What To Do
September 22, 2008 8:22pm CST
A friend of mine is dying. He has leukemia and the doctors give him 5 years to live. I try to be there for him but I feel helpless. I know he's gonna end up leaving this world. I never know what to say to him to make him feel better or anything. Sometimes he talks about killing himself. He'd rather die fast than slow. Hearing him say that tears my heart apart. I'm just scared that one day I'll come online and he won't be there. I'm scared and I'm hurt. Is there anything I can say or do? Or do I have to sit on the sidelines and watch. I'm so lost and confused. I don't want to loose my friend.
• United States
23 Sep 08
This is a tough one babymandy. Right now my opinion is to just keep treating him as you always have, as a friend. It is always so hard to know what to say, especially when they are so despondent and depressed. Hopefully in time he will come to terms with his condition and with your help, treating as you always have, he may feel less depressed about it all. When ever anyone finds out about an illness like this they go through stages, like the stages of grief, they will first deny it, then they will be depressed by it, and fear it, and eventually they come to terms with it, but it is a long process sometimes. I am not saying that you should ignore his condition, but do treat him as you always have, and if he needs an ear to listen then listen, if he needs a shoulder to cry on then let him cry, and if he asks for your advice give it freely and honestly. And, of course a lot of prayer is needed. I will add you both to my prayers this evening.