what is your TOP PRIORITY?
By roniroxas
@roniroxas (10560)
Philippines
September 22, 2008 11:00pm CST
what is important for you? what is the sence of being succesful in a career at the expense of the family. what profit does a person has if that person will lose his family? you will think that, yes, you have money and a lot of people look up to you for you are a succesfuk business man/woman but you daugther/s hate you and is the mortal enemy of your son/s. Can success in career really make up for failure at home? Which then is more important, wealth or family. A great number of us would readily say family. but do you feel that it is true. for like me i am a single mom with four children. of course i love my children but if i stop working how can i bring food at the table. i am not a business woman and not even rich but if i focus more on the other i know i will lost half of my life.
MY FAMILY IS THE REASON WHY I NEED A CAREER. My career will come and go, employers can come and go but one's family Will remain even beyond the grave. They even take care of our graves.
even i have four children, each one of them will only graduate in elementary in high school. i want to be sure i am there. i was there during their graduation in elementary and was also there when my first born graduated high school. it was a great feeling to see them finishing a wonderful stage of life and soon be starting another one.
i hope when their time comes to have their own family they know what what is the TOP PRIORITY
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20 responses
@MissGia (955)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Currently my top priority is school. I'm working hard at school so one day i can have a nice set of skills and a good job. In general i feel that family should come first, especially in times of crisis/emergency..Your own health(because if that isn't good whats the use in prioritizing anything at all. Next should be career.
Sometimes one is more important than another at a specific time in your life, so your lists of priority should never be the same. IMO
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
good. a student should really be prioritizing school for that is the gate way to a fruitful future. yes i agree that one sometimes is more important with another, just like me for i am single mom. how can i bring food on the table if i will just be at home and taking care of my family. you have a good point of view. thanks for the response
@asselg1984 (375)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
My family will always be my top priority, then career and the last is myself. It is sad to say that some people lost their families because of their career, and for me I think it is just a matter of communication and understanding. We will not survive if we will not work, and sometimes there are family matters that need to be sacrificed because of our career. I had missed a lot of holidays with my family because I need to work, knowing that they are happy, even if I am at work, I am happy also, although my heart wished that I could have been with them, but I know I will be happier to help them in case they need me in the future.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
yes some people lost their families because of their career. it is sad to see that they lose one but excell on the other. sometimes even if you try it is hard to balance family and career. as the saying goes you can not serve two masters at the same time. thanks for the response
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
23 Sep 08
First, my mother and her welfare are top priority, then the cats (I have had them for 12 years and I have given up a lot to keep them), then school, then work, then everything else tends to follow, my priorities will change from time-to-time, they do not always stay the same.
@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
28 Sep 08
My cats and my mother are always on the top of my list.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
wow you had this cats for 12 years. that is so cool. i mean this pets of yours are members of the family so you really have to put them on the priority list. as a single person like you ( as i predict from the way you respond) that single person do really change their priority. but seeing you proritize the welfare of your mom is a two thumbs ups 
. thanks for the response
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
we have known each other for quite a long time already.... and i know what you had been through. this question is not easy for you to answer. me and my wife also felt the pain when you are just trying to stand up from a great big fall. there are times that we need to talk to our children to explain it to them that they are your priority but in times that you need to work and it is for them they have to really understand. i am so proud of you. for me my life before was just, just. since the day i had a relationship with my wife i know now where we are going. i know now what we are heading on the right track. family always comes first. sometimes i need to travel because of work but lucky i am that my wife choose to be a stay at home and hands on mom.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
sorry pal. i cant help to look at mylot when i see a pc lying around. you have to admit it too that you are a mylotaholic? arent you? sorry for that really... and thanks also for a wonderful merienda. looking forward to visit you again. pakiss kay seven
@se7enthbird (8307)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
grrrr i hate it when you use my PC then when i just surf around mylot confidently knowing that itwas my page there. next time i wont allow you to use my pc. har har har. i was even all emotional with my response. take care pal. thansk for paying us a visit. even you always ruin my pc har har har
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
welcome to mylot. i am proud to see that your family is your priority. that is more responses about family. some do responded about career but most of them i believe are single. but they said too that the second on the list are their parents. hope you like it here like most of us do. happy posting and have a blessed weekend
@faln_angel1205 (1192)
• United States
24 Sep 08
My top priority is keeping myself healthy and clear minded, so taht I can then take care of my only other Top Priority, which is My Son. I cant take care of him, if im ill, or stressed, or unhealthy either physically or mentally.
