Do you go to bed together?
By katsmeow1213
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
United States
September 24, 2008 8:24am CST
It's funny how sometimes we take things in our relationship for granted. I was doing a search on the internet for ways to improve my relationship (which is already pretty good and strong btw) when I came across a set of tips. The 1st tip is to go to bed together. I thought it was really funny that this was one of the tips, but then it dawned on me, perhaps there are many couples that do not go to bed at the same time.
We always go to bed at the same time. Even if one of us isn't really tired, we will usually go to bed together anyways. It's just our routine. We don't really do much talking in bed because we share the room with our 2 youngest sons, but occasionally we might converse a bit. Usually we will cuddle for a few minutes before rolling over and attempting to fall asleep.
I don't view this as overly special because it's something we just do, we have no reasons for it.
Is going to bed together something you just do as part of your routine, or is it a special moment when it happens?
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33 responses
@joy4you (641)
• India
24 Sep 08
I never get to go to bed together with my wife because of our busy schedules but I can understand how this helps in a relationship in many other ways. Can you share the site with the other tips 
, looks like it might help or was it just some general browsing? Thanks and happy mylotting.
, looks like it might help or was it just some general browsing? Thanks and happy mylotting.1 person likes this
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I actually didn't stay on the site for long because none of the tips pertained to me. They were all things like show respect, be affectionate, etc etc. Nothing really mind blowing.
But if you'd like something... I came across this site the other day, and although it pertains to how to show your HUSBAND you love him... you could still take the ideas and use them towards your wife.
http://whyilovemyhusband.blogspot.com/2006/03/100-ways-to-love-your-husband.html
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@gemini_rose (16264)
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24 Sep 08
Most of the time we do go to bed together, and it is nice. But sometimes I like to stay up a bit later and just try and have some time on my own, I never get any and I like the quiet of the house and the peace I also get chance to have a read too.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I have no desire for any alone time. I feel I get enough during the day, because even though the babies are home, I'm not hands on with them constantly. I let them play on their own with me in the same room doing what I want, such as being on the computer or watching TV or whatever. I find myself getting pretty bored pretty quick, so when hubby is home from work I am ready to spend plenty of quality time with him.
The only time I've ever stayed up later than him is when I was into this pc game I had and wanted to play it all night.
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@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
24 Sep 08
[i]Hi kats,
It is our routine also to go to bed together, sometimes, I will be staying in the PC while hubby is still in the shower but as he is ready, he will just call me...It's not really special for us and we spend few minutes talking even if the lights is turned off already and then after that, we will be saying goodnight and then sleep!
This is also what I have observed to my Parents since we shared the same Tv in the living room before and every time one is ready for bed, the rest will also follow and I have not seen either Mom or Dad stay late at night alone, they are always together![/i]
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@TessWhite (3146)
• United States
24 Sep 08
Hmmmm, now that you think about it, no we don't go to bed together. I'm a night owl, my partner isn't. I'm always up til at least midnight if not later, while he has to get up early to be to work by 7. I know occasionally on weekends when he isn't too tired he stays up with me and we go to bed at the same time. But, that is rare around our household.
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@lkoenig07 (289)
• United States
24 Sep 08
My husband & I have always gone to bed together, also. When I was pregnant, most nights I'd get up after not being able to fall asleep, but we have always gone to bed together. Sometimes we talk, sometimes we watch a little tv, sometimes just cuddle or fall asleep right away.
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@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
24 Sep 08
We do not have a TV in our room, so if we were to watch TV we'd do that downstairs. In bed we either talk, cuddle, or go right to sleep.
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@ravinskye (8237)
• United States
24 Sep 08
My husband and I usually go to bed together. He really should go to bed earlier because he gets up 3 hours earlier than i do but he wants to stay up with me. Usually it is me going to bed when i'm not quite tired yet so that I can go to bed with him. Sometimes i get frustrated because he pressures me to go to bed when i'm not quite ready yet. It is nice to go to bed together but sometimes makes no sense to me because he falls asleep as soon as he hits the pillow so he doesn't really know i'm there. But it is nice on the times when we go up together, brush our teeth together and chat a little before we go to sleep.
@katsmeow1213 (28717)
• United States
24 Sep 08
I also have trouble falling asleep right away, although he can fall asleep within 5 minutes of hitting the bed. Usually I will lay on his chest until he begins to snore, then I roll over and wait for sleep to come.
