Can We Still Find True Friendship Even If We're Broke?

@mjmlagat (3171)
Philippines
September 22, 2008 2:25am CST
True friendship for me means through thick and thin, you're always there to be my friend but does this still apply especially when it comes to monetary matter? I am just a bit curious about this because in times of economic crisis like the present times we have, people would cease to be friends to someone who needs financial assistance or at least, pretend to be just "nowhere-to-be-found"? Have you experienced this before when you need financial assistance and when you think of the persons who can lend you a helping hand, they're just nowhere to be found? Please share your thoughts. THanks as always!
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23 responses
@sang2k2 (1834)
• India
23 Sep 08
i think when a person is broke definately one would need a shoulder to cry on or for support.So friends are the best person who can provide help and support at the crisis times.but when it comes to financial crisis many people would not be able to find a friend.actaully one shouldnt mix friendship and finance. even i dont help any my friend with finance.as that affects the realtion.
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@sunsham68 (1378)
• India
9 Dec 08
yes, you have a very good point there, to quote a proverb "Never borrow, never lend if you want to keep a friend"
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Thank you guys for the response!
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
It still is true for some. I have friends who asked for financial assistance and I helped them the way I can. If I have money then I will really help them, but if I don't have, then I'll tell them the truth. Have a nice day!
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
You, too! Thanks for sharing!
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• Philippines
22 Sep 08
can anyone teach me how to put a tag here plss.. thnx
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@Nan110 (469)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I have a few true friends and one of them homeless for now but not for long. Money don't mean anything to me but my true friends means alot to me.
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Thanks for the response!
@rowe0525 (677)
• China
23 Sep 08
hmm it is hard to say ,,but i think we can ,i have meet with this before ,we are really can do this ,i feel happy ,friendship is an important things in one,s life so we should keep our friendship as long as we live may our friendship last till the end of ther universe
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Thanks!
@LittleMel (14036)
• Canada
23 Sep 08
I don't like borrowing money from friends because it will make me look like a beggar or useless. I'd rather borrow from family if I need to, or the bank because that's where the most money is. I will however tell the truth about my financial situation if I can't afford something, I really don't like boasting or prideful lies. Friends wise I don't necessarily lend them money if they need to, I did before and they said they would return it yet they didn't or just left me in the cold. So I don't relate money with friendship, either lending or borrowing anymore.
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing yoyr thoughts. Happy posting!
• India
23 Sep 08
i have friend who is always true to me .he will always be there for me when there is crisis for me.if suppose ia m need of money he will the first one to give.i always trust him.iam lucky to such a kind of friend.not only money,he gives all kinds of things.happy mylotting
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
You're so luck to have him in your life! Thanks!
@annjilena (5620)
• United States
22 Sep 08
when i had my own business and making good money i had the most friends wanting me to take trips and including me in on everything going on.borrowing money alsorts of things i had more friends then i knew what to do with.but then i close my business a few years ago where are these friends i had nobody got time for you now that you don,t have a whole lot of money flowing.i learn the hard way friends, are not cut out to be what people think they are most of the time they are not there when you need them.
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
I'm so sorry to hear that..I believe you just had the wrong group of friends, some we can call "parasites." Anyway, you moved on with your life without them, right? Good luck my friend. Thanks!
• United States
22 Sep 08
I have made it a pact to never lend money to family or friends. I've loaned money to both and we are no longer on speaking terms. It seems that my generosity was abused and when it came time I needed a little assistance, I had all the doors slammed in my face. However, if I know someone in the family or my very best friend is in a bind, I will maybe take them out to lunch, or bring over a few groceries, or give them an early birthday gift. I'm not cold hearted ya know. If there is someone in dire need and I know they don't have any relief in sight, I will suck it up and help them out.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Yes there are just times that our generousity could be a cause of trouble at the end and it's just terrible! People tend to misinterpret our kind deeds sometimes or sometimes they just become ungrateful. Thanks a lot!
@Ithink (10616)
• United States
22 Sep 08
Like you I think true friendship is thru thick and thin. I am one that I dont ask often to borrow money as I just dont like too. I do know that if I need to I can go to my best friend thou and she would do it for me, no questions asked. Same as I would for her. That is what friendship is give and take. I got really lucky with my BFF.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Good luck and thanks for your time in responding my discussion!
@GemmaR (8521)
22 Sep 08
Oh friendships can be formed regardless of how much money we have! It's all about the way we speak to each other, not about how much money we can spend when we go out. A cup of tea in front of the tele can be just as good as a night out in my opinion, and I know that a lot of my friends feel the same!
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Thanks for the response.
