Is giving a child up for adoption giving or selfish?

[i]Hi jstaubin, I will not consider it selfish because people are not perfect and sometimes we make mistakes and we are not ready to face it, that is always the reality, so, it is the best way instead of killing the baby or leaving them anywhere that will put their lives in danger. In this way, the mother is being fair for the child to have a good future with another family who can take care of them and give them a home! But, I wish for those who are doing this, they are going to leave something for the child to know who are they in the future because we have a lot of people who have no idea who are their real parents and no idea where to find them![/i]

I'd say neither. I'd say they're misinformed. Agencies don't bother telling these girls that there are resources that could help them raise their babies. They just drill into the girls' heads that they can't give their babies everything they need. That a financially stable couple would be better suited to raise their child. Imagine hearing over and over again that you are not good enough to raise your baby. You don't deserve your baby. It can be quite damaging. Studies show that only 2% of mothers who gave their babies up for adoption actually wanted to. The rest were either pressured until they gave in, or felt like they had no choice because of their circumstances.

yeah, I agree especially if you now that by doing it, your child will be better off. But if I still have the chance to be able to raise my child properly, I will not give him up of course.

People are entitled to their choice. If they are unable to bring the child up well and they realize this then why not allow them to be able to give the child a chance in life. Many children never get that opportunity. I hate hearing of the children they find in dumpsters. Those stories make me want strangle the person that did this.