@Crysi23 (515)
• United States
25 Sep 08
We usually go to bed at the same time unless if I have to get up early than I don't make my hubby go to bed with me. Because I know he has a hard time sleeping so if I go to bed at 10 p.m on days that I have to get up early. I let him stay up until 1:30 or even 2 a.m But on days that I don't have to get up early we will go to bed together.
@gitfiddleplayer (10362)
• United States
25 Sep 08
We have different schedules so going to be together is something we do once in a while. She works nights and I hang out with my kids during the day. We'll watch a movie together in bed but that's about it, we are currently sleeping in bunk beds, its a pain but that won't last forever. Interesting search about improving a relationship.
@jstmarfz (1498)
• United States
24 Sep 08
We usually go to bed together. I am the one always ask "is it night night time baby?" Then if he says yes, then that's the time we go straight to bed. But before going to bed, we talk about things happened to us,plans we will have and reminiscing things. If one of us is really tired we still do little talk and go to sleep. I can't sleep if my husband isn't my side. His hugs, kisses and snores are the one makes me fall asleep so fast...hehe.
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@Barb42 (4214)
• United States
24 Sep 08
When my husband worked regular hours, not getting up so early, we always went to bed together. But, over the years, with his crazy house, we don't go to bed together. He's usually in the bed 2-3 hours before I go. Then, when I do go, sometimes I wake him up, especially when he doesn't feel good - like last night. He will get up, go to the bathroom, then come back to bed, hoping to go to sleep. I don't think this really has any bearing on how good a relationship is. Some people work different shifts and may never sleep together except on weekends, even then. That is just life.
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@msedge (4011)
• United States
29 Nov 08
We always go to bed together.We have scheduled time to sleep.Sometimes when i feel sleepy i just sleep in the couch until he is done watching tv and he would just wake me up and go to bed together.It's always been special for us to have each other so everything we do together is very special for both of us which i think it should be.
@Fleurdelis (100)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
My husband and me don't go to bed together because I'm an early sleeper and he's not but we somehow wake up together at the same time and it's a routine, when I wake up in the morning, It's his face I see and I realized that God must have been doing his job in looking for the right man for me. I think this is overly special, something that makes me feel stable.. you know waking up with someone everyday on the same bed at the same time. I cannot imagine myself waking up alone, I think I'd be lost.
@shymurl (2765)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I have been with my husband for almost thirteen years now. And in that thirteen years, we have gone to bed together a hand ful of times. He has always been a night person. We usually have different schedules as far as work. Right now, he works the second shift (three in the afternoon to eleven at night), he usualy doesn't get home till around midnight. he stays up a little longer and then comes to bed. i'm going to bed around nine or a little after the kids go to bed and getting up at five thirty to get them ready for school and pretty much start my day. Even on his days off he stays up late. I use to beg him to come to bed with me, but over the years I have gotten use to it.
@eagle_f15 (1827)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 08
Hello.....yeah my husband and I go to bed together. But I would normally be the first to get ready for bed and he would be brushing his teeth taking out his contacts then we would be in bed. If either of us had a very tiring day then we would go to bed early seperately but it rarely happens. I like to go to bed together because we can talk a bit like wrap up for the day cuddle then we sleep.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
25 Sep 08
definitely when you go to bed together you can discuss about the whole day or else form busy schedule it is difficult to take any time form each other for knowing about the problems they face in whole day so it is definitely a good idea to go bed together
@deathvans (301)
• Philippines
25 Sep 08
Well, I'm not yet married, maybe some day or some how? hehe.. Hope your relationship last longer.. ^_^ have a nice day grandmo.... ^_^ hehe... happy MyLotting.. ^_^
@smiley83 (1534)
• Malaysia
25 Sep 08
well, although i'm still single not married yet ;p but i do feel that having the idea of going to bed together is great as you guys do some crazy stuff ;p i like it and it is nice though...but, i dont like myself to be on the same situation everyday as i would prefer to have some time alone or have some work to do that might cause me to stay up late or anything...
i can see myself from now...well, i just graduated from college, so i'm still having such student's habit of spending some time alone or staying up late to do some work or anything...beside, i'm the type who evaluate freedom as part of personal life..
u might guys disagree with me but this is how i feel..i don know..may be such thought would change when i enter into the marriage net ;p but i guess that freedom is really important.. i feel stuck and out of my way if he would try to control my movement or restrict some sleeping time or whatever..
Smiley,
