I am disappointed in him.

United States
September 20, 2008 1:35am CST
Now, everyone, you know me, I rarely ever mention my personal life on my here, but my boyfriend failed a year a college, he does not have a job, and he has no license. He tells me that he is working hard to get a job, but I do not see it. He says that he wants to get his license, but again, he is making no effort to get one. He tells me that he is working real hard in college this semester, but again, I do not see him cracking open a book and actually studying. All he ever does is play "World of Warcraft" (or "WoW" or "World of Warcrack" as some of you know it) and his Nintendo DS whenever I see him. Me, I do not have time for it, I am working online, taking care of people and things, and working my behind off to get a BA from the university that I am at now. I love him to death, but he is breaking my heart. It is like he does not care about anything. His parents do not get on his case about anything most of the time. They figure that as long as he does his chores and takes care of his sister, then everything is fine, but it is not. He takes great care of his sister, but he should not have to do that, his sister is his parents responsibility. Again, I love him, but I do not know how much longer I can deal with this? I do not want to tell him how I feel because I know for a fact that will most certainly lead to a break-up, and I really do not want to break-up with him because of all of this. He has never treated me badly. He has never yelled at me, hit me, drank, done drugs, or smoked. He is just really lazy and irresponsible. If he fails one more semester of college, he can kiss that place good-bye.
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@glitch (188)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Hello rogue13xmen13. What a moving story. First of all, I commend your ability to handle the relationship and still prolong it simply because of your feelings toward the person, I think thats a good thing and I encourage that you stand by it. The main highlight there isn't totally the laziness and irresponsibility, but the whole gaming addiction. That needs to be taken into consideration first. Usually (I'm not saying all) people resort to gaming when they just want to go to another world where there are no problems and just get rid of that stress and fact of failure for not being about to go through the college year. Of course that is a bad path, but what can save this is the actual relationship itself. I believe you need to give the person more attention, spend more time with him and encourage him in a positive way. My girlfriend has been a true inspiration in avoiding my nasty chat habits and doing something more productive and working online. You can break that addiction too and if the guy is really true, he'd break away or even just a bit to hear you out. Now after the gaming is taken out of the equation, it should be a more automatic process that he'll learn the value of aiming for success and hopefully making it through the semester. Be an inspiration. Tell him how important you are to him and that you wish for his success. I guess thats the best advice I can give, I'm sure others who know you better can give you better advice. Hope I was of some help. Best of luck to you guys.
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• United States
20 Sep 08
Well, now, I do ask him if he studied today or if he wants to do anything that day, but that does not seem to work. He sees how hard I work and how much I give up just so I can spend time with him. Right now, things have also been rough on our relationship because I have had surgery, but it is not like I am wanted to go through with having surgery, I had no choice. I am doing my best to get better and to do things with him, but that is not enough. I do not know how to motivate him because he gets whatever he wants. Everyone caters to him. He is such a smart guy. He is incredibly smart, but he has never been a hardworker, and he has never really been outgoing. He barely graduated high school, he has never had a job in his life, and he has never really had to work hard for anything.
@glitch (188)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
Tough, sounds real tough. Well you may have to do some sorta actions that related to waking up the person's mind. Say putting the relationship on the line. Don't want to judge or anything, but there are certain people that reach this comfort zone where they really think nothing bad will happen in the relationship and end up with him doing whatever he wants. Sometimes it helps to shaken things a bit to make things better. Of course that would be risky. In the end, it is still his own decision and only he can change himself ultimately.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
I think might have gotten through to him, a little bit today. My mother was also getting through to him, I think, I hope. Something wonderful happened to me today regarding my education, and I think that he sees that hard work and sacrifice really are paying off for me.
• United States
20 Sep 08
What have you done to help him? Have you help try and find him a job? Have you taken him driving in your car so he can get experience driving? Some people need help and a little motivation to get going in life
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• United States
21 Sep 08
Exactly, I should not have to be his mother. I should be his girlfriend. I live in the State of California, and you cannot teach someone to drive unless they have a permit, they are insured, and the instructor is over the age of 30 with a nearly spotless record, rules are pretty strict on driving, but yes, I have been helping him find a job, and I have told him that if he needs help with his course work that I am around to help him, but he does not like to bring up school or work in a conversation. If I bring it up a lot, I begin to sound like his mother. I should not have to play mother to him.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
21 Sep 08
men should not rely on girlfriend for motivation....they should just rely on themselves to be motivated. Who in the world wants to be someone's crutch??.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Sep 08
Hello. I am so sorry to hear that, but still I hope that your boyfriend will try his best to work hard at what is needed for him for a better future without being addicted to the games that you have mentioned here. Most importantly, he is able to make improvement only when he has really realized the importance of his study rather than playing games which does not bring with him any profit as a way of living. Let's hope for the best of him, dear friend. Good luck to you and take care.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
Thanks williamjisir. He seriously has to learn that school comes first.
