Swimming pool

@julianarw (1524)
Netherlands
September 29, 2008 12:57am CST
I have son, 2 years old. We never bring him to the swimming pool, because : I can not swim and my hubby always refuse to bring my son to the swimming pool because of his work everyday in the swimming pool with his clients. So, what should I do. I just don't want my son will afraid to do swim when he get his course at the school. And all his friends will laugh at him. I DON't want that happen to my son. What should I do?? Can you give an advice??? Thanks
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@cripfemme (7713)
• United States
30 Sep 08
My mom never swam. She still doesn't but she always sat on the pool edge with her feet in the water or she stood in the water with me (shallow end) while I splashed around and played. You could try that, too!
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
30 Sep 08
i think you should enroll him in swimming lessons. Maybe you could take them with him...it is never too late. every one should know how to swim.
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@glords (2614)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I think you can teach your son a little without knowing how yourself. Go to the pool and get in the shallow end. Lesson #1 teach him that getting in the water is fun. Take him in the shallow end and let him hold onto the sides kick his legs and splash. Lesson #2 teach him to jump into the water. Hopefully he will love it, and you simply must catch him and help him back out of the pool. Lesson #3 teach him to relax and float on his back. This way if he ever gets into a pool without your knowledge he'll know how to float on his back until help comes. Lesson #4 While on his back teach him to put his arms straight above his head and then drag them down to his sides as to propel himself in the water. All of these lesson can be taught to him while your feet are planted firmly on the ground in the shallow end. After you have progressed this far you can move to tummy swimming. It doesn't matter if the techniques you teach him are slightly off. They will all get straightened out later.
• United States
29 Sep 08
You can get one of those blue portable pools. That way it would deep enough for you to walk around and help him learn to swim. That way you don't have to swim but you can help him. And plus he'll see that you aren't scared of the water too. I'd also ask your hubby if he could at least help him some on the weekends.
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@babystar1 (4235)
• United States
29 Sep 08
why dont you go out and buy a small child size pool and take him out everyday and let him play in the pool. When he gets bigger buy a larger pool. That what I did with my kids, they all learned on there own they never took swimming lessons.
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• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
Hi Juliana, just a friendly advise. I think you should have a swimming lesson first. Your son is only two years old. He can wait 2 or 3 more years. So why don't you enroll in swimming class I have so many friends here who doesn't know how to swim and that's kinda pity because children are very eager to be in the water especially in the summer. And water is lekker.... I'm sure there are swimming pools in your area offers adult swimming lesson, and once you know how to swim then you are more confident to bring your son to the pool and it's more enjoyable to be with him in the water... have a great day! ~May~
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
no...i don't think will take a swimming lesson hi hih i... I am too old for that . Btw, thanks for idea hi hi hi hi...
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
believe me, you're not yet too old for that..Last year, I was with my Pinay friend (she's 36 yrs. old) who had swimming lesson and there were even many Dutch oldies who were also swimming for their ABC Diplomas. And by the end of October she will have her B zwemdiploma... ik vind het heel knap van haar. Have a great day! ~May~
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
hi hi hi....thanks for your support. I will think about that again and maybe discuss with my hubby have a good day
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@bbrenner (20)
• United States
29 Sep 08
Swimming lessons is an excellent idea for the both of you. My father taught us to swim in the creek before we could walk. My mother still enrolled us in lessons when we got older. We learned proper technique as is mentioned in another post. It taught us responsibility to be influenced by an expert instructor and to be responsible for progressing in certain ways with goals to attain. We were better for it, though we had already been swimming most of our lives. Babies are born swimmers. What do you think we do in the water in the womb? People have this concept that swimming in water is foreign to human beings and that we sink instead of float. The fat and air in our bodies is naturally bouyant and your son already knows how to swim whether he has realized it or not. They are telling you the truth. You are never too old to swim. It is a real safety issue. The planet is 70% water. What if you were ever involved in a hurricane, typhoon or shipwreck? Even a plane crash?? It is a good idea to become a swimmer. You never know where life may take you. Besides you need to face that fear and get the victory over it. It is also a good idea to get your hubby involved. Do it together. As I said, my father taught me and your boy will feel more secure with Daddy around. Children idolize their father and want to be just like him. Don't take the brunt of the responsibility on yourself. Let Dad help too. Set an example before your child and buy him the kiddie pool. That is a great idea. Just watch him every minute and never leave him unattended. It only takes a second and a teaspoon of water to drown. Just keep his face out of the water and let him explore the pool. You won't believe how fast he takes to it and how much he will enjoy it. Swimming is the perfect exercise and stress reliever. Don't wait any longer though. The longer you wait and the older the child becomes, the harder it is. It would have been much easier for you to have learned as a child than to be facing it now after all these years of uncertainty, but you can do it! Keep your head up. Now, just slowly work your way into the shallow water until you feel safe. You can also start in the bathtub in your own home. Do you not have a friend or relative who is a swimmer and can help you? Listen, do not worry about him being teased. All kids get teased for one thing or another. That's just part of it. He will have to learn to accept himself for who he is and to roll with the punches. He needs to be a swimmer for more logical reasons. And he is not too young to go to the public facility because they do have a wading pool for babies and they also have lifeguards and many times instructors to aid you there. Bless you well. You are a good parent for being so thoughtful and concerned for your child. Have a great and blessed day. Happy swimming!! :o)
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 08
wow....thanks very much for ur advice... have a good day..
