Do u believe in long distance relationship????

@sweety10 (188)
September 27, 2008 2:13am CST
hey!!i met a online friend..6 months ago... now we both r very gud friends...its almost 6months 2 our friendship..n he used 2 call me as a "SPECIAL FRIEND".even he wrote a beautiful poem for me...In which he express what he feels about me...we both are belong from india ..bt he went melbourne for higher studies...after reaching melbourne we both r in touch...I think he start liking me...soonly he's going to propose me ...he's coming to india in the month of dec...now we are going to meet 1st time after our friendship...but i m scared that if he propose me...should i accept or not...because this relationship is going for long distance ...and i think its difficult to maintain..plzz suggest me what to do...
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• United States
27 Sep 08
i have tried to be in about 4 long distance realshonships. They all worked for a little while but did not last. The last one i was in lasted for a year. but there were so many ups and downs. I finally had to call it quits. I would hope that you can make it work but i would never suggest to anyone that it will work. i wish you all the luck in the world
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@sweety10 (188)
27 Sep 08
thankz for sharing your experience...n thankz for your wishes..well i hv still think before going for this relationship...
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27 Sep 08
do what ever you like..if like him you should give him a chance to prove his feelings for you..think he would go to india for you just to meet you..hmm..but still you have to think before you decide to accept his proposal..if he propose to you..i have a long distance relationship with my girl friend..and we find a way to communicate each other..well that's all i can say..if you need my suggestion i would try my very best to give you the best suggestion..
@sweety10 (188)
27 Sep 08
thankz for your response...n m glad if u give me a suggestions..because i really needed it..nice to see you again..
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@IBWISE (145)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I met a woman online 8 years ago and we now have been married for almost two years. Not all relationships formed in this manner work out but what you have is what you make it, so do not only what your heart tells you to do but what you think is best for both of you. If you continue with him then together you make it work but if you have any bad feelings then back off and leave it alone because the last thing you want is to get hurt...
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@iyah10 (4115)
• Kuwait
29 Sep 08
It is nice if truly someone would meet happiness as a long distance relationship and hope that everything would be fine with him and both find the relationship in good but if u do not mind until how many months should he have to study to Melbourne India..? And I think you do not have to assumed everything just wait and relaxed that if that day would come you would be ready as well and it is only you who can decide unto it......
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@kipluck (143)
• United States
28 Sep 08
I believe in LDRs and that it is a wonderful way to START a relationship... a way to get to know each other. But that at some point, one or the other, has to change the location. I think every relationship eventually needs "face time" before something like a proposal. BUT if you both feel like it is heading that way maybe you better talk about who is going to MOVE so you CAN get that face time!
@candysky (855)
• Malaysia
29 Sep 08
Well, me n my dear oso is long distance relationship... for me, i think it is really depends on how both of u think.... if u 2 really love each other n relly wish to be gether forever, then the 1st thing must be learn is TRUST.... u must trust him n he oso need to trust u... bcoz of long distance, u 2 is very difficult to meet, difficult to noe wat happen to the other n mayb when u need some1 beside u but he is not there, all tis problem must hv the trust between 2 of u... like me n my dear, v trust each other, well, sometime sure will feel unconfortable, like feel unsafe, but if u believe him, all can b ok... like my dear said, i'm not beside u but i'm in ur heart.... so... to hv a long distane relationship, must hv TRUST....
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@mansha (6298)
• India
28 Sep 08
I have seen two marriages which worked but you have to tread wisely and carefully. If you do not expect too much and are ready for surprises I think all will be fine. It can work if both of you are mature and make the right choices at the right time. All the best!!
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@zatak07 (699)
• India
27 Sep 08
I'm with butterfly2642 , so far i heard about online long dist relationship success rate is very low & it didn't work in most cases...anyway be careful & goodluck !!
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@sweety10 (188)
27 Sep 08
thankz for the suggestions..