@kerriannc (4279)
• Jamaica
20 Sep 08
This guy is irresponsible and I am encouraging you to try and put a distance between the two of you. My ex-boyfriend is the same thing and I think that with love and determination he will change but I only stress my self out. You are young and have your whole life in front of you. Pray and ask God to give you the substance to forget about him. He will not see what you are saying to him now but later when he finally realize it it will be too late. You know what you want continue to pursue your goal. I wish you all the best and may you be as successful as ever. God bless and keep you. Kerry
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• United States
21 Sep 08
Wow, this is becoming the "women who are, or were, in this kind of relationship" discussion because we all seem to be dealing, or have dealt, with men who are lazy. Yes, I do hope that are men straighten out because we should not have to put up with this, but the problem is, none of us wants to be alone either.
@shanemre (357)
• Saudi Arabia
20 Sep 08
If you see that he is doing something that is not doing him any good... you should be the one telling him this. You will not have to shout on him about this. Talk to him, make him understand. Encourage him to study... better, study together, so that you can be sure that he will mend his school works and not his computer games. You say you love him... you have to understand... help him... you feel disappointed in him for failing college... you have to think that he is feeling disappointed in himself now, he needs you more than ever. But, this does not meet that you will tolerate him again... help him, be with him to stop the things that made him fail..
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• United States
21 Sep 08
I have told him that studying and working hard in school is very important. I told him that if he needs help with some of his classes, I can help him. My specialites are English, Spanish, History, Philosophy, Psychology, just about anything in the College of Letters, Arts and Social Sciences department. I want to be his loving, supportive, helpful girlfriend. If I get on his case too much, I could end up being his mother. I do not want to be his mother.
• China
20 Sep 08
don't worry so much, maybe he don't found the most suitable job. when he found, he will do very well, you please keep patient, if you love him so much, so he should have somthing to worth .
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• United States
21 Sep 08
He has been looking for a job for two years now, my patience is becoming thin on that. He should also get better grades in his classes, and he is not.
@moondancer (7433)
• United States
21 Sep 08
This is a tough situation. But as you know most girl grow up before most guys. You except resposibility before they do. They are more laid back than we are. Now the thing is when will he grow up, learn his responsibility, and not be so laid back? SOme never do, some in the 20's, 30's, 40's, and some others never. Which one group does he fall into, that is very hard to say. Now do you want to wait around and find out? Do you want to push him into a position? Telling him I need you to step up and take your place as a man I know you are or can be. Do what you say you are doing and make some progress. Now as I see it people that are actually looking for a job, get one. People that are trying to get a drivers license, get one. You can give him an ultimatum and say until you do these things I want to be friends, or something along these lines. Or UNtil you do these things I'll be doing ...all the thing you do on a daily basis. Name them for him. Just to remind him what you do all the time. Maybe this will shake him up enough to wake him up and get him going like a cup of java. Like many married women telling their man when they don't do things they wish they would, tonight you sleep on the sofa, that wakes them up to the reality that they are not doing something right and they need to rectify the situation if they want their lady happy. Most men don't think in the same frame of mind as we do, in fact I don't know of many at all that do. lol We have to show what we think more than say what we think. And we have to find ways to make them think that what they do is what they are wanting instead of what we are wanting or thingking for that matter. Reverse pshycology
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• United States
22 Sep 08
That is just it, I do not want to live at home or with his parents when I am thirty. I would like to live on my own. I would like for him to be independent, and I would like for him to stand on his own two feet.
• United States
22 Sep 08
Reverse psychology usually works, from what I have heard, but I really do not know if it will work on him. Honestly, if he does not get a job by the end of the semester and if he fails another semester, I am going to have to leave him. I have helped him to get a job, and I have told him that I will help him out with classes that I can help him out with. He has to want to grow up, and he has to want to graduate college and get a job. I cannot be his mother.
