why after marriage love decreases between husband and wife?

@sonusd (1547)
India
September 28, 2008 11:55pm CST
I have seen so many couples love each other before they get married but after getting married they keep them self busy in their proffesion so what is the reason? can any body tell me who have having the personal experience?
7 responses
@parvezjs (422)
• India
3 Oct 08
I agree that after marraige couples are not able to give each other time. The time that their relation demands. but i dont agree that it is because they loose interest in each other or they stop loving each other. I rember once my wife asked me same question. This was my reply to her. Before marraige when you are courting, you like to be each other it is because of Love but more htan that it is curiosity to know each other, you like to be with each other because you get only those 2-3 hours to spend together. and ofcourse where there is love of emotions there also exists physical love and this is also a major reason and you like to see eachother, feel each other more than often. After marraige things changes. Now you know each other very well, so no question of curiosity? All the time you are with each other, except when you are off to office. Do i need to say anything about physical attraction? God bless.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
29 Sep 08
The fact that a woman keeps her profession does not have a correlation with the love decrease between a married couple. Many women do have a full time job outside home and some of them have a professional job. They manage to keep a full time job and have a healthy marriage. It is more difficult for a married woman to devout time for the house and family. She will have less time for her children and her husband than a woman that stays at home. However I believe that it is a question of quality rather than quantity. Working mums can still give quality time to their family and husbands.
• Malaysia
29 Sep 08
I believe the main reason is commitment especially when new member - kids join in. Nowadays the living standard is higher and higher, the inflation is keep increasing, thus it become a must for husband and wife to continue the profession.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I don't think that the love decreases, but I think that you get busy with life. Often times the marriage brings on more responsibility and goals that the couple has set. You are working to achieve those. Also I think that when you are dating a person you are forced to make time to date, and once you are married you always think that you have forever to make time for each other. I do think that once you get married its important to still have date nights or weekends and to make time for each other.
• United States
29 Sep 08
my husband and i are still very much in love today as we were when we were married. i think the reason for that is that people let their priorities get mixed up. even if a couple is in love, it still takes work to make a marriage last. especially when you start adding other things into the mix, like careers and children and things. each partner needs to work at keeping the "spark" in the marriage. sometimes it is not easy, but marriage is not always easy, no matter how much you love eachother! :)
@patzel88 (3311)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
they feel like they are brothers and sisters and also they are busy to the future of their child. but the love is always their even they are too busy to their designated work.
@SachseMom (449)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think it happens when like you said that people get wraped up in work and family and don't take time out for each other then they grow apart. I love my husband now more than ever and we've been married for 7 years and he was and still is my best friend. We love the same things and love being together. I wouldn't have another other man in my life but him. We do try to make time for each other after the kids go to sleep. We don't have a date night because we don't have the money and what money we have we want to spend it on a family thing.