who discipline's your kids?

Canada
September 26, 2008 8:50am CST
do you do all the discipline or your husband. Do you have the same way of disciplining your children? my husband and i do not agree all the time and i know that is hard for the kids, i just think he is to hard on them, since he hardly ever see's them. Wht is your thought on discipline?
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@cher913 (25865)
• Canada
26 Sep 08
no we dont have the same way of discipling our daughters (he is much stricter than i) but we do agree on most things when we discipline our daughters. it is much harder now that our oldest daughter is a teenager, though!!
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• Canada
26 Sep 08
i find it very hard, because my huband and i do not agree, i can't imagen what it will be like when they get older.
• United States
26 Sep 08
I do most of the disciplining because hubby is usually at work. Now when he is laid off work and home more, we end up butting heads. I wouldnt say that we arent on teh same page, but he is more consistent. we agree with the same punishment for the crime, but he will stick to what he says is the consequences, about 25% of the time i dont, he allllways does. It works out ok though, because when he is home, he isnt seen as just the harsher parent from my son, so as long as that happens and he still sees him as daddy not just the scary one like happens in so many families...then its all good.
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@Humbug25 (12551)
26 Sep 08
Hi there mattcassethan As I am a single parent to my three boys aged 3, 5 and 7 it is purely down to me. My husband was around for a while at the begining and I did feel he was way to hard on the boys.
@ANTIQUELADY (36468)
• United States
26 Sep 08
they try to disipline me now but it doesn't work too well. lol i did when they were little because i raised them by myself. i think bot parents should do that. it's not fair to put if off on one.
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@Ravenladyj (22936)
• United States
26 Sep 08
Well since my kids are NOT his children I am the only one to discipline them UNLESS I'm not here (like when I go out of town for example).....In fact their father wasnt really allowed to discipline them TOO MUCH..meaning he was NOT allowed to spank them etc..I'm the sole custodial parent and the only one who has ALWAYS been consistant in their life so its always been up to me..
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@ravinskye (8242)
• United States
26 Sep 08
I usually am the one who does the disciplining of our kids. my husband does some but he tends to just ignore it and let me handle it. he can be really soft sometimes with them when they ask him for something. he'll say yes even if he doesn't want to do it. but then sometimes he flies off the handle really easily. we pretty much agree on the types of discipline we both use so atleast we have that.
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@mymelodake (1339)
• Philippines
1 Oct 08
In our family, my mom is the disciplinarian. My dad would voice out his comments a lot too, but my mom is a lot quicker and a lot harder when it comes to discipline. When it comes to permissions though, my dad always has the last word. I think they would have different views at times, but usually in the end they would be on one side and I'd be on the other side LOL.
@iyah10 (4116)
• Kuwait
28 Sep 08
My wife and I do most of the time the discipline to my daughter Iyah but if she cannot manage with the tantrums then she would tell me and I do the things I have to do it myself to help my wife...
@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
i dont have a husband so i am the one who disiplines my children. my sisters and my mom disiplines them too. if something really goes wrong and my son needs a father figure to talk to him i call four of my cousins to talk to him and they make sure my son understands what they say and they make sure that they hear out what my son wanted to say
• Canada
27 Sep 08
I don't have kids yet but when I do I htink it should be both parents that do this so one does not come as the bad guy and the ohter one as the good guy. If both do it then the kids will see that they are not going to get away from it with either parent but will see that both parents love them and this will be easier for them and the paretns.
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
27 Sep 08
Since my husband is working abroad... the task of discipling my daughter is solely on my hands... but when he is home for a vacation... i let him do it... so that my daughter would know that we both love her... but she needs to be disciplined and well behave...