• United States
22 Sep 08
dear , you don't need to be , or act in the role of his mother. I have been in those shoes. It was not a good one. You need a guy that will be a good companion, lover, friend, and man in your life. One that will work towrds simular goals as you are or at least towards some of his own. It's okay to push him and guide him, but he does have to make an effort and do things for himself. Every good man that has anything has a good woman behind him pushing him to be more, do, and have more. Likewise, some women have a man behind them offering them the same guidance and help. I agree with you. If he doesn't put forth the effort to help himself and do for himself, then you may need to move on. If you tell him this and he cares for you he may try. But he may take it as a reflection of himself that he won't like too. Getting him to do things in a way that he won't know works better. Trust me, it's worked for many years. Unless he is just one of the really lazy ones that don't care and has no goals yet and wants to live off of mom and dad for now. Best of luck and wishes to you dear. I hope all works out for you.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
The good thing is that he takes good care of his sister. That means he is responsible. I wonder if he really wanted to go to college in the first place. I know you love him and you want him in you life but if his idleness bothers you, you have to tell him.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
My mother and I confronted him about that. We asked him if he was ready for college, and he said that he was. I have told him that he needs to work hard in college, my own mother even told him. I told him that I would help him with his English studies if he needed it. What more can I do?
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• United States
22 Sep 08
I want him to get good grades and I want him to finish college. I do not want to have to support him. If I have to do that, then what is the point in being with him? I always to relationships as being 50/50.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
There is nothing you can do. It is all up to him. If he really wants to continue his studies, he will. If not, he won't.You have to make up your mind about him. Do you want to stay with him if he doesn't finish college?
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
20 Sep 08
Hi rogue... You really need to discuss your feelings to him about his behavior...If you don't then your life will be filled with stress...It may not mean a break-up but you need to be honest with him... In everything you do it will be there in the forefront of your mind and that will cause problems... Have you gone with him to fill out an application...or to the drivers license place? It isn't healthy for you to have these unresolved feelings eating away at you..and with you working towards a BA and trying to do your best to get done with your education..and having to worry about him not getting his education, or having a job, or getting his license is going to cause you trouble.. You need to confront him and go from there...If he loves you then he will get his butt out of that chair and away from "WOW" and get his act together....
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• United States
21 Sep 08
I have been going with him to send in nearly every job application that he has sent in. I have cannot help him with his license because I am not his parent, he has to have a permit, insurance, and someone over a certain age to teach him out to drive with a nearly spotless driving record. I have told him that I will help him out with any of the course work that I can help him with, but he never comes up to me for any help or advice on the subject.
• United States
22 Sep 08
So, I know what I am going to be faced with if I stay with him then. Thanks for your response.
@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
20 Sep 08
We could make up a club name for these kind of relationships. I am 42 and have the same problems here. My BF is 44 and is trying hard to get a job and is always helping others(for free). He is really very sweet, but to lazy to get out of bed in the morning. This brings him in the most difficulty. That is the reason why he can not keep a job. I have no more money and need to pay for my house from my parents as well. I am going nuts. Refrigerator is empty. But like you, I love this guy! But, I don't now how much longer I can keep this up. Take care, and good luck to you.
• United States
21 Sep 08
Oh my word, you too! Again, what is up with our men today? This seems to be a really horrible trend. Well, I am so glad that I am not alone in this, but at the same time, I feel bad that we are all in these kinds of relationships. Thank you, Margajoe, and good luck to you too. We both need it.
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• United States
22 Sep 08
I have been going with him to job interviews, and he went to a job interview this last Friday, and I sure hope that they hire him because he needs this job.
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@Margajoe (4709)
• Germany
21 Sep 08
Thanks. Remember, "Love will find a way." LOL! Keep smiling, we will get there. I put my BF to work today,lol! I have a Sunday job, and made him do it for me. I said: "When you are to lazy to go to work, you will stay in bed too. Today it is my turn!" You should have seen his face.LOL! He went, and I have my peace. LOL! Take care, Margajoe.
