military wife

You poor thing! Nobody understand the military life except OTHER military people - current or former. Not only are there deployments, which potentially put our spouses in danger, but we have random things to deal with that most civilians don't - especially if you live on the base/post. My husband has never had a longer deployment than four months, but it's still rough. Not only do you miss your spouse, but if you have kids, welcome to single parenthood! Hearing "When's Daddy coming home" for a week is NOTHING compared to hearing it for more than month, or even more than year...especially when you don't actually have an answer. Then there's the fact that your marriage really takes a hit after a long deployment - the rate of affairs and divorce is higher in the military world than in the civilian world, simply because being separated for so much of your marriage is very very hard - and reunions are sometimes even harder! People think it's this happy, joyful event, and it IS...for a while. But then your spouse sees some things that have changed, and you have to get used to each other all over again, and the kids maybe don't remember daddy/mommy. The sacrifice military families make is GROSSLY underestimated by the civilian world.

I am a military wife too. My husband goes TDY and deploys a lot as well. My brother is in the Army and has a wife and two small children. He was deployed to Afghanistan, came home for a few months only to be sent to Iraq for 18 months. If he doesn't come home in November like they were saying earlier, this will be the 3rd Christmas in a row that he has missed with his children. People that don't live it will never understand. I don't even try to get them to. My whole family is military so I am lucky to have a good support system.

Hello honuikaika87 I don't think anyone can possibly understand how you feel unless they have been in the exact same situation! My brother is in the army and has been in there since he was 17 and is now 38. He has travelled alot and has seen some things I don't want to even know about. He is now on his second marriage and they are expecting their first baby in November. At the moment he is stationed in Kuwait and his wife is with him so I guess she is lucky. They will be there together for at least 2 years but he can put in to stay longer if he wishes. He is a reasonably high ranked officer so I guesshe gets some pretty decent privalages