Need input... Especially from guys!!!
By renestl
@renestl (99)
United States
September 24, 2008 5:09am CST
About 6 months ago I met a guy friend through some friends at work who I hang out with regularly. There's been a large amount of flirting between us during this time. Now our friends are introducing us to everyone as b/f and g/f, but I still don't really know how he feels about this, except what my work friend, who is his roommate, tells me. That's not much because when asked my "b/f" gets embarrassed and tries to dodge the questions. I've asked family and friends and they keep telling me to just ask him out. My cousin even suggested to just text him and ask him if he's interested. Now, I'm not as shy as I used to be but this is still a little too much for me to handle.
I don't know what to do. I really like him and would like to move forward if there's something there, I just don't know how to approach him.
Any and all suggestions Please!!!
4 responses
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
24 Sep 08
If the guy is really interested in you, there's no need to be shy because deep inside him, it will be great to spend some time with you. Your boyfriend is not really embarrassed but he's just shy and maybe wants to keep things private at least for the time being.
@renestl (99)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Thanks for your response. I'm just confused on how to go forward from here probably because I don't really see him as the shy type on anything. The first time we met, he was lying on the living room floor of his apt and I was walking by to go help his roommate and he slapped me on the behind. So for him to actually act shy with something, it's just shocking.
@soulist (2985)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Rene dear I say just ask him. Say you know there was flirting and if there was any interest behind it. I had a relationship much like that. We would flirt like nothing else, others around us thought we were dating, then I asked him if there was anything behind the flirtations and he said...no. It was hard but I'm glad I asked instead of thinking there was more there than there actually was.
@renestl (99)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I would love comments from everyone. Thing is I don't think I'm that bold, but everyone, with the exception of my mom, is telling to go ahead and ask. His roommate has asked me why I haven't yet and that means a lot. They have been best friends since sixth grade.
@CelebLot (44)
• United States
24 Sep 08
In order to know the truth without the embarrassment and/or pressure from everyone around you, I think you should catch him alone and talk to him one on one. See where you guys stand, and if he says you're just friends, it would be up to you to take it further and ask him for more. You never know, he might be able to ask YOU out easier if no one is around you guys. Guys in general feel weird when there guy friends are around because they feel like they need to show off to their friends, and you might not end up knowing what he really feels for you. They also may feel weird if you have girl friends around because they may feel like they can't get a chance alone with you and such. So your best bet is to get him alone and figure it out or else you may never know. Good luck!
@renestl (99)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Thanks CelebLot,
I think one of my problems would actually be asking for more if he says there's nothing. I'm the person that just gives up and hopes something comes along. He seems like the hard to get type. Right now I'm just trying to work up the nerves to ask him. I am going to ask soon too because I can't get it off my mind. Now I just have to get him away from everyone!! I'll keep you posted.
Rene
