Do you let your children in your bed?

My kids are grown now. I always let them come in the room with me. My youngest was a real light sleeper. He came into our room a lot up until he was four. Sometimes I would walk him back to bed but I could tell when that wasn't going to fly, which was more times than not. I started telling him to sleep at the lower part of the bed because he was so big, physically that is. That kind of helped him stop because he wasn't so comfortable with us you know.

I was a single mother for a year after having my first son and he slept with me during that time. After I moved in with my husband it took a while to break him of the habit so we decided when we had more children that we were not going to co-sleep at all. Especially since my husband can't sleep when they are in our bed and he works long hours and needs his rest. My 4 year old and 2 year old both go back to sleep no problem if they wake up at night. I just have to go in and tuck them back in to bed and they are fine. My 6 month old obviously needs a little more attention so I stay up with her for a bit and rock her or feed her and she goes right back to sleep too. Luckily none of them wake up very often so it's not something I have to deal with regularly. They are great self-soothers but if it ever came down to it and they seemed to need me more at night I'd probably lay down with them in their bed until they were back to sleep. I'm a stay at home mom so if I miss out on some sleep once in a while it's not a big deal.

[i]HI Essie, I have no kids but when I remember before Mom and Dad do the same, they will take us in their bed and asked us to sleep there and then we will also get a great sleep! The usual with friends is that they will stay with kids in their bed and leave them when they sleep good already![/i]

Both my kids sleep with us. We have a queen and a twin bed put together so that all four of us can sleep cozily. My kids (even my eldest who is 6) needs an adult near them to fall asleep. They are so scared to sleep alone. And my son who is 2 will not get to bed till the whole family is in bed. Both my kids sleep on either side of me. My daughter doesn't wake up for any noise till morning, but my son wakes up suddenly in the night and starts crying. I just slowly pat him and he's asleep in seconds. I don't understand how some kids sleep on their own at a very young age. I used to sleep with my parents until I was 13. And they didn't plan to have a separate room. It was only because I had to study late into the night that I started sleeping in a separate room myself. I don't feel comfortable sleeping alone in a room all by myself, why would I let my kids sleep alone? Even if they did, by the time I get them back to sleep in the middle of the night, I would be wide awake .

My child sleeps with me. I know most of the parents would hate this approach. But this way i am relaxed and so is my child. If she wakes up at night, I just pat her her back or simply put my hand on her chest and she goes back to sleep back in seconds. If I would make her sleep in another room, I would have to wake up every time she cried and the stress that she may wake up would keep me awake whole night. This way its better. I do not know what I will do when I have another kid. But at first I will try to sleep with both the kids. If it does not work out, my hubby will sleep with the older one and I will sleep with the younger one. Once they are 5 or 6 years years old, I can shift them to their room. But now my heart does not allow this. It may sound crazy but we also slept with our parents till the age of 10. Both me and my hubby. We are independant individuals and have a strong bonding for our parents too. So I do not thing anything wrong with this approach.

Wow this is something that I struggle with. I have a one yr old little boy and I guess I do let him sleep in my bed. I really honestly don't do it purposely I tend to go to bed late at night after staying up working on online classes and when he does wake about 3 or 4o am im just to tired to stand there and rock him or even stay awake long enough for him to go back to sleep so I take him to my bed and curl him up against me. The crazy thing is that in the morning I wont remember getting up to get him or even carrying him to the bed. I'm going to have to put a stop to this one way or another I need him to be a bog boy and sleep in his own bed. He is getting better and its not every night anymore but I slept with my parents until i was 6 yrs old and i dont want to have to go through that with him. Plus he sleeps alot like me sprawled out across the bed with one leg out of the blankets and curled up to a pillow.

When my son gets up in the middle of the night, I make him go back to his bed. He is 9 and way to old to be in our bed. 99% of the time he is asleep within 5 minutes of his head hitting the pillow. The only time I did was when he was super small and his dad & i were going through a divorce while he deployed.

My son is now 9 years old and will be 10 in a couple of months. Rarely will he wake up during the night anymore, to the point that he needs comforting. A couple of times he has be awaken with nightmares, on these occassions I will just tell remind him that whatever fictious character he had in his dreams are just that, that he should just say his prayers and try to get back to sleep. This normally works and in a few minutes he is back to sleep. When he was younger I would follow his lead, and never offer him my bed, but would appease him if he asked.

well occasanily i will let them sleep with us but usually they are in thier own beds but by 5-6 in the morning my son is awake and instead of waking me up he will get in the bed and go back to sleep with me

No I don't. Unless she is sick. But our bed isn't that big so it would be really crowded. If she gets up, i will find out what she needs and take her back to bed