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• United States
30 Sep 08
Welcome...you too :o)
@ailema4ever (2675)
• Finland
29 Sep 08
Hey, Jul! You can buy him rubber bands for the arms and then just go to a shallow end of the pool so you can walk and guide him and help him play in water. Just to make sure he gets used to it and he doesn't get scared. Later on at school he'll learn how to swim properly he he he...
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 08
oke...i will try that hi hi hihi....
@the_evil (46)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
i think you should teach your son in a mini pool or kiddie pool.. teach your son what is the proper way to swim.. and when he learn the basic technique on how to swim? just be patience.. i know your son will not be afraid anymore.. no guts no glory.. remember that..
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 08
ok...maybe i can buy mini pool. thanks for ur advice
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@carolbee (16231)
• United States
29 Sep 08
I would definitely enroll him in learn to swim classes. I wouldn't worry as much about other kids making fun of him but would be more concerned about his safety. I was a swimming instructor when I was a teenager so I did teach all 3 of our kids to swim. A person never knows when they are going to be in a situation when they need to know how to swim or how to save a life.
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 08
you were right. thanks for ur advice
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@Sillychick (3279)
• United States
29 Sep 08
You don't have to be able to swim. Just get in the water, in the shallow part, and hold him. Let him kick his feet, splash a little and get used to being in the water. Or if that is a little much for you, get a kiddie wading pool and let him get in and splash around. The water is just a few inches deep, but it is a good way to get him used to being in the water. In the meantime, why don't you take some swimming lessons or have someone teach you to swim. It would be a good way to set a good example for your son, to show him that you can learn to swim even though you are grown up, and that there's nothing to be afraid of.
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
thanks...I think i will do that. Let's see what hubby said . Thanks for ur response
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@lynnchua (3416)
• Singapore
29 Sep 08
You can bring your kids to a so called baby pool. He can enjoy playing with the water and you can stay beside him to look after him.
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
ah yeah...thati is good idea also. thanks
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@Ohara_1983 (4119)
• Kuwait
29 Sep 08
Hi julianarw, If you partner is busy you can do by your self, kids swimming pool is safe, even do you dont know how to swim, just show to you son that you can do it because you will be the example for your son so he will not be afraid or call some friends to have more fun in swimming pool my dear friend.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
thanks...i will try. MAYBE
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
You can always buy your son that portable swimming pool so that he can take a dip whenever he wants to... and you don't have to swim at all since it will be too shallow for you... but deep enough for your son to learn how to swim... and i think you can even schedule some weekends when you and your husband can take him swimming... i doesn't have to be every weekend...
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
thank you so much for ur idea :D
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@tryxiness (4548)
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
I guess you can hire a private tutor who could teach him how to swim and appreciate swimming. These teachers know of techniques how to encourage kids to swim.
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@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
29 Sep 08
in here, we don't have private tutor like you said. children will get course when they go to school at 4years old. thanks for the response
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@magojordan (3254)
• Philippines
30 Sep 08
I suggest you get him to enroll in swimming lessons. Learning to swim at an early age would really be a good thing for a kid to grow healthy and strong. Maybe it's not too late if both you and your son learn to swim. It's a good bonding activity too.
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• United States
29 Sep 08
Get him swimming lessons. It usually helps. Im a swimmer so is my son so i dont have that problem right now however i am still going to have him swimming lesons done jsut to be on the safe side.
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30 Sep 08
if u donot mind shall i ask u one thing do u want ur son to be bring pride for u ??? then y unnecessarily discouraging him.........u might have seen olympics conducted in china among them PHELPS who won many gold medals from swimming stream.... seee u will be and more over ur husband works over there,...........so what i hope u better encourage him to go for and make him learn swimming....... u might be knowing the only best excercie for a good health is swimming........... hope u might caught my point...........and if i hurt u sry ......take positive in what i old ......and never scold me in ur mind......k naa byeee
• United States
30 Sep 08
ka chi foo :o) Live your life in such a way that when your feet hit the floor in the morning, Satan shudders and says, "Oh no, he's awake."
• China
29 Sep 08
Your son is too young to go to a public swimming pool. You can buy a plastic air pool. It's be safe enough for a young kid.
@julianarw (1524)
• Netherlands
30 Sep 08
ok...thanks for ur response
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