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@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
that is great response. how can a person fulfill her/his duty for the people she/he loves if they are not in their perfect health. like for example you, you have your son... children really depends a lot from their parent and we can not take good care of them if we are not healthy. that is a good response a best response for you faln.
@Ithink (9980)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Im in the mindframe that family comes first and always should. Yes there is times when my husband is going to be late coming home as he is working overtime, but that is also for the family as bills have to be payed.
I do have say that as parents we do need to take care of ourselves and make US a priority too. Like I play on a pool league part of the year on Saturdays and that is my time. It takes anywere from 2 to 4 hours normally and it is my time to be with friends. It makes me more able to come home relaxed and be more into the family as I have missed them and I have been able to just relax.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
very well said Ithink, yes i make sure that i am healthy and always have a health check yearly. i dont want to get sick and i dont want that my children will proritize me than their studies. i still have time for me but i give more time for my children. thanks for the response
@annjilena (5618)
• United States
23 Sep 08
my top priority is to be the best i can be.and to be a good mother and wife for my family. even if you have money you have feeling too and you feel strongly about whats happening in your life.you can alway correct things going on at home.things are not like when i was growing up.kids can be ungrateful when parents do a lot for them, back then we was just thankful to even have parents.kids use to take care of parents grave. today kids are dying before the parents are we are taking care of there graves because a lot kids don,t want to listen to there parents to prevent some of the bad things going on in this world so they can live a long life.kids have to start appreciating there parents and what their parents do for them.don,t worry it going to be ok have a blessed day.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
lucky for you that you have a husbnad that can work for the families needs. i envy you. but i am grateful too that i left my husband and tagged my kids along. i can not imagine leaving them behind. they are my priority and i hope they appreciate it. thanks for the response
@drknlvly6781 (6246)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I say I hold both as my top priority, money and family. I need money to take care of my family, and to do some of the things that they want to do, but I don't want to have to work so hard that a baby sitter is taking care of them more than I do. I want to be there for the special moments, but I also want them to have the things that I didn't have growing up. So both are equally important to me. I say that the only way to be truly happy is to have a balance of the two anyway.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
very well explained. yes to take care of the family it is not just looking at them and cooking for them and not be always at their side. we need to work too so we can give what they need and to bring food at the table. thank you for the response and have a blessed weekend to you my friend
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@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
23 Sep 08
My top priority in my life is my relationship with my husband. I want our marriage life to be happier and stronger than it used to be. So far, we are doing better and better because we share nt just for good but also for good times too. Then my family. I want them to have a comfortable life, especially for my mom. I am trying my best to grant all she wanted in her life. She have worked a lot for so many years for us. She is a great mother to us and wife to my dad and grandmother to my niece and nephew. She deserves everything she desires in her life, because all of that are nnot just for her but for us too. Next, to have my greencard or be a permanent resident of US, in that case I can have a good job and I can bring my mom here. Then, having our new own house here in the states and in the Philippines. Having a baby of my own is not a priority for me yet. GOD, my husband, family, good career and to be a citizen of US is my priority.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
that was my very first priority when i decided to get married. i stayed with him and got four children, but it didnt turned out to be like the one i was sacrificing for. i left him and tagged my kids along with me. i didnt left any child behind. so now they are my priority. thanks for the very inspiring response
@baileycows (3665)
• United States
23 Sep 08
My daughter is my top priority and my family. I do strive in my career life but I would never let it get in the way of my family. They are the ones that will ALWAYS be there and most important.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
thats so sweet to here, and i am sure your daugther will be proud to hear that you saying that she is your top priority. family always comes first for they are always there to celebrate with us and cry with us. thanks for the response and i feel hungry looking at your avatar. lol
@dorothy21 (43)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
Well I always heard that career and relationship with partners cannot be equally succesful. One has to suffer. And If I would forced to choose between the two, I'd rather choose a good and fullfilling relationship with my loved one. I strongly believe that if you really do love each other in accordance to Gods will both of you will make a way to earn for a living. So my top priority in life as of now is relationship. I've already regret something before so I would'nt do the same mistake again. have a blessed day to everyone...
