Has anyone in your family ever run away from home?

India
September 22, 2008 3:24am CST
We hear a lot of stories about people leaving their homes. But just imagine something of that kind happenning in your family. Last week a friend of mine faced a similar situation. Her younger brother, Just nine years old, told her mother that he was going out to play. He went and didn't return even after two hours.Mother got suscpiscious and started searching for him frantically.She saw the neighbourhood,park,his school and the nearby locality. When she couldn't find him,she called my friend who had gone out with us at one of our friend's party.She hurriedly returned home and together they searched for him at every place they could think of.Then suddenly they got a call from a relative who lives at the other end of the town,that Her brother was at their place and he had gone their on foot.He actually walked all the way through from one end of the town to the other.Finally when they reached there and asked why he did that ,he simply smiled and said,"just for fun". I mean, isn't that ridiculous.It was hard to digest.Her brother otherwise is a good child and is good in studies as well.I just don't understand why he did that.I was so happy for my friend. But it made me wonder about all those who run away from their houses.Some of them return,some of them are brought back forcibly while so many of them never return,or meet with some accident.Do you know of any such incidence?What do you think about this incident? I think the child and family were just plain lucky.
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@balasri (26549)
• India
23 Sep 08
My nephew ran away from the hostel when he was nine years old.He didn't like the school.He was straying and was picked up by a person who informed us 80 miles away. I rushed with my uncle and aunt and that person seemed to be my class mate.That is what you call the fate.
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• India
23 Sep 08
Whoa!! Fate it is indeed. Another lucky fellow.Thanks balasri for sharing.
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@balasri (26549)
• India
25 Sep 08
Yeah .They don't say for nothing that the truth is stranger than fiction.
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@ParaTed2k (22980)
• Sheboygan, Wisconsin
22 Sep 08
I ran away when I was 14. I woke up one morning with that "something big is going to happen today" feeling, but didn't know why. A couple of hours later, in 2nd period, I decided to run away... I guess that was the "big something" for the day. I left the school and headed to the bank. I took out all the money I had (a little over $100) then hopped the bus to Salt Lake City (I lived in Kaysville, Utah at the time). In Salt Lake, I bought a Greyhound bus ticket. I have no idea why I chose St. George, Utah. but that's where I headed. St. Goerge is about 350 miles from Kaysville. When I got to St. George, I checked into a motel for the night. The next day I went to a bank and opened an account (I figured I would spend my money a lot slower if it wan't in my pocket), I also filled out applications at fast food places. My plan was to work long enough to get a paycheck, then hit the road for another place and do the same thing. A few days later, I called my best friend to let him know I was ok. No one, not even him knew that I was going to run away. Heck, I didn't even know before I left. It was a stupid thing to do. Nothing bad happened to me, but I also had no reason to do it. My parents were great, never abused me or gave me reason to run. As near as I can tell, the reason I did it was out of boredom and a wander lust that I've never really shaken. It was a rotten thing to do to my parents.
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• India
22 Sep 08
You have given quite an insight of what goes in the mind of the kid running away from home. Why are children so naive? I mean for no apparent reason,they would leave the comfort and safety of their homes and families.Yes,ofcourse for the reason to get some thrill and adventure?
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@nengs10 (3188)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
That's a very terrible situation. I can't that thing to happen in our family. Actually, it happened in my wife's family. My wife's mother lost an older brother as he ran away from home and went to nowhere. It's already more than 20 years after that incident, yet they still can't find him.
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@ThulsZ (784)
• India
23 Sep 08
This probably happens in every house..because,of their younger ones........... This happens in our family.wen my sister was three years old......... she mistakenly held the hand of another lady.....who was wearing a same dress like my mom in hospital... that lady made an announcement with the hospitals security about my sister........ otherwise,my mom might be in the same situation of that little boys mom.........
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@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
22 Sep 08
My son dropped out of high school and ran away from home at the age of 16. I had the police looking for him for over a week. I was frantic. Finally I heard from a friend of his that he was safe and staying with other friends. They finally got him to call home. His dad and I were going thru a really tough divorce at that time and our son just couldn't deal with all of the turmoil. I felt bad, but knew there wasn't anything I could do to change what was happening. My son was gone for about a month. Finally he came back home. He didn't go back to school but got a job and eventually got his GED later. He is now 27 and going thru his own divorce with two of his own children. Funny how life can be.
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• India
23 Sep 08
You bet,it indeed is..So true! As the phrase goes.......'Life is stranger than fiction.'
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• India
25 Sep 08
Or is it,"Reality is stranger than fiction?"
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@KrauseHome (36746)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well, I never ran away per say, but I did play hookey one day from school, and would have got away with it, if I would not have got caught, and was always going to the next town to get away. I remember one time hiding out all day in some bushes afraid of my Step Dad since he was so abusive, and finally gave up around the time it got dark. But my sister who is now 41 did actually run away, but only to a Girlfriends for a couple of days to escape my Step Dads abuse as well. Glad to hear your friends son was only at a family members and safe.
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• India
25 Sep 08
Yes,I am so glad too that he is safe.Sorry to know that you and sister had to face abuse in childhood.You and your sister had reason to do what you did.
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@jaygee96 (316)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Yes. My sister live with me and my husband. I got mad at her one night because she almost burn the house. Me and my husband was not at home that time but when we return, we saw that the house is full of smoke. The reason, she left the food unattended when she was cooking. That night, I dont know that she was planning to run away. The next day, I saw her room cleaned without her things. She asked help to her boyfriend who looked for a boarding house for her that time. We're okay now, but I think we will never be the same to each other again. Running away is one way of disrespecting people who provided you with home, etc
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• India
24 Oct 08
Sorry to know that jaygee. But the good thing is that both of you are at peace now.Time is a big healer.Who knows a few years down the line, you find the bonding back again.
