How Would You Handle This? (Molestation)

Hello Chevee. I have very strong feelings about this. I believe that molestation of a child is one of, if not the worst, crime to possibly commit. Children are so very wonderful and innocent and for anyone to take advantage of that, well, they should get the worst punishment possible! I have 5 children and happily married. If I was ever in the situation of one of my children coming to me and telling me that anyone did this to them I would have to consider the fact that it could be true. Usually, children do not lie about things like this. And I would much rather be safe than sorry. This is definitly something that you can not take the chance in being wrong about!

Hello chevee, This is the incident that i always pray not to happen to my youngest and only daughter.She's only 2 years old.By the way I have four kids...It's really a very big fear to me because i know i would do all may best to punish (legally) the culprit if it happens...I always see to it that my daughter and I have a communication...and if ever she said something to me i would difinitely confront the concerned person..I know my child won't lie to me because my teaching to my children is very clear " If they did wrong accept it and say sorry.. don't ever lie.. if ever there's a punishment for what they did ,, it's just fine and just part of teaching them a lesson.. We're doing it for their safety because we love them...Hiding mistakes will only gives them more trouble...

i agree with other posters--I would take my childs side first and small children have no need to lie about those things (and say they did, aren't we adult enough to see that). It bothers me when mothers side with their boyfriends who are still strangers to themselves and ignore their children. Mental illness I think. What an epidemic.

It's really hard to handle that.I think you can call the police and let them give you a hand.

I will talk seriously with my hubby and reason with him. i love him but if he does that. then there must be something wrong with him.

What kind of response are you expecting? Do you really think that someone is going to come out and say "Oh yeah, I think that would be okay..." What Ashole would really say that? I mean really...

parents should know the difference if their child is lying or not. there are always signs between something falsified and something truthful. especially from a daughter to a mother. something as serious as abuse should be taken seriously. if my child told me that someone 'touched' them (male or female) i would defiantly believe them, get the information and file a report no matter what the relationship to me was. then i'd probably want to kill that person with my own hands.

[i]Hi Chevee, I haven't seen that movie but if ever that will happen..I will defend my child and seek for justice! I will give up my relationship to this man! I have seen a lot of situation like this and what is sad is that, mother tends to ignore and tolerate the said molestation because of the st*pid feeling for the man even if her child is the victim here.....Very sad![/i]

It's your daughter, you should take her word for these things! I would certainly want to know the truth no matter the consequences. One can always find another lover, but daughters are hard to come by

Hi Chevee, That is one thing I cannot understand of some womem who do not want to believe their daughters words because the do not want to lose their man who are a monster, I have a close friend who went throught the same things for years, she suffered sinthe age of nine by her step father. That was many years ago and she has fogiven her mother but I wonder if I can, I don't thik so. Tamara

no, i simply could NOT continue a friendship or a relationship with that "friend". even it if were unproven, i would still wonder why that child made up such a lie. i would think the child must have been desperate to get that man out of your life, by making up such a lie. maybe she knew, or suspected something, and went to extreme measures. there is no, i repeat no, reason to abuse a child. i'm glad your family member did the right thing and stood by her child.

Honestly, I would have to say that I am a victim to this. I had informed my mother of what my step dad was doing to me when I was 12 years old and she took my step father's word over mine. Believe it or not, I think everyone believed him over me. They didn't think that he could do any thing like that and everyone took his side. That was really hurtful to me. We even went as far as going to child protective services and having me taken out of the home. Then the CPS believed him over me once again. Family members told me to tell the CPS people that he didn't do anything to me so that I could go back home and go on with our lives. I guess they couldn't handle the fact of what I was telling them. But what hurt me the most is when my mother did not believe me at all. And I was telling the truth. So to say, I was sent back home with my parents and then he continued doing things to me for a few more years until I hit 18. He got away what he did and served no jail time. Its pretty sad, yes I'd say. When I become a mother and my little girl or even my little boy comes to me and tells me that someone did something to them. No matter what I will take their word for it. I promise myself that I would be nothing like my mother. I think she thought it was too hard to believe and I think somewhere in the back of her mind, she knew he did it, but she loved him and didn't want to believe it. Eventually after I left home. They divorced for other reasons.

i saw that movie and she stayed with the man she caught him in the act and yet she still stay with this mad he broke her daughter arm h to the no i would not stayed with this man he was crazy then he was holling he loved her that is a sickness.a lot of woman would have killed him and protected her child.

Personally it truly upsets me to think that a parent would EVER doubt their child when approached with this situation. This is an extremely serious matter and definitely should never be taken lightly. My best friend was raped years ago, and it still effects everyday of her life knowing that someone that she trusted took something from her that she can never get back. If I were in the situation, even if the child were lying I wouldn't be able to continue a trusted relationship with the person just because the child had to have some sort of reason to stake the blame in the first place.

I don't have children yet myself but i don't think that i would be able to continue a relationship with a person when there had been any suggestion that this sort of thing had gone on, there would always be that doubt in the back of my mind, and apart from that, even if the child was lying, i'd have to think about the reasons that they were saying such awful things, as the fact that they would make up something so awful suggests they are not happy about that person being in their life. I have never understood how anyone could ignore these suggestions when their child has told them something untoward is going on, but then again i guess we never know how we will react in situations until we face them ourselves, although i certainly hope that this is a situation i will never have to deal with. xxx