my best friend is getting married...!!

@ralphido (843)
India
September 28, 2008 8:17am CST
guys... help me out... one of my friends came to me yesterday broken hearted,,...his best friend is getting engaged next month.. only now does he realize what he's going to lose... he ran to me for help... i'm lost for words... he's saying there's nothing he can do about it, feeling totally helpless... what am i suppossed to do..? i can't seem to see any way out of it.. any ideas...
1 response
@capirani (1841)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think you need to give more details here. What is your friend losing? This post is too confusing to figure out how to respond.
@ralphido (843)
• India
29 Sep 08
look... it's like this... my friend's a techie.. he's working at this firm for the last one year where she is also working.. they got along nicely most of this year virtually spending their whole time together in and out of office.. she calls him everytime to keep her company if she ever needs to go out and always keeps in touch via phone even if she's gone home.... obviously my friend started fancying her... but last week she announced her engagemnt with some other guy.. he didn't see that coming.. he was planning on telling her about his feelings but now he is confused and heart broken saying it is a lost cause...does it make any sense now...
@capirani (1841)
• United States
30 Sep 08
Gotcha. I am sorry for your friend. But apparently she sees him only as a good friend and co-worker. He took too long to speak up about how he felt and apparently took a lot for granted. It is sad when that happens, but that is how things happen in love and relationships. I wish him luck at finding someone he can feel comfortable enough with to tell how he feels about her at a better time frame. It is interesting that in all the things she shared with him, she never shared that she was seeing someone on a romantic basis? I guess that would show that there were a lot of unspokens in that friendship and that she probably didn't share as much with him as he thought she did. That definitely isn't a good way to start a good romantic life-time relationship.
@ralphido (843)
• India
30 Sep 08
ya.. i think nothing can be done now.. no point sulking over a lost cause.. i have been trying my best to tell him the same thing..but he won't listen to me and is even thinking of how to torpedo their marriage.. he needs help...