extramartial relations/affairs

India
September 22, 2008 10:00am CST
when a man finds his wife indulged in extra martial relationships or affair what should one do ?
2 responses
OKWUDILI APAI
@okwusman1 (2247)
• Abuja, Nigeria
22 Sep 08
That is infidelity, the best thing is to divorce her and re-marry. Most women are unfaithful to their partner, that is why divorce is on the increase these days.
lynnemg
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Sep 08
I realize that there are many unfaithful women in this world, but there are just as many, if not more unfaithful men. As a woman, I do not believe that we should try to place the blame more on one gender than the other. It takes two to make or break any relationship. Divorce is on the rise because too many people think it is the easy way out when faced with challenges in a marriage. They do not always take marriage as seriously as it is supposed to be. There are many, many marriages that end for reasons other than infidelity.
lynnemg
@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Let her know that he sees what she is doing in as calm a way as he can, then turn around and walk away. She will react. Chances are, she will react with surprise, guilt, and shame. When he is more calm about the whole situation, he has to decide if he wants to remain in the marriage or not. If the answer is that he does want it to work, they both have a long road ahead of them. She will have to regain his trust, and he will have to forgive. If he choses not to remain in the marriage, he needs to walk away from it with his dignity. A lot depends on how long the couple has been married, how long she was having an affair, and how many times either of them has been unfaithful. There is no definate answer to this question because there are many options. It is entirely up to the individual how to handle the situation. As for me, I don't think I'd stick around if my spouse were unfaithful. Been down that road before. All it caused me was heartache.