# how to help my kid like math!

By jazel_juan

@jazel_juan (15752)

Philippines

September 24, 2008 7:17am CST

Well, my problem has something to do with my kid, she is in pre-school and she loves school. i have no problem with her going to school everyday because she is always enthusiastic about it. She is good in writing, can even write her name in the age of three!! she can draw, know colors, things, animals and the alphabet but the problem starts in her arithmetic, she seems to be bored with it! when we study together, i always start with the subject she likes and when we start with numbers, she would already complain and gives me different alibis! like she is tired, so i would reverse it, i would start with numbers but it is still the same thing! I know she can learn it but it seems like she is not interested with it! She knows how to count 0 to 15 but when i would give her activities involving it, she doesnt answer it correctly and i know if she really doesnt know it or she just doesnt do it coz she doesnt like it coz when i ask her she seems to know it...help me how to have her like math or what will i do for her to learn math???????

12 responses

@liltunergirl (467)

• Canada

24 Sep 08

Hello, I have to say, you have a smart little girl on your hands but remember, she is only 3. don't push your child too hard or you'll make her hate school in the end. If she is not ready to start math yet then don't push her. She will learn it when she starts school. In kindergarden, math is really basic like sorting sizes and colours of things like buttons, blocks and so forth. They are then asked to count how many are in each pile and they make a chart on chart paper. They are not taught addition and subtraction until they are older. Try not to push your daughter too hard, she's only 3, she doesn't need to like math right now.

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

hi it is indeed helpful here in mylot, i am quite enlightened now as to what to do, everyone who commented here is right, i may be really expecting too much from my kid. at times i dont see her as just a three years old kid but more...now i know i am rushing it for her...thank you:)

@swirlz (3136)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

Well, you have to see what I'm doing to my niece. I'm her teacher sensei (redundant, I know) and I usually teach her to write and color. I always scold her because her lines aren't straight (I mean, short straight lines aren't difficult, and maybe because I'm an architecture student too) and in the end I got a scolding from my mom in return. lol. She said I was expecting too much from her, and that when I was young I wasn't writing in perfect lines either. Somehow I've lightened up a bit. But can't she even color within the lines at the very least?

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

actually i dont have problems with her regarding drawing lines, making stuff like utterflies she is good at it! its just with numbers..darn...heheheh

@Manojknair (603)

• India

25 Sep 08

Its great to know that your kid is good in all other subjects. even i had same problem with maths when i was kid. no need to morry much untill unless kid is scorring average marks, he can get good score from other subjects, but make him feel that scoring in maths will help him to get more good value. teach him some interesting techniques. if you have internet then there are many site which can help your kid.

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

thank you, oh well i am just really rushing her! all the kids in her class are quite good with math, or maybe im just thinking about it...but then thank you, i'll just let my kid enjoy on her own:))

@mookhor (304)

• India

24 Sep 08

The little I know I do submit here.
First thing we must accept that we must not try to teach her. Peculiar this may appear to you when your problem is to teach her. Yes, we must be faithful to ourselves to this account that we will not try to teach her. Please do not get bored at what I am writing. Find out games with the numbers and play with her and never do this when she knows what is her study time. Mathematics is magical and she will surely to have joy in it. It may take a little time.
Please do not force her at all. Some children take the numbers naturally and in a time which is fit to them. If we are impatient and force them thinking that she is already late or that children of her age group are getting equipped already, we may destroy her natural instinct to be friendly with the number world and thus deprive her to have pleasure in the wonderful world of mathematics ultimately.
Please find out different games on number and play yourself in front of her as if it is your pass time. She will definitely be pulled and you will have favorable results. Love the little wonder, that is, your daughter on behalf of me. I wish you get freed from this anxiety as early as possible.

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

thanks mookhor, i am quite freed from this anxiety. last night when it was study time i really tried not to overdo it, i just let her do it her on way where she will learn and at the same time i know i am not forcing it for her...

@divinchris (2449)

• India

24 Sep 08

Hi friend!Just make sure what your kid likes first.After that you to tell him the importance of Maths in his life.Only then he may be in situation to understand its purpose of studying.Thank You

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

thanks, yes maybe and maybe i cant really force my kid to like it right away...right? she is barely four years old...or i guess i am just expecting too much from her..

