Wait in the truck please
By foxyfire33
@foxyfire33 (10005)
United States
September 23, 2008 9:53am CST
That's what I told stepson's girlfriend. She needed a ride to the store next to my other son's school. No problem, it was time to pick him up anyway. She got what she needed at the store so we headed across the bridge to the school. She started to get out to go in the building with me (hey, since we're stuck with her now she might as well be involved with the family, right?). But that's we're i drew the ine and said she could wait in the truck...
Why? Because she was wearing a very sheer white tube top type shirt over a black strappy bra and low slung pants 
. I did not think that was at all appropriate to wear into an elementary school. Just because my kids have to see it at home doesn't mean the whole school does. We are trying to get her to tone it down at home as well...not with much success yet. (Unless you count skin tight leggings under the 8 inch long skirt and high heeled knee high boots as an improvement
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Would you/have you ever pointed out when someone is not dressed appropriately for the situation? Are you blunt or more subtle? I didn't tell her why she could stay in the truck but I made it obvious that I wanted her too...she should've known since her clothing has been brought up on a few other ocassions.
. I did not think that was at all appropriate to wear into an elementary school. Just because my kids have to see it at home doesn't mean the whole school does. We are trying to get her to tone it down at home as well...not with much success yet. (Unless you count skin tight leggings under the 8 inch long skirt and high heeled knee high boots as an improvement)
Would you/have you ever pointed out when someone is not dressed appropriately for the situation? Are you blunt or more subtle? I didn't tell her why she could stay in the truck but I made it obvious that I wanted her too...she should've known since her clothing has been brought up on a few other ocassions.7 people like this
15 responses
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
No big deal, glitches happen! Besides, it was worthy of being said twice.People of all ages need to remember that they are setting an example for those younger. If these "outfits" are a result of a teen pushing the limits now, just imagine what those little girls could be wearing in 10 years!
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@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I think you did the right thing, I wouldn't have allowed her to go into the school, can you imagine those little girls seeing her and wondering why they can't dress like that??
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Exactly! And the way the school is set up, people picking up kids wait in the front lobby and since the school is just one long hallway every student from K-6 walk by twice...once when they come in from last recess and again when they come back up to wait for their rides. Kindergarteners always go last to make sure none get lost, forgotten, or trampled so the whole elementary would have seen her dressed that way....plus the other parents thinking I let her dress like that!
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
23 Sep 08
You so did the right thing! Who the heck taught her to dress like that? I don't even know how you allow her to wander around your house like that LOL It is one thing to go out to a club dressed in that manner, but not every day. Maybe you should put her on "What not to wear" LOL
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@sedel1027 (17846)
• Cupertino, California
24 Sep 08
At least Stacy & Clinton would be there to help her buy the right things. Maybe it would help her out more than you think, set her on the right path...maybe turn her into a good example
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
LOL...yeah that would be kind of funny! I can't imagine what she'd do with a $5000 credit card though! She seems to have come from a pretty odd family that had their hands too full with her siblings to bother much wit her past the age of 13.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I would be very forward about it. You were right to make her stay in the truck. I hope that you can get your point across soon.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Either that or it will get too cold for skimpy clothes!
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
23 Sep 08
Hi foxy,
you did the right thing! I wish she will try to learn and then dress according to the place she will be going!
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I certainly hope so too! This wasn't even as vad as what she wore to her job one day...and then later complained because the guys made suggestive comments abouyt it! She doesn't seem to understand yet but maybe soon!
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@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
23 Sep 08
I agree with you that you made the right choice in not letting her go into the school with you. And she should have gotten the subtle hint since you have had more than one discussion about the way she dresses. Best wishes to you in getting her to dress more appropriate.
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@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
24 Sep 08
The thing that really gets me is that I know she has quite a few really 'nice' pieces of clothing. She just rarely wears them or if she does it's a nice shirt with a tiny skirt or jeans with a barely there shirt. Ugh!
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@StrawberryKisses (2833)
• Canada
24 Sep 08
I would have told her as well. How old is your stepson? From your discussion it kinda sounds like she lives with your family. When she is in your home she needs to have some respect. If it were me I would tell her straight out if you want to be in this home then you need to cover up while under my roof. If your too subtle she will not think you are serious.
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
24 Sep 08
I should have also told her that she is not dressed appropriately for coming into an elementary school as well. And also mention that she would be more embarrassed if the principal, one of the teachers, or the secretary told her to leave and I am sure they would not be quiet about it. Mind you, I would have told her to dress decently if she wanted to come along.
You did the right thing. But you have to keep up with it. I gather she thinks that it is all right to dress like a sl*ut, doesn't she?
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@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
27 Mar 10
I know exactly what you are saying. Back when we were foster parents I had several teenage girls that tried to dress that way and I had to put my foot down with them as well. Some girls just have no clue when it comes to modesty.
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@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
24 Sep 08
I'm with you on this one. I totally agree. She was not dressed for the occasion and the other students didn't need to see it either. I would of said the same thing you did. If she did ask I would probably tell her why. There is a time and place to wear certain outfits and this was not one of them. She is going to have to start toning down if she is going to be around youngsters. I hope with talking to her about this and telling her to tone it down it will help.
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@moonlitmagikchild (22181)
• United States
25 Sep 08
i personally dont see a problem BUT im one that dresses that way 
if you have hinted to her a lot then it makes you wonder why she hasnt like at least tried to tone it down more just because she likes your step son and wants to get along with you better.. weird..
if you have hinted to her a lot then it makes you wonder why she hasnt like at least tried to tone it down more just because she likes your step son and wants to get along with you better.. weird.. 
@lorelei1622 (329)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Foxy, If I were you I hope I'd use the old adage, "It my house, so it's my rules; and if you don't like it, don't let the door hit you in A@# on the way out." Tell her she needs to dress more appropriately, especially with a youngster in the house. How does your hubby feel about it? Will he stand with you? My sons girlfriend knows I am strict about respecting others and tones it down when she comes here, my son told me he pre-warned her, and I don't mind if she thinks I'm a B#$@%, at least she covers up around us. I think a lot of the issue falls back to today's kids being raised differently than we were, and not for the better, but that's another discussion. Hope she grows up soon, or at least covers up. Have a great day!
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@cjgrooms (4456)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I promise you i would have NO problem telling her that she was dressed inappropriately and was not going into a school full of children half-naked. I actually would have probably told her that i would wait while she put on some clothes before we left the house to start with. She had best hope the cops doesn't see her standing on a street conner, they may mistake her for a working girl and arrest her!