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@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
21 Sep 08
I think alot of people get way too involved with thoses games. The very game you mentioned my landlord, my son and my son in law are all overly involved with. They play from the minute they wake up till the minute they go to sleep. They go to work. They sleep. All the rest of the time they are playing that game. My daughter even told me one day he forgot to give the kids lunch so he let them have potatoe chips for lunch. I myself play sims2. Probably more than i should. I dont allow myself to play unless my house is clean. If i sit playing too long my a-- gets tired of sitting. I dont know how they do it so long. I have to get up and do other things.
• United States
22 Sep 08
It is a very addictive game, and of them are, and it can really hurt when someone is addicted to them. He needs to separate himself from the games and do what he has to do. Thanks for the advice.
• United States
25 Sep 08
See, some people are not addicted, and they can keep it under control by only playing for one to two hours a day, anymore than two hours and you are an addict in my eyes.
@jdyrj777 (6530)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Yes. Its a matter of sitting your priorties straight. He needs to get his under controll.
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@savypat (20216)
• United States
21 Sep 08
Aare you supporting him with money? If so I'd think about cutting that off. Sounds like he might be addicted? You really can't make someone do something they don't want to do, so why waste your time? By continueing to ask him you are causing him to lie to get you off his back, think about what this is doing to the relationship where you want it to end up. LOL
• United States
22 Sep 08
I am not paying for any of his games or anything like that at all, his parents are paying for everything. Occasionaly, when we go out, I will flip the bill, but other than that, he pays for most of our dates. Lately, he is not showing me that he wants to make a great life for himself. Everyone caters to him. One of his friends paid for his ticket and the hotel room when they went to San Diego Comic Con. I worked my butt off to get to that convention this year, and I could not go because I could not afford it and I had to go in for surgery. I was so mad that he got a free ride and I had to stay home. This semester at his college (he attends the college that I just graduated from), he would rather do more club activities than work hard in his classes and get a job. Well, if he fails one more semester at this college, he can kiss his college career good-bye. I have told him over and over again that his schooling and working have to come first.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
22 Sep 08
It sounds like he is spoiled, I wonder what you see in him? If I were you I'd be looking in the mirror at my own motivation. Don't worry none of you are bad people it's just that you maybe fooling yourself. Most women think they are going to change their man, well, let me tell you that doesn't work real well in the long run.
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• United States
22 Sep 08
Yes, he is rather spoiled. I wonder what I see in him myself? I know what I want. I want to graduate from the university I am attending, I want to work as a teacher and a writer, I want to own my own home, and I want children if I am able to have them. As for him, I do not really know what he wants? He gets everything that he wants and it scares me. I do not want to support him. I want him to support himself. I have given him a deadline, if he cannot get a job or good grades by the end of this year, then I am walking out of this relationship because I cannot deal with this anymore.
21 Sep 08
yeah..kinda disappointed of what your boy friend is doing to his life..being addicted to world of war craft and doesn't even focusing on his studies..what a drag..but i suggest that you should talk to him try to show him what you feel about him seeing his ruining his life and focusing on crazy games that is too addictive..don't be afraid of telling him what your assessment to him..that's all i can say for now..tee hee
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• United States
21 Sep 08
Everyone says that I should talk to him. I have talk to him about a few things, but I cannot nag him or get on his case about everything or else I will have the word "mother" written all over my face.
• United States
25 Sep 08
Today, I actually did get on his case about things, and I have been slowly giving him a lot of space. He is going to see that if games are going to be his, then I am not going to be a part of it. I have told him how I feel, but I cannot change him, and if he is not getting the message, then nagging him and acting like his mother is going to get me nowhere.
24 Sep 08
how many times did you approach him in the same topic of yours???once?twice??how many???..hmm..i suggest that you should let him do his activities..but try to push him into studies..hmm..try and try don't lose hope in him..love him with all your heart..then if he don't listen to what you are saying..just let him realize what is he doing is very wrong..just understand him..but always remind him that he's doing is a drag thing..don't be afraid of what may happen..
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@Ronrich (27)
• Singapore
20 Sep 08
YOu should presuade him to quit his World of Warcraft game as it is really addicitive. If he has the discipline to limit his time in playing games and manage his time in studying as well as playing. Im sure he will do well for his exams.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
I need to get him away from games in general. It has completely taken over his life. His studies and work should come first, before any games. Honestly, "World of Warcraft" is the worst MMORPG that could ever have been created because of what it does to people. People are paying $15 to be hooked on a computer game. It is disturbing.
• United States
21 Sep 08
It is, any addiction is serious. It can really ruin a person's life.
