do you hate your father?
By Erssyl
@Erssyl (617)
Philippines
September 21, 2008 8:29am CST
During my childhood days I hated my father because he was short tempered.All five of us are very afraid of him.He was very strict and he usually hurt my mother who was ten years older.This was my reason why I married a man older than me.Now that he's gone I realized I should not hate him that much.
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12 responses
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
21 Nov 08
Actually, my father is not short tempered. He is a little bit quiet and when we do a little mistake he let it pass. He gathered all what we have done wrong and that's the time he will beat us. I am sorry about what happened to your childhood. I know that hate is not the right word but I do understand you. At least now you realize that you love him. He is still your father anyway.
@aisaellis22 (6445)
• United States
22 Feb 09
oh yeah, you will really never know it until it's gone...just continue giving advises..
@lovelyvelle (639)
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15 Nov 08
My father was very strict in the family, but he played a favoritism role. Even its my younger brothers and sister's fault its me who got punished because he said, I am the eldest one so I should be the one who will protect and teach my younger siblings. I felt like it was all unfair to me and I hated him about lots of things that he had done to me, I never forgive him even at the last minute of his life he asked forgiveness but I answered, "I wish you would die then we will be all in peace"!
@lovelyvelle (639)
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16 Nov 08
Yes, I think as human being which we live in flesh and spirit. There's always a soft spot in our hearts that just proves that we are only human. Sometimes some people wants us to live upto their own expectations and that's what my dad did to me, but then he made a big mistake that ruined the whole family's life as he is the head of the family, and that's one of the reasons I didn't forgive him, but now I am haunted with this regret praying that I can be forgiven.
@fawad_ash (52)
• Pakistan
22 Sep 08
Yes you should not hate him, because he was your father. if he was strict to you then he also loved you as his perantal nature.
@fawad_ash (52)
• Pakistan
23 Sep 08
May Allah Bless you. to understand own mistake is good deed and every one does not have such a courage. Now where is your father? Can you excuse him?
@klaudine (3650)
• Indonesia
21 Sep 08
I never hate my father. I love him so much even since when I was a little kid. I felt like I love him more than my mother, because my mother was so strict and my father was like more spoiling father to the beloved daughter LOL. But now I realized that both of them loves me and I love both of them equally. They just showing their love in a different manner LOL
@Jenaisle (14078)
• Philippines
30 Jan 09
That's sad, but yes we all have to move on. These experiences make us stronger persons. I hope in time you'll learn how to forget and forgive because it is a virtue. Time would heal all your wounds, it's up to you to facilitate this process. He's gone now and there's no use bearing the misery of your grudge and dislike for him. Good luck and happy mylotting.
@gayathrigs (871)
• India
21 Sep 08
Mostly fathers are like that, even my father also is a bit short tempered sometimes , but then I dont hate him at all, because he loves me at the same time so much. He gets me whatever I want and I have never faced any problems with him at all. He has always been a support for me during my hard times. I do love my father and my mother equally. I am sorry to hear that about your father that he hurt your mother. That is bad, i also accept that. My father always gives first preference to my mother only in all occasions.
@bubbletush (1332)
• Philippines
22 Feb 09
my father is the exact opposite of your father and i am lucky to have such a father. i love him so much.
