad immediately lol..Well he is just a happy guy..so its okay. He will then kiss me after i will get mad anyway then im fine again.