• Singapore
21 Sep 08
I am a gamer as well so i understand the addiction in computer games. It is hard to get him out from that game but still possible. It takes time so you must make sure that he stops playing constantly. COmputer games addiction is the same as smoking. Once he quits playing, make sure he does not go back even for awhile or he will be back to original.
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@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
20 Sep 08
hi rogue. i'm so sorry to hear about your boyfriend's laziness and irresponsibility. its hard to cure laziness. it seems he lacks motivation to earn money and to develop himself. maybe because he is always taken care of, there's always somebody who provides for him that's why he doesn't feel the need to work or to finish college. he lacks motivation. maybe people providing for him should stop providing for him for a while. when he doesn't have anything, maybe he'll try to work and provide for himself. yeah i guess maybe you should leave him for a while. make him realize what he needs to do. there wouldn't always be people who would provide for him. he'll have to work for himself eventually.
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• United States
21 Sep 08
I know that I should leave him, but I cannot seem to do it. I am seriously afraid of being alone and I am afraid that if I find someone else, he will be worse than what I have no, far worse. I really do not know what to do. Thank you, secretbear, you seem to be feeling the same way a lot of the other posters are feeling about this situation.
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• United States
22 Sep 08
Well, thankfully, we are not living together. I live with my mother because it is just she and me, and she has been helping me while I have been trying to get better. My mother and I both do our part around our place. My mother works a lot, and I work at home and work online. I do not go back to classes until this week, but I know that when I go back I am going to be working as hard as I can to get my above a B average.
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Sep 08
i'm scared to be alone too but we shouldn't make it a reason to let people take advantage of us. i really understand how you feel but...what is the use of living together with someone when you are not happy with him anymore? if you are not willing to leave him, then you just have to think of other ways to help him change. but i think as long as there's someone he can cling to, it'll be hard for him to change.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
3 Oct 08
[i]Hi roque, wow...quite tough! I guess this topic should be discussed with the two of you because in relationship, we always talk about future, plans and dreams and you can always insert this! I know how you feel because I myself will always love to have a man who has a dream and who is responsible but if he will not do anything to help himself grow, that is very disappointing! DO you think he has some problem? or just raise in a way like this? SO, I know that if you will be there to support him and your plans in the future might motivate him to look forward and do things whatever he can do this time![/i]
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• United States
3 Oct 08
Well, I have told him how I felt about him not doing well in school, and I have most certainly told his mother, but his mother is a trip sometimes. She knows her son is smart, she knows that he can graduate college, but she does not get on his case to do well in school, she does not even seem to care if he quits school, and that just gets to me. I told her how I felt about all of this. When I was down and out sometimes, and I felt like wanting to quit school, my mother said that if I do not do well in school that life would be difficult for me, and she showed me how hard it would be. She had me spend a whole day at her job, showing me how to do her work and how to file. My mom's job is tough, and my mother knows more than all of the people at her office. She has been there for thirty years, she can run the place if she so wanted to, I think she did at one point, but my point is that my mother showed me the real world would be like if I did not work towards a college degree. My boyfriend's mother has not done that with him. My boyfriend has never had to work, except for taking care of his sister.
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• United States
3 Oct 08
w[i]e have people who are like that really roque, no dreams and contented only of what they are doing everyday even if the know they can do better than that! Hopefully, your boyfriend will realize how important also to exert effort and how wonderful it is to have a dreams and work for it and even if his mother is not motivating and supporting him at all about this, just get the inpiration from you and your relation[/i]ship!
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• Malaysia
22 Sep 08
Hey there, I think there are these type of boys who are irresponsible and lazy. However, I, like your bf have something in common which is game addiction and I am trying really hard to get rid of it. I usually spens about $10 per day in cyber cafes to play WOW and nowadays I limit myself to just $5 per day and it is so not easy. I have to really push myself to stay at college until 9pm to avoid myself into falling inside the artificial cyberworld everyday and of course sometimes I lose control and play again. You must try to stop your bf from falling into this cyberworld. He will lose his sense of reality. ^^
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• United States
22 Sep 08
That worries me as well, most of these boys, and men, today only want to play "World of Warcraft" or just play games in general. Is the real world really all that bad? Is it truly that horrible? I surely hope not. Honestly, these game are great if you have a lot of leisure time, but when you really need to stand on your own two feet, and help support a family, you need to limit those games, or just stay away from them altogether. I really hope that these men see that real life is not that bad, and that these games are just that, games. Again, I love my boyfriend, but his habits are killing our relationship.