@phisha84 (286)
• United States
22 Sep 08
I don't really have "friends" so to say....but I have had a person that I trust and I a pretty sure she trusts me ask me for money...and if I had it and didnt need it...I would give it to her and she has never failed to pay me back, which is good but when i have needed money she has never been there for me lol...no big suprise....I have always gone out of my way to help her out...like when she was crying last christmas and I went and bought her kids each(2) $100 worth of presents because her and her bf broke up, which was the father of one of her kids and he was the money maker. And her other kids father wanted nothing to do with him....and theres a time she needed $500 dollars for a car, and the time she needed $250....But know the tables of money has turned around for me, so she don't really come around.....maybe she's to lazy to drive...but I don't think she wants to come here.....But hey as long as I can still attract a hot guy I'm good...I have really never needed friends...I have my daughters and parents, sisters, and neices...and that hot guy I mentioned lol. So thats all that matters to me...is that they are all happy and I am loved.
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Thanks for sharing! Have a nice day ahead!
• United States
22 Sep 08
mjm, Charles Stanley said : "In times of prosperity, our friends know us In times of adversities, we know our friends " In the past, I've seen many good friends part ways simply because someone, loaned someone money - when they truly needed it and it didn't get paid back to them as fast as they thought it should. Instead of being the true friend and going to talk to the person they loaned the money to, they "mouth off" to others and say things like "I should have known better, or he's a worthless piece of crap"! It's a shame that we all can't be more understanding and work together on things. I've borrowed money before and used the barter system to "work off" my debt. That works and few people try it. To me, a true friend is there and WILL understand and try to work with you on anything you are going through!
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Yes, that should have been what friends are for! Thanks for your time with us!
@subha12 (18452)
• India
22 Sep 08
it is true that true friendship should not depend on money. but it happened something in reverse way to me. i provided all financial assistance to one friend who was so calle dgood friend. after that he chetaed me big times. i am hurt by that
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
afterall, he was not really your true friend...I'm sorry to hear about that but don't waste your life on someone as opportunist as he is. Good luck. Thanks for your time shared.
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@paid2write (5202)
22 Sep 08
I would never rely on friends if I was in the situation of having no money, but I have been friends with people in that situation. The lack of money does not stop me from liking a person, and I will help them if I can. I think spending time with someone is more valuable than money. True friendship does not expect handouts, but I would not want to see someone I cared for go hungry or lose their home. If I thought someone only wanted to be my friend because I had more money than they did, that would be different, but if we have been friends before they needed the money I would still be their friend.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
You're such one generous and honest soul, cheers to you my Friend! Your friend are just blessed having your presence in their lives! God bless you all the time! THanks...
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@amlegend (945)
• Pakistan
22 Sep 08
of course there are lots and lots of people who will cease to be friends just to take advantage of you but that doesn't mean that there are nice honest people in the world who would do anything to help their friends the need is to be selective and then to tell them that you trust them otherwise as they say "where ever you find good conduct and honesty, forward your hand for friendship. otherwise, your loneliness is your best friend" gudluck to all in quest of such friends
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
okay, THanks and good luck to you too!
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• Malaysia
22 Sep 08
Hey there mjmlagat, I seldom ask friends for money as it can be a very bad habit. SO I usually do not ask them for financial assistance. But I always ask for advice and as long as my friends are there to listen to my problems and gives me good avice then it is fine for me..^^
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@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
It's even more valuable than money, right? Thanks for your thoughts!
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@ganda8831 (816)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Well i have experienced friends asking me to lend them money but i haven't really experienced asking money from my friends. On two or more occassions i have lend money to my friends. If it's not too big and i know i can afford to give it to them, i let them borrow. But there are times when the amount is too big and i just don't have that kind of money so i decline. I tell them honestly that i don't have money. It's not easy to lend money nowadays because times are hard. Maybe your friend doesn't really have money to give you.
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
Yes, a resounding Yes! Some friends, of course, you lose, they fade away. Perhaps they are not worth keeping, anyway. Other friends, hearing your circumstances, will search for you, and, finding you, will offer help, without preconditions. Others will impose conditions, but only to force you to search your inner strength and match or even top the assistance and speed up your recovery.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing! Happy posting!
@sunsham68 (1378)
• India
9 Dec 08
True friends will understand if you help them or dont, thats the thick and thin part of it right! Yes you can still find True Friendship Even If you're Broke, in fact I would say that's when you find true friendship, the others will have to be put to the test of fire before you find out!
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
...they are the REAL TRUE friends! Thanks for the reply.
@leicyn (96)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Yes we can find still find True Friendship even we are broke. there still friends who's willing to help in time of need and vise versa. There still some people who look at what u have or how big your pocket are, there still someone who looks whats inside your heart, and there's no money involved in it. And sometimes being broke is one way to find out who's your true friend are. And the True Friendship starts from there.
@mjmlagat (3171)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Absolutely. But friends like these are just hard to find these days. Thanks for your time!