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
welcome to mylot dorothy hope you like it here like most of us do. i think your response is very well explained. learning mistakes from the past is one thing that is good. a healthy relationship can make you feel satisfied with life. when you are emotionally happy then you are a fulfilled person. thanks for the response
@gauravsrivastav (25)
• India
23 Sep 08
hi,
there are a lot of things that i think i have to do in life and they include being and making something that matters to me and to my near and dear ones. so i think that i want to be a big man.....that may sound a bit stereotype but that is the reality in life and we have to live with that.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
welcome to mylot gaura, hope you like it here like most of us do. yes your response is kind of stereotype but in the reality it is a jungle out there and people need to be tough and lnows how to survive. thanks for the response happy mylotting and happy posting as well.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
that is a good priority. i am sure your parents will be proud of a child like you. goodluck on whatever you want to be and goodluck on whatever job you want to have. your family will be happy for you are a kind of person who knows who to prioritize. thanks for the response and have a blessed weekend
@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
23 Sep 08
This is a tough one for me to answer. I am also a single mom and for me at the moment, it is money that is top. We all need money. We can't live without it. I love my family however money is more important to me right now because I am not working and getting a certain amount in child support that does not cover all the bills.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
lucky for you that you get an amount for your child i dont get any. for he dont know where we are for we kept it a secret for he is a violent man. i even worked abroad and explained to them that i am doing this for them for we can not start without money on habd. now we are better than before. we are still having difficulties when it comes to expences but life still goes on specially when you know your priority. thanks for the response
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
"What will i do with all my money if i do not have a child of my own"... this is what i told those who asked me when i decided not to renew my contract for work abroad... i was there for two years... and i was earning quite a lot... but i decided to just go home and not come back anymore... because i desperately want to have a baby... so now that i have my daughter... they asked me to comeback... but i declined because i want to take care of her... and be there for her when she needs me...
So i think that is my answer to your question...
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
when me and my children left my husband (their dad) i have nothing. no money, no work and all we have in our bags was just clothes. it was not easy to start. my priority is them thats the reason why i tag them all along even i dont know what will happen to us next. glad to hear now that you have your own child. it is something worth to live for. thanks for the response
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
23 Sep 08
Dear Friend,
First of all thankyou for starting a very good discussion which I liked very much. For me, undoubtedly it is the Family that tops the list of priorities in life.Soon after my marriage I was in a fix to balance career with family but ended to become a homemaker. I am very happy this way and giving my best to my hubby and kids atalltimes of need.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
hello vsraovsr, i also lwft my carreer when i got married. i started working when the marriage was going rough and it just created more fueds. but still my priority are my children where i tagged them along even i dont know what to do and where to bring them. lucky for you having a loving hubby and happy to hear that you know your priorities. thanks for the response
@pehpot (4762)
• Philippines
23 Sep 08
i am glad for you my friend that even though you are working you still find time for your kids. I can very well relate you to my mother, she too is a single mom and have 5, before she goes out of the house to look for work, she always make sure that our food is prepared and that it would last until she came back. as for me my friend, I am a stay at home mommmy and my top priority is the kids and my hubby, my interest is always on the end of the list, and I am very happy that way.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
there are really rough and tough times. but i am so so so so glad that i made it (we made it) through the rain.... and like barry manilow said in his song.... i made it through the rain and i kept myself protected. if you ask me if i will do it all over again and i will for my children. thanks for the response
@renol1167 (43)
• United Arab Emirates
23 Sep 08
Family is my top priority.Though i am not with my family for now i make sure my communication with them is constant.Its hard and painful to be away to our family but we need to do it so that we can sustain their daily needs.Maybe some of our children dont understand that,but hopefully when they get older they realized what w'ere doing is only for their future.I admired you for being with your children in their graduation and other activities their doing.We, as an overseas contract workers we'll love to be there for them,but we can't because of our commitment.
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
welcome to mylot renol hope you like it here like most of us do. that happened to me too. it was a heart breaking that me a single parent was working outside the country and my children was just left with the cousin of my dad. those were tough times. glad tio hear that you have a very halthy communications with your family. God bless you and thanks for the response
@viduviduvidu (293)
• United States
23 Sep 08
We need to prioritize things accordingly. Sometimes family is more important than work/career. Sometimes it could be the other way round. Its never the same always. All we need to do is the right thing at the right time. When there is an official work and a family committment at the same time, we need to attend to what's important for that moment. If the work is important, family can wait...
@roniroxas (10560)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
it is easy if you have a partner around who can balanced things. i am a single mom so it is really hard to balance things. But with the help of family and good friends.... is important as well. thanks for the response and have a blessed and great weekend.
