How can my cat and new kitten become friends?

I went through this a couple of months ago when I took two baby kittens into our home and our adult cat did not like them one bit . Even tried to attack one of them one night . But I can say that by leaving them alone they are starting to get along more and more each day . They are still not the best of friends but I have noticed that when the kittens are sleeping the big cat will go over and wash them quickly and then sit and watch them from a corner and she has tried to play with them a couple of times . Our adult cat was so upset at first that she even started messing in the house . Something she never did before and I was terrified we were going to have to get rid of her but by taking the time to give her just as much attention and showing her that we still loved her and leaving them alone to get to know each other better seemed to do the trick . Best of luck :)

[i]Hi grace, We have the problem also before but didn't last long! They became good friends after all the fighting at first! Just be with them and show also to the old cat that you both care for them and maybe gradually, he will start to be more friendly and soft![/i]

my two cats did not get along at first, the older one got jealous. but when he starts to clean the other, that it is a sign of dominance and acceptance. gradually introduce the lil one to the other. make sure that they both feel the love and dont spend too much time doting on the lil one without giving equal love to the big one. i rub them both at the same time so they can both feel the love.. doesn't last long, but they know they are loves. plus i'll go out of my way to rub on the big guy, especially when the lil one is there, so he doesn't feel neglected

Now that 6 months have passed since you posted this discussion, how are they getting along? I bet tremendously. I bet they grew to love each other and it was only time that made that happen. I don;t think there was anything you could do about it, but let nature take its course. Alrighty then, talk to you later my friend, Have a good mylotting day. Chris

Well ofcourse that happens all the time because they arent familiar with each other at all. There really isnt much you can do. Its good to have them use the same bowl of water only not food. Leave them together and then everything will become fine. After awhile everything will be better and they will probably get along.

Make your cat and kitten watch stuff like Garfeild or tom and jerry. I am sure it will help.

I really don't know what to tell you about this situation. It is possible that nemo might come around to liking the new kitten in time, but there is a chance that he might not. Hopefully, he will learn to like the kitten and end up being the protector and learn to love the kitty and they can play together. It just might take some time for him to come around. In the meantime make sure that you pay extra attention to nemo because he is feeling very hurt and left out since the kitty has come in. He is confused and upset right now. You have to show him extra love and make him know that he is still the number one cat in the house. It isn't going to be an easy thing to convince him of this. He is jealous of the new kitty and that isn't a good thing.

Just give the older cat a lot of love and attention, making sure they don't feel neglected, in time they should all adapt to each other; one of my older cats is that way, she never really accepted Scodie, in fact they still Hiss at each other, but mostly do get along, they just don't like to "share me"...LOL!