Do I offend people or What have I done?

I have not taken any breaks from here, at least not in that sense of the word. There have been a few times in which I have been inactive for a period of 3 weeks to a month, that was usually because I did not have internet service during that time for one reason or another. If I knew ahead of time that I would be without internet service for a while, I posted a discussion to state that I would be inactive for a period of time and why. There was at least once, maybe twice, when I was without service for a while that caught me off guard, so I was not able to post and let people know about it ahead of time, but I was only without service and inactive for a little less then a month during those times so I didn't think that I was inactive long enough for it to make a difference. It could have been glitches too, I don't know most people in mylot well enough to know if they would delete me or not, so I don't know either way. As to the people who used to be on my friends list and are not there any more, one of the biggest reasons I noticed is because I often either enjoyed and/or could relate to several discussions that many of them would post, and so liked to read their discussions and respond whenever I could. After a while I would notice that I was no longer receiving any email notices of their discussions nor seeing any of their discussions come up under the, "discussions my friends started", link; so I went to my friends list to look them up and see if they had been active recently and I was just missing it or something, and find out that they are no longer in my friend's list. Later, upon stumbling across some of these people in another discussion, I would visit their profile and see that there is an option to, "add them as a friend", as if they were never on my friend's list to begin with. I hope you don't mind me asking, but since you replied here and no one else whom this posts refers to did; you are one of the people who used to be on my friend's list who isn't any more. Did you delete me, or was it a mylot glitch? If you did delete me, why? Only asking because I also liked a lot of your discussions and I miss seeing them.

Well then, if you didn't delete me, or did so only by accident, I am going to send you a request to add you back!

I had not thought of a glitch but I suppose anything is possible. As for asking one of them, that is what I am trying to do, but I can not directly name any mylot user in a discussion because it is against mylot T.O.S and I can not send any of them a P.M. because a person has to be on your friend's list in order to do that, which they are not any more. So this discussion is the only way I can try to find out.

What if you try making a new friend request to a couple of them? If they don't respond, then you would know it was done on purpose. If they accept the request, then you'd be able to talk to them more about it. That's all I can think of. It's strange that this would happen when you haven't had any disagreements.

I thought about sending a new friend request to some of them, but then dismissed the idea. I thought that if they did delete me, and I sent them a new friend request that it would look strange on my part. People often delete people off their friend's list here for one reason or another, this I know because I have seen many discussions that people have started about doing just that. What boggles my mind is the fact that a lot, not just a few, people seem to have deleted me from their friend's list and none of the common reasons that I know of for people doing this seem to apply in my case. Anyways, I might try and send some of them a new friend request at some point, if I can manage to work up the nerve to do so, lol.

These people did not disappear from mylot, they are still here, just not on my friends list anymore.

Betsyrae, looking at the responses, the people who make comments like this one obviously haven't read anything but the opening post, so haven't caught up with you pointing it out. I guess that's why Mylot make a point of telling people to read the whole discussion before posting. As to why, perhaps you didn't say anything offensive, just maybe something that put you on opposite sides of a divide like, for instance, Democrat/Republican. Only guessing, you understand. Lash

Yeah, I hope it's a glitch too. That is definitely a better thought then that they purposely deleted me.

??????.........ok.....

Hello sharra, I didn't think I had made a lot of terribly offensive posts either, just thought I'd check. There have been times when I have been inactive for a little while, but usually not longer then a month and for many of those times I made a posts to inform people that I would be inactive for a while and why. I didn't lose any friends during those times so I don't think that's it. I know that some people delete people if they have not responded to any of their discussions at all or at least not for a long time, the funny thing is, most of the people who are still on my friends lists are people of whom's discussions I have not responded to that much and the people who deleted me are mainly people who's discussions I did respond to quite a bit. Just makes me wonder....

Yes it is a puzzle. I have considered deleting some people who do not seem to reply to most of my discussions but then I thought that if I did it may upset them and I did not want them to think that I was criticizing them in any way. I think it is just that our interests are not on a par. So I am caught in a dilemma.

In my case all of the people who have disappeared from my friend's list or deleted me are still on the site and have been as they have been active the entire time, I have already looked at their profiles. As I stated, this is not a case of just one or two people deleting me over time, if that was all it was, I would think nothing of it. This is a case of several people have deleted me and all seemed to have done so very close together, or one right after another or something. Thanks for your reply.

Yes, people are weird sometimes. Your situation sounds a bit more personal then mine though. You speak of a friend that suddenly stopped talking to you, I am just asking why so many people are deleting me from their friends list here in mylot. Anyway, I'm sorry to hear about your friend.

I'm sorry but I don't see where your response has anything to do with the topic of my discussion. This is not about people replying to discussions.

Ok, that's good advice, thanks

Ok, thanks, richiem.

Ok, request accepted, thanks.