@rhyannefranz (770)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

The first thing I know about kids is that girls don't like math and boys excel on them, even I am not really fond of math. So the thing you should do is motivate her in a way that is lucrative for her, like giving her something nice but not precious if she will study math. You can try to count for her first, like the things she like. Example is counting butterflies, colors, etc. Well that's just my opinion, I am not really an expert maybe you should ask a real professional about your problem.

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

oh yes, i tried that, but she is really clever, i would bargain her like tell her if you study i will give you the toy you like or chocolates, but she would really bargain her way to getting the thing first and then not study! which i really do not tolerate since she might get spoiled and always expect to have things her own way..kids nowadays are really clever..

@punkix (658)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

im not really sure jazel but i myself did not like math then and i know i still do not like it now.LOL. its a never ending cycle or curse of kids hating math and flunking it. its something that we can not avoid. there are kids who are born mathematicians and there are kids that just simply hate it. just have the aptience in teaching her but dont get your hope up high for your kid loving mathematics.

@jazel_juan (15752)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

oh well , i also dont excel in math even when i was kid maybe that is why i want her to be good at it or something! Its like what my husband said i always expect something from her, maybe i should lower my expectations

@rowe0525 (677)

• China

25 Sep 08

i willing yet unable //
well you know what.i am not interested math.so i canot help you,,,sorry for that,
but interesting is the best teacher
so i think you,d better make your son asumed of interesting,i hope your son will be good at math in no time

@kissie34 (2295)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

I have some ideas on how to help you but I don't know if this is effective to your child but still I will discuss here my ideas..
Why not try buy something activity books that has a number and some subjects that interest your child like drawing?? There are so many math activity books that can interest your child like the one she can write and color... Then let her color at the same time counting the colors.. Well, I usually buy books for my niece that will help her solve math problems.. I have this books like it will ask the child to color the pictures and at the same time she is counting the numbers.. Actually, that books has many activities.. Like the child will sketch the separate lines (like mapping) with the proper counting numbers.. There are also some activity books that will help the child learn simple arithmetic such as there are different pictures, the the child will asked to color it and count the pictures and add it with the another set of pictures.. Why not try to buy some books like those??
If that books are still not effective, then try used reward and punishment.. I'm not telling you to hurt your child as a punishment, what I'm trying to point out is give her a condition.. If she will be able to solve the problem you've given or if she knows to count numbers from 0 to 20 for example, then she can have something like juice or candy (make sure that she really like those things) and if she on't get it correct then she don't have those things.. Just simple as that..
As what I've said, I don't know if this will work to your child.. I hope you will be able to solve your problems with your child.. Happy posting!

@scyzyyyy (94)

• China

25 Sep 08

I think you should connect and exchange your idea with her teacher,maybe you also can ask some advice from some children education experts,I believe she will be interested in math in future,just need time.I also am not interested in math,and my parents did not give me more help and advices when I was a student,so my school work has been affectd all the time.

@jedd_opalla (59)

• Philippines

25 Sep 08

Kids do tend to make every excuse possible just to escape doing things they hate doing--and I mean everything, as you might have discovered for yourself already. I have the same problem with my nieces and nephews because they are not keen on studying math. I used to give them rewards before and after our study lessons, usually just small tokens for them to not run away from me. I also try to let them see me do my math stuff and mean to enjoy it so that they will enjoy it, too. you see, when they see you are halfhearted in doing something, they will think that it's must not be fun. And for me math is fun, and i try to show it to them. I also encourage them to use math in simple every day computations so that they will know how useful and handy it is.

@melvelasco (356)

• Philippines

24 Sep 08

i also had son that age as she is and my son also pre-schooler. you know what you're still lucky for having that child she's a fast learner...don't make in hurry in that age she still young to adopt that mathematics, just be patient sooner or later you'll got surprise that she's doing math with out your attention. mean while let your daughter enjoy everything...good luck!!

@checapricorn (16049)

• United States

24 Sep 08

[i]HI jazel,
try to research some stories or puzzles that she will enjoy, we have a lot online for sure and starting with a game might help her and also try to start it first when you are going to study, it is ideal to start with the subject she less likes![/i]