• Malaysia
23 Sep 08
For some, reality is worse than fantasy and in this cyberworld, u'll will feel artificial 'satisfaction' when people online ask you for help or wanna buy your things. It is all artificial but when they get hooked with this, they get addicted to the feeling. I've experienced it and now i'm limiting myself to play at night for 3 hours only.
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
4 Oct 08
There's a limit to everything that we can take. I know you love your boyfriend but what if he never changes and you can take it anymore? Sometimes no matter how we love the person, we just cant tolerate or take their faults anymore. Try to have a heart to heart talk with him. Tell him to be more responsible with his life. The world is getting harder and harder to live in and he needs to get a job. His parents are not gonna be there for him forever. You wont too if you get tired of him.
• United States
5 Oct 08
I have told him how I feel, and he knows that if he does not straighten out that I will be walking out on him.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 08
well... i understand ur feeling... my dear is different with ur boyfriend... he is a very good person in study... he now working n taking his part-time BA.... i happy tat he is so hardworking but sometime i really dun understand wat he 1.... he wish to get a very good result in his exam... when he get B, he will said tat he wish to take the exam again... i noe he is hardworking, tat is good... but i really dun understand... B is oledi a very good result.... for me, if i get B, i happy n i dun wish to waste my money my time to re-do it... n somemore v hv our own plan... v wish to bough house then v can stay together... now, both of us r so far n very difficult to meet up... 1 years 4-5 times oli... so i really wish tat v can save more money on tat... but if he really 2 re-do his exam, then v hv 2 spent more money... I noe mayb tat is my problem... i expact too much from him... but ,,, actually i oso wish 2 further my study ... just i wish to earn more money,so i decide to hold on my study 1st... i duno whether i rite or wrong but sometime will really feel sad coz u r doing so many things for him, u love him so much but he like just thinking hisself... it really hurt.... not to said tat he dun love u, he do love u n very good to u, just wat u 1, he duno... friend, from my experience, u must hv a talk with ur boyfriend.. like me, now, both of us is very ok... coz after v talk, ya, when talk it really very hurt n pain, u will cry... u will scared coz duno wat will happen later but, dun worry, things will be settle if u r face it... now, my dear noe i was thinking n i noe wat he is thinking, so, v can find out a better way to b together.... if u dun hv a talk with ur boy friend, he will just think u ok with it n he will continue doing the same things... u will disappointed coz he is not changing but he won't noe tat u r disappointed coz u din said anything... friend, guy is like tat, if u din said, he will nvr noe wat u thinking,,, guy r very careless on all this matter... so, my advice is just hv a talk with him.... if not, if u keep disappointed with him, u n him oso very difficult to stay for long.... Wish u happy ....
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• United States
22 Sep 08
That is what I did tonight. I talked to him. I talked to him about working. I will bring up school on another night, but I told him that he must get some kind of a job. My ultimatum is this: He needs to get good grades and a job this semester or, by January it is over. I need to know that I can trust him.
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
22 Sep 08
well.... hope u can get a very good response from him... Hope u can like me, now me n my dear is ok oledi... v oledi noe wat v all 1.... hv a happy talk n happy day... =)
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• China
20 Sep 08
first of all,i am so sorry to hear about it.i figure, he has been the love of your life. And you can do everthing for him. no luck,he isn't. on contrast,he is irresponsible guy.he is lazy and care about nothing. you know, i have got nonthing about him, makes me feel he is not the guy for you. now, you may tell him how you feel. however, you are afraid you will break up because of this. even, you still think he has never treated you badly.actually, it isn't a pefect reason. you start to complain and feel bad, so you have changed out of cotral. it's just……you can't feel it at once. so, can try to talk with him about your feeling and above all, hope him to chang. in fact, maybe he is where he is because of you. please, belive in time waits for no one good luck
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• United States
21 Sep 08
That is just it, he has not treated me badly. He is just flat out lazy and he just wants to spend time with the computer and video games all day. I am doing a lot of the hard work in this relationship, and he is not doing very much. Again, we love each other a lot, and I know how most songs say that love is enough, but love in not enough in today's world.
• China
25 Sep 08
tomorrow is a good day!