How do you handle different situations here at MYLot?

I tell them that they are supposed to be making a discussion that is what mylot is about, and if they don't after that I just don't answer their questions. I ignore them.

Im sure that we all do our best here at Mylot Louise,but the questions are sometimes a little vague,and there isnt a clear cut answer to them,we can only offer what we see as a way that we would deal with the problem ourselves.The answers are going to vary dramatically,and its quite interesting to see all of the different opinions here on mylot.

Sometimes I offer follow questions but most of the time I just give an answer and it is left open if some one wants to discuss further. There have been some discussion that would be 10-15 comments long. Those are fun too.

Hi there! If that happens to me I just ignore it. But sometimes if I'm in the mood I would try to comment back and try my best to create exchanging of views. But if my effort is to no avail I just stop. I know everyone here is trying their best to create a good response but there are times really that are efforts aren't the best and we just have to kept going on whatever we have to do here on mylot. Ciao!

I did a discussion on this recently & came to the conclusion that it is usually the same few people giving the "cookie cutter" answers. I'd rather receive NO answer than the "cookie cutter" answer. Therefore, I make a mental note of the person's name & just avoid any & ALL discussion that person does.

In my opinion, it's not responding or not that matter. Discussions should just be on going naturally. Some will react to the questions or points that the starter initiated. If a respond or comment is needed, well and good. However, if the point we wanted to imply is clearly stated and dont need a reaction at all, then that's the end of if. Another thing, I think we should just be enjoying the discussions. We should feel free to express ourselves. In cases that we don't favor the respond of someone, we might as well be quiet. But if we can't help commenting more, we should do it more politely so as not to hurt other people's opinion. C yah! Happy myLotting!

Hi Louise, You get to know people after a while. So when you are thoughtful and think about your answer carefully to give them a good reply and then you get a glib"thank you for your response" or no response at all just ignore people like that and enjoy good disussions with people who are as thoughtful as you.

It really makes me no difference. If I were to answer a discussion, and get a response that was lack luster, I would continue on as nothing happened. I answer all discussions that I find interesting enough to respond to. Even if the discussion originator just gives me a generic response, I feel like someone else may gain some insight off my response to the discussion. Plus, I've earned off that response anyway, so mission accomplished.

In fact I have regulars in my friends list who respond to my discussions and have not really come across those that gives me a cookie cutter answer. Seriously I need people who can inject fresh and commendable responses varied and interesting. But if someone does come in without concrete response then I consider that person as a 'decorative' responder that fills up the quota. Every 10 that responded to my post there sure be one weird person that comes in. But it is fun though, it creates a smile on the face.

well it depends on the discussion, sometimes I tried to answer discussions and I don't know about the topic so it is hard to talk about it, I usually don't reply to responses from other people, it is rare that I came back to check out for comments on my response, I just don't like to check it because some people is not nice and I don't want to read something disgusting.

Sometimes I'll answer with a "What??" or "What is your point?" to get the person to respond again but it doesn't always work out that way and then again sometimes I'll just skip over the response and reply to the next one that makes some sense. Why bother answering to a response that makes no sense? It kind of makes you look as bad as they do if you were to answer.

Hi Louise, I stop responding to discussions like this eventually and also to the ones where I never get any response back as the way I see it a discussion is a two way thing. I know they say not to respond back in the guidelines but to me if someone has taken the time to respond to a discussion I have placed I feel it is only polite to do so. I have a few discussions I need to catch up with on that but normally I do so immediately if I can. Huggles. Ellie :D

Hi louise, Yes I have had that problem too. In fact I have started to weed out the people who I find never answer me when I respond to their discussions at all. I find it to be totally rude and I'm not going to bother responding to their discussions anymore. One of the people I am talking about is a friend of yours in fact. She never responds to any of my responses to her discussions, never responds to my discussions and I have gone out of my way to respond to hers and especially when she was having some personal problems with her mom. She does respond to some people, but I am obviously not one of the important ones. I very rarely get upset about things like that unless I see a pattern for a long time. And I have seen a pattern with certain people and quite frankly I am hurt and feel that I can no longer keep making excuses for the people that do this to me. I have a long list of friends that do answer and that I do interact with and that do respond. I don't expect someone to respond all the time. I get responses from people that I respond to once who I don't even know. Now that's sad when you think about it.

I agree with you. Some people seem to ask a question and you have no idea of how they feel about it. I aways try to ask open ended questions that promote discussion. Sometimes it is difficult. I have asked questions where I do not have an answer but I try to explain what the problem is that I would like a solution to and why I want it. As for replying to answers it is sometimes hard to put more than "Thankyou for your reply" if the answer was so inane or jumbled you could not really understand it. I hope I have not upset anyone by saying this.

I respond to discussions and read all the comments in it thats all , if they are amrking me best response or if they have appreciated me for my thoughts i will go back and reply them , or if they ask some sensible questions i go repsonding them otherwise i dont do it.. thus how im doing it

I recently saw a discussion started by one of my friends and responded to by many of the folks in this conversation. The person starting the conversation asked a simple question that everyone would have an answer to. This person did not respond to any of those responding or answer the question themselves. To make some money on activity without getting to involved it would be a great tactic. It's equally possible that, like me, they posted the question and never got back to the computer since. Either way the conversation goes on with everyone learning a bit more about each other. The lack of response didn't seem to bother anyone. Cookie cutter responses seemed to make everyone mad as the person starting the conversation shows no respect to the responders. This is at least the second or third thread I've seen on the subject. I have to say that much anger about the practice should be getting the attention of someone running the sight.

People will just response to the post that you start. They response and give their opinion on the topic that you set. Some will just supports other ppl views, but in the end never say this opinion. In some forums, these are called spammers. I don't discriminate them, just that they shldnt waste time on it. If someone just response blindly, i will just ignore it. and response in my own way

I respond to everything, even if the discussion is whack! I try to decipher through what the person is saying and give my spin on it! Maybe the person who started the discussion didn't really know how to explain what he wanted, so I'll try to make it as clear as possible! Responses to mine, don't bother me, I'll even comment on it and say thanx in 20 words or more to let them know what's suppose to be done! Taripre$