No one ever Responded :(

United States
September 25, 2008 8:58am CST
Although here lately I have not been able to post many discussions myself, there are times when I post quite a few. Most of my discussions will get at least one response, but then there are some, though few, that never get a response. I realize that every discussion you post you want someone to respond but are there some discussions that you started, you REALLY wanted someone to respond? In other words you really wanted a response because it was something that was important to you. What was the subject of the discussion? Do you ever ask your friends if they would respond to a discussion because you really wanted to know what they thought? Do you ever look at your friends discussions to see if they have one that no one ever responded to?
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@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I do think that timing has a lot to do with responses. Then, it's about something that interests you or not. Often, my friends will post something; or I do as well I am sure, that is not interesting to them. So no response. It happens. I will always respond to posts that are about personal issues of my friends when I see them. Time is the only real issue I believe.
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@MH4444 (2161)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Sounds like a great strategy to me.
• United States
25 Sep 08
I do my best to respond to discussion of friends. Some won't get a response because I have nothing to give or don't want to get involved in controversial ones. Other than that I really try to get everyone. Some times if a friend has posted several in a day I may not get all of them but I try to hit at least one.
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@cream97 (29087)
• United States
25 Sep 08
Don't feel bad, I went through the same thing. I try not to let it bother me, I just continue to post and do my best on any discussions.. I don't let something like this bring me down. Neither should you.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
I don't let it get me down. I just try to direct people to those discussion I want a response from. There are worse things in life that can bring someone down and unresponsive discussion should not be one of them.
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26 Sep 08
I created an account in mylot for almost a year now but i have not been a frequent visitor to this site, now from couple of days i have been to this site and also posted couple of discussions but to my surprise no one has comented so far, its not dat you want some comments people should give to your post bcoz you want them to give i think its the quality of post or subject of post which attracts people to your discussion and the top most subject are love and money, so any topic which deals with money and love is gonna fetch more comments
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@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
26 Sep 08
hi sangeet, i agree to you that love and money are two things which the major part of mylot population is attracted to...
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• United States
26 Sep 08
Contraversial subjects always get a lot of responders too. I tend to stay away from those but they do work. I see you have 2 discussions under your belt. It may be the number of friends that you have. I have several friend and many respond to most of my discussions. You may try starting with responding to a lot of discussions and making friends. Then you can start your own discussions with better results.
@lishiwei (1550)
• China
26 Sep 08
It's very comman!I know that many of us have the discussions that haven't been responsed.I think every discussion that we have started all want others respond it. I always went to see whether the discussion my friends have started have been responsed!
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I have a lot of friends so I try to from time to time do that, but I can't say all the time. If they ask for me to take a look I am always willing to at least look to see if I want to respond. Still I will only respond if I have something to say.
@lishiwei (1550)
• China
27 Sep 08
You are right.But I found that many of my friends are not active.
@john3l6 (187)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I don't start too many discussions lately so I haven't had that problem YET. I try to see if there are discussions I'd like to respond to. I don't respond to all my friends discussions only because I have no valuable input, interest or knowledge of the topic being discussed. If I am asked for my opinion on a topic from a friend I try my best to answer or give a reason why I will not. Some topics are not what I would like to be associated with or my opinion is so different from the topic being discussed that it is better to just stay out of it all together. I'm sorry if I missed one of yours that you were really looking forward to reading others opinions on.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
That's ok......I think I will make it through. This topic came up because I was noticing quite a few "No Response" discussions in the No response tab that were really good discussions. I think some times people just post at the wrong times. I think all of mine now have been responded to. One of my latest about going up the mountain has been at no response for about 4-5 days and then got a hit today. Another one was clear back in December and finally got a hit today. I suppose this discussion prompted people to look in friends discussions to see what they had written. Thanks for the response
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• United States
25 Sep 08
I have a couple that never received any responses but those mainly were not so important to me. However, I have some that I posted simply because I really wanted feedback and have gotten very little as far as responses go. I try to check out what my friends have done and reply if they have not received any responses though it just seems like the right thing to do though I have never asked them to respond to mine.
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• United States
25 Sep 08
I have pretty much the same experience with mine. Although there were a few that I really wanted a response and received none. It think it was probably the fact that I posted the message at the wrong time of the day and it just got lost in all the other discussions. Thanks for the response. I will check out to see if there were any you have that I could respond to. :)
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@loved1 (5328)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I don't usually post about anything terribly important, but I am always interested in hearing what my friends here at mylot think. It is funny you started this discussion because I was going through my unresolved discussions the other day and found a discussion that not one person responded to. It was a long time ago, but I was shocked that it did not even have one response! Going through your friends discussions to see if they have any "no responses" is a good idea. I have a lot of friends here so I better get started!
