How can my cat and new kitten become friends?

September 23, 2008 1:17pm CST
we have just got a new male kitten and our adult cat nemo is not happy at all he has been sulking ever since he has arrived, staying upstairs most of the time when he encounters the kitten he runs away like he is scared of him, then if he gets too close hisses and spits at him, i really want them to get along we have only had the kitten a few days i have taken nemo's food upstairs to him as he refuses to eat near the kitten. the kitten went to the vets today as he was from a really bad home and has had a bad start in life but is getting better. any tips greatly appreciated thanks Lucy
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• Canada
23 Sep 08
I went through this a couple of months ago when I took two baby kittens into our home and our adult cat did not like them one bit . Even tried to attack one of them one night . But I can say that by leaving them alone they are starting to get along more and more each day . They are still not the best of friends but I have noticed that when the kittens are sleeping the big cat will go over and wash them quickly and then sit and watch them from a corner and she has tried to play with them a couple of times . Our adult cat was so upset at first that she even started messing in the house . Something she never did before and I was terrified we were going to have to get rid of her but by taking the time to give her just as much attention and showing her that we still loved her and leaving them alone to get to know each other better seemed to do the trick . Best of luck :)
23 Sep 08
thanks for your reply, we are giving nemo lots of attention and care, he has even been sleeping in our room! which normally he is not allowed to do, he has pleanty of cuddles too. He is refsusing to go anywhere near the kitten tho and im wondering whether i should put them together for a while or just leave them to get on with things in their own time once again thanks and good luck x
@ralphido (843)
• India
24 Sep 08
don't do that without supervision or your cat might be in for a nice dinner... usually male cats are aggressive towards other cats.. may it be a kitten they see it as a threat to their territory.. basic cat instinct tells it to get rid of the danger as soon as it can or stay clear of it.. don't know whether constant exposure in a controlled environment may work..
24 Sep 08
thanks for the advice nemo is still staying away and i am letting him do so
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
23 Sep 08
[i]Hi grace, We have the problem also before but didn't last long! They became good friends after all the fighting at first! Just be with them and show also to the old cat that you both care for them and maybe gradually, he will start to be more friendly and soft![/i]
23 Sep 08
thanks hun xxx
@dvschic (1796)
• United States
23 Sep 08
my two cats did not get along at first, the older one got jealous. but when he starts to clean the other, that it is a sign of dominance and acceptance. gradually introduce the lil one to the other. make sure that they both feel the love and dont spend too much time doting on the lil one without giving equal love to the big one. i rub them both at the same time so they can both feel the love.. doesn't last long, but they know they are loves. plus i'll go out of my way to rub on the big guy, especially when the lil one is there, so he doesn't feel neglected
23 Sep 08
thanks for the great advice
@chrislotz (8200)
• Canada
26 Feb 09
Now that 6 months have passed since you posted this discussion, how are they getting along? I bet tremendously. I bet they grew to love each other and it was only time that made that happen. I don;t think there was anything you could do about it, but let nature take its course. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day. Chris
• United States
24 Sep 08
Well ofcourse that happens all the time because they arent familiar with each other at all. There really isnt much you can do. Its good to have them use the same bowl of water only not food. Leave them together and then everything will become fine. After awhile everything will be better and they will probably get along.
• India
24 Sep 08
Make your cat and kitten watch stuff like Garfeild or tom and jerry. I am sure it will help.
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I really don't know what to tell you about this situation. It is possible that nemo might come around to liking the new kitten in time, but there is a chance that he might not. Hopefully, he will learn to like the kitten and end up being the protector and learn to love the kitty and they can play together. It just might take some time for him to come around. In the meantime make sure that you pay extra attention to nemo because he is feeling very hurt and left out since the kitty has come in. He is confused and upset right now. You have to show him extra love and make him know that he is still the number one cat in the house. It isn't going to be an easy thing to convince him of this. He is jealous of the new kitty and that isn't a good thing.
• United States
23 Sep 08
Just give the older cat a lot of love and attention, making sure they don't feel neglected, in time they should all adapt to each other; one of my older cats is that way, she never really accepted Scodie, in fact they still Hiss at each other, but mostly do get along, they just don't like to "share me"...LOL!