• United States
27 Sep 08
I don't know if I can answer this question b/c I've never been in a long distance relationship but I can tell you that if my fiance was away from me for more than a week I would die. The fact that you two get along conversively, that you can talk to each other, is an excellent start, but that's all that it is. A start. If the long distance were to continue after you're married I don't think it would be a great relationship to get involved in. You need to think about yourself and not only that but your children. They need a father and if you're away from him for prolonged periods, so will they. Sometimes a "special friend" is all that they are. Someone who gets you. But a husband is someone that is there and wants to be there with you.
@sweety10 (188)
27 Sep 08
well thankz for the response...he will come back after completed his higher studies...he never planned to settled down there...but he has to stay in melbourne for 2 yrs untill he finish his studies..if we were in relationship ..the time gap 2 yrs is very long...so that's why i m afraid..should i go for this relationship or not..
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@saundyl (9783)
• Canada
30 Sep 08
Long distance relationships are hard and take alot of work. I've been in a couple (am in one now) BUT i honestly must say that until you the person its VERY hard to know who they are really...text is easy to misinterpert. Being in one online relationship for several years and never meeting the person i personally find it hard to count that person as an Ex boyfriend...an Ex friend yes. I would recommend being careful about the typical stuff - meeting in a public place, not giving out too much personal information. And...dont jump head first into it when you do meet...if he asks you to marry him say you want to know him better IRL before you accept. He might be a VERY different person irl or the same...its hard to know what deceptions one practices online.
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@jfxrsch (1041)
• China
27 Sep 08
As long as it doesn't cost money, everything is fine. Enjoy while it lasts.
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• India
28 Sep 08
even i have a friend whom i met online. from last 2 years we are friends. now he is in Australia. mine also the same story but he never proposed me nor i as there was only friendship between us. for 1st time we met in restaurant but i was scared and i asked my friend to accompany me. that was great movement when i met him. we just spend 1hour as he has some other work. if you feel that your friend is really a good person then sure meet him but be safe, that is important. i never felt that in front my friend is something and online some other. what i guessed he was like that only. we both know each other very well. hmm... meet him but better to select a safe place .. you know what i mean. i met my friend after 1 year even had not seen faces of each other lol.
@vmksvmks (413)
• Canada
28 Sep 08
I am not a proponent of long distance romances and i find it really out there that anyone would consider marriage with someone they never met face to face I assume you have never met so my vote as if it really matters is no way Jose Now if he arrives and start a relationship and know what his future plans may be start I am very cautious about anyone i communicate with online Good Luck Have a Great day
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• United States
30 Sep 08
love can get you through anything. if it is really love. love as you want to be loved.
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@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
28 Sep 08
well, base on my own experienced, i believe in long distance relationship. as long as there is a communication there is nothing impossible to let anything grow in time. any relationship can be last through daily communication either you both near or long distance.
@aowaow (1516)
• Indonesia
27 Sep 08
Only a little percentage can be a successful couple or until marriage life. This must be considered, because one side must be surrender almost whole part; like job, parents, and emotional to live in partner's environment. Some people may take this chance, but mostly I had seen, it's hard especially for those who had better living, hence if both are. Addition for the 3rd party attempts, means we're far from him/her. Less may had a good principle, but it's not all. It's nice to know someone from some "new" place, but usually when the decision had to be made. That's where the fragile part pops up. To continue or not, who will be the volunteer?
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@zebra2222 (5269)
• United States
27 Sep 08
Be careful about your long distance relationship. It's much better to really see the person and know him well. It's one thing to be friends. However, a romantic relationship is totally different. You need to spend personal time with him and be sure that you want to be together for the rest of your life.
@srikandi19 (3391)
• Kuta, Indonesia
27 Sep 08
yes i believe its. because i have online friend. and he give me souvenir at my birthday. and advice to me. i am very glad be friend him. although me are never meet at live. we just call at phone and chatting online.
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• Malaysia
27 Sep 08
I experience that before, but not a good ending, cause it really need both parties commitment and of course the responsibility towards the future. The key factor and challenge is time, when it pass through, lots of things make both parties to rethink and review, example, is he still love me? i know i love him, but other guy/gal approaching me, should i accept and see? etc.. But of course, i do have friends success on that, but the % is extremely low. =)
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• United States
28 Sep 08
I don't because you can't really see what the person is like through the computer and phone. I think you need to meet them and be with them to see what they are reallt like
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