Would you loan your favorite sweater or earrings to a friend ?

United States
September 29, 2008 2:17am CST
I loaned my favorite sweater to a friend one time and she kept wearing it and I never got it back. Now, when it comes to lending, I think about how important the item is to me. I ask myself if it will kill me if I don't get it back and if I can answer yes, then my answer is no. I will be honest and tell her that I don't lend anymore because I never can remember who I have given what to anymore or where it is at so I had to stop lending. I had to stop lending because I did not have anything to wear because it was all loaned out and I could not get it back. What about you? Do you lend your clothing or jewelry?
3 responses
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
oh thats a sad story, that your favorite sweater was not returned. but for me, i can still lend something to my "friend" a friend which means someone i trusted, someone i can depend on, someone who understand me, a real friend. and not just an acquaintance or a common friend. and if that friend didnt return the thing she borrowed from me, i can easily tell her that without offending each other. good luck. take care
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• United States
29 Sep 08
You are very lucky to have a friend like that. One that you can trust to take care of something that belongs to you. I don't have that kind of friend. I wish I did. Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment.
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
yeah, but before when i was younger, classmates of mine would borrow books or pocketbooks. it will take months before they returned it. but what i usually do is if a classmate borrow a book from me i will also borrow one from her. so what happens is that the borrower will return the thing she borrowed from me. hehehe
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• United States
29 Sep 08
Good idea.
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
29 Sep 08
Well, nobody would ever ask to borrow my clothing - it's so horrible even I don't like wearing it - hahahaha! However, my real love is books - and I no longer lend them out. Every time I've done this in the past, I've never seen the books again - and it makes me really mad. Once, I even approached the person and asked whether I could have my book back (in this case it was a juggling book, which came with a set of juggling balls) - but the person shrugged and said they couldn't remember what they'd done with it. The only person I lend books to now is my Mum.
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• United States
29 Sep 08
I have had the same problem with books too. After I spend money on a book I just can't loan it out for fear of not getting it back. I love my books too.
• Philippines
29 Sep 08
same here! i am now fiercely possessive of my book collections. until now, more than 15 years later, i still can't forget a three-in-one hardbound Agatha Christie book that my dad gave me and which my dorm roommate borrowed and never returned. i also lend books now only to my mom, sister and mom-in-law.
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@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
29 Sep 08
I agree with you both - and I fully understand, writermom, how you've never forgotten those books. When I was about 14 I was given a beautiful ballet book with gorgeous photographs - it had been sent from England from an old family friend. I lent it to someone (my bad), and never saw it again - and it STILL makes me sick to the stomach to think about it! Some people must have no conscience ...
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• Philippines
29 Sep 08
It depends on the person asking and what the item is. Favorite things may or not be expensive, but if they get lost, the value can't be replaced even with money. So I know how you feel about your sweater and what I would feel if that also happened to me. I have friends who are very trustworthy and return things they borrowed even without me asking for them to return the items. However, there are "friends" who are blacklisted from my borrowers list. Like a guy who borrowed my sons' very sturdy crib when his wife gave birth to their kid. It has been used by 4 kids already but it's still as good as new because it was taken well cared of in our house. Our "friend" (actually, the brother of my hubby's best friend) even asked my hubby to drive all the way to their house (for two hours!) just to drop off the crib. But four years later, when my sister needs the crib for her coming baby, I asked 3-5 times if they can give it back to us since they're no longer using it and he kept promising and promising to bring it around but he never did. Now, my niece is already 2 years old and I never saw that darn crib's shadow :(
• United States
29 Sep 08
Thank you for taking the time to leave a response. That is the way some people act when they borrow something from you and you need it back. They act like they are doing you a favor when it is your to begin with.