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@littleone3 (2065)
22 Sep 08
My elder sister run away when she was 15. She run away with her best friend. They were missing for three days and both sets of parents were frantic. I remember that i still had to go to school and all i got there was questions about my sister running away. All her friends could not believe it and were coming to me to ask if it was true. In the end they were both found by the police safe and well in a cafe in London.
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• India
24 Oct 08
Thats good news. Safe and well. But dear littleone had to face all the curious questions without any fault of hers. But now with your sister back, you can smile.
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• United States
22 Sep 08
I don't get why people run away. parents work so hard just to raise them and in the end when they become teen they just want to isolate their own parents shame on them... but your story is different.... I guess some parents abuse thier childern or they treat them like garbage so they deceded to run away which is the other thing......
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• India
23 Sep 08
Yes.That might be the other side of the picture.But then again its quite a sad thing to happen.At least parents should realise their responsibility and duty to bring up their children with love and care.
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• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Hi daffodil20! Personally I think that your friend's brother is really young and couldn't have thought the consequence of his actions. Whether he is a good child and is good in school he is still young and he is bound to make those "stupid" mistakes just like many of us did back when we were children, but in time when he'll grow up hopefully he'll realize what a naughty boy he was back then and that running away is definetily not a game. ^_^ Anyway, to answer your other question, well not only did someone from my family run away I was that someone who ran away. Just for a quick background it all started with this feud between me and my dad that happened in Nov2007 which was actually blown into proportion to the point that he threathened me to stop my studies. Back then I was already 2yrs behind in my major because I had to give way to my sister's health (including pregnancies, medical operations etc). So stopping my studies was really not an option anymore for me. So I decided to run away and be independent. After that everything kinda fell into places, I got a steady job with good pay, my very own apartment, I'm able to pay for my studies and I even got some extra to help out my family. I guess like you said you can call it luck. Though my dad and I long reconciled I still choose to live on my own, I think it's better this way at list I am not anymore a burden at home and at the same time I can still help them financially. I think that what I did was the best thing I'd ever do in my adult life and nor do I regret it. But this is not something I would recommend unless you are really in the right mind and age and definetely capable to accept the consequence(s) of your actions. ^_^
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• India
23 Sep 08
Very well said poisonivy27!!Its not recommended.Only if there is no way out.But again as said one must have the right age and mind and capability to accept and withstand the consequences.I am so happy everything turned out so well for you that now you help your family too. Maybe it was destined to happen for your good. Destiny, its an enigma.
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@belk89 (1103)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
My aunt run away when she was younger. We were all worried about her. Then we found out that she was running away with her bf. Who happens to be her husband now. It makes us all freak out at first since we never knew where she was going and if shes fine or not. I think nobody should do that to there family unless they are force to marry someone or they were threat by one of there family members. Instead of running away i think it is best to just talk to the parents about the problem so that they will understand the situation better instead of choosing to just run away and make everybody worried.
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• India
23 Sep 08
It is a very dreadful experience for the family,if not for the person ,that is ,if he/she is fortunate enough to survive the experience.
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@fasttalker (2797)
• United States
22 Sep 08
My son sort of ran away from home when he was 16 years old. There was no warning, he just decided he just wanted to go to a friends house that he had been told earlier that he couldn't go to. So when he didn't retun home in a couple of hours I contacted the parents of the house he had gone to (there wasn't any wondering, I pretty much knew what he had done) and we devised a plan. At 10:00 pm. the mom of that house told him it was time for him to leave and when he reached home there was a note on the door and a suitcase. The note read "We are frantically out seaching for our lost son,(we were home with all lights off ) if you should find him please take him to the police department and here are some clothes for him because we will not be returning from our search until next week. Thank you and tell him that we love him" Needless to say after spending the night on the front porch sleeping on the porch swing he didn't try that again! Kids do the strangest things!
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• India
23 Sep 08
I'm pretty sure he learnt his lesson well.Yes,kids do the strangest things.Thanks for sharing your experience.
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@eve301345 (658)
• Philippines
22 Sep 08
Thats pretty silly thing to do. But you know kids are like that you cant blame theme. Their mind process is different to adults. They dont feel danger or whatever there is. I say ths because I use to run away as well when I was still young and I dont feel any danger at all that time but when I think about it this time I said to myself I could have been killed with what I use to do. Anyway I am glad to hear that your friend is safe
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• India
22 Sep 08
And I am glad you are too eve. Yes,you are so right how their mind works. Usually we say you learn from your mistakes.But this is one mistake which ,God forbid,if unfortunate,might not give them another chance. The thought itself is so scary. God,save all these children.
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@James72 (26829)
• Australia
22 Sep 08
I did this myself Daffodil when I was around 14 or so. I left the West Coast of Australia and then spent the next few weeks travelling across the country to the East Coast. All in all it was over 6,000 kilometres of travelling to get from one place to the next. At the time it was an adventure but in hinsight it was obviously a pretty traumatic time for my Mother on one side of the continent and my Father on the other. I was fortunate to have no real incidents on my journey but it could have been a LOT worse. You just never consider these things when you are that young.
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• India
22 Sep 08
Oh my !! You should have thought about your mother just once before leaving and it could have stopped you.But at such young age perhaps one doesn't or isn't capable of understanding the true consequences.I must say,you too were very fortunate to have come back home safe.
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