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• United States
29 Sep 08
I have alot of friends here too. Sometimes I go and find friends who have been inactive and I will respond to a discussion knowing that they will get an email. Maybe by doing that it will spark their interest to get back on the Lot.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
There was one months ago that I wanted a response to. It was about the effect of taking trans fats out of your diet, whether your health would be restored, whether the ill effects would be eliminated much of what happened when someone stops smoking. I mean I did not get any until much later and even that answer was discouraging. I have not looked at my friend"s profile unless they asked. I did have to search for a post that I really wanted to answer after I got some information and I guess it got put down in the pile. So that is what could have happened. Anyway, I will see if I find one of your post that has no response and answer that one.
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I think all of mine have responses now. I try to respond to your post. I enjoys most of the post you do. Some I have no idea (like the trans fat) So I wouldn't have posted to that. If it is about opinion I try to post. If it isa questions about facts I only post if know the answer or at least have an idea.
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
25 Sep 08
I[i] am very active with my friends' post and that is the reason I believed I also received a lot of responses in my post! but not too many..LOL! An average of 25 up responses.. I do know in your case, maybe you need to add more friends so that whenever you will post here, they will notified and can drop their responses! When I was new, I feel sad whenever I have 0-1 responses and I was trying to add friends each day![/i]
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• United States
26 Sep 08
ohhh...that is good! In my case I have over 500 friends but I know 3/4 of them are not active anymore! I just wish someday they will find time to come back! LOL!
• United States
25 Sep 08
thanks for the advise. I do have several friends. I may ned to go and clean osme of them out that are no longer active so I cna keep up with them better. I actually get a good amount of responses per discussion. 8-15 so I am not too unhappy. :-)
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@sang2k2 (1833)
• India
26 Sep 08
listen dont worry much about getting responses, instead you should go on participating and making friends this is the way people would get attracted to your disussion by exploring your profiles or if at all you get your discussions in top lists (this is kind of difficult). one more way to get your discussion in lime light in order to get more responses is to start the discussion in community..this can help you to get more responses..all the best..bother about the earnings as well buddy.
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I don't worry too much about it. I have been in the top lists from time to time. I get more new friends everyday and some have become my biggest responders so I treat them likewise. thanks for the response
• United States
25 Sep 08
As far as "friends" go, I have had quite a few people ask to be my friends and I approved them. Other than that, I don't know these people at all. I never ask to be anyones friend. I just enjoy the variuos topics here and like to write.
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I have gotten to know some here over the past year. It makes the whole experience so much better when I know who I can go to to ask a certain question. I too enjoy the geat discussions. Thanks for the response.
@apples99 (6556)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Well yes, there has been a few discussions Iv made that I didn't get many responses that I was kind of really hoping I would get a responds to, because I really wanted to know the answers to it, but I never ask anyone to go back and answer any dicussions Iv made I just post a new discussion and move forward.
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I have some friends who I have asked to respond to a discussion from time to time. They don't mind and they do the same to me. Not for the 1 or 2 cents but because I really wanted to know what they thought.
• United States
25 Sep 08
I've had a few of those, being new I just mostly respond myself, still just kinda feeling my way around here, trying to meet new people; I do scan the no responses page and new user page the first page on both of them to see if there is anything on there of interest to me; I think everyone's friend kinda keep an eye on each other's posts too you know? which is good;
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• United States
26 Sep 08
Yes I have a great group of friends here on the Lot. After being here a year people really start to know each other and are willing to respond better to your discussions. I try to help out my friends in the same way too.
• Philippines
26 Sep 08
hi, we are on the same boat, i started discussions and few had responded, maybe they cannot relate on what i said or maybe my topics were too boring for them. yes i had started something that was really important to me but i was disappointed, maybe it was not interesting. i do not know what to think and what topic to post so that i could get their attention lol.. anyways, have a good day!
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• United States
26 Sep 08
I see you are new to the Lot. It takes a while for your friends to get to know you. But once they do things always pick up. I have over 100 friends that I have made over the past year. Some are active and some are not. I have about 10-20 friends who respond to my discussions. So if you look at numbers and make sure you post discussions that are in their interests you can get more responses.
• United States
25 Sep 08
It is amazing how many responses a discussion about no responses will get LOL I have pasted some hits in the past that I had a few discussions with no responses and someone would run over and respond to it right away. I guess hoping for best response not really sure. I was just glad to be done with hit. and get to make a Best Response. So I was happy that it worked out well for me!
• United States
25 Sep 08
I try to find friends with no response. for 2 reasons. 1) to help a friend out 2) yes to try to get best response. Which I usually get if